What’s wild about this argument too is that Bridgerton is explicitly a fantasy. You’re fine with the historically inaccurate costumes, pop covers, and racial diversity but you draw the line at a thin handsome man liking a chubby girl??? REALLY??!
fatphobia is genuinely a mind rotting agent bc wdym it’s not “plausible” that the “fat girl win the prince” first of all ur a loser.
second, this narrative that fat women must to be exceptional to “earn” the attention of a man is not only fatphobic/misogynistic but delusional—
Fatphobia says, “it is every individual’s responsibility and duty to shape their body into the proper aesthetic. If you fail to do this for any reason, it is evidence of your immorality and you deserve whatever happens to you as a result.”
This is a right-wing mentality.
I was just reading a journal article where they described a public health ad where two people wore TIRES AROUND THEIR WAIST and they bounced off each other when they tried to have sex. Idk who needs to hear this but FAT SQUISHES
People who are on Ozempic keep saying “I never think about or want food anymore! Is this what it’s like to have a normal relationship to food?” NO. It is normal to want food. It is normal to enjoy food. YOU WOULD DIE WITHOUT FOOD.
And also, even if that wasn’t the case, there ARE sex positions where you’re not fully lying on top of each other like parallel lines…and if that’s the only position you can imagine I think maybe you are the one who isn’t having sex lmao
Women with PCOS and hormonal imbalances, listen up. Trans issues impact us too and we must vote accordingly. This exposes transphobia as the utter farce that it is. Sex isn’t biologically binary, so it is absurd to act like gender is.
IMANE KHELIF IS NOT A MAN AND DID NOT “FAIL A GENDER TEST.”
her body naturally produces more testosterone and that’s a thing that happens with MANY c¡s women
This one’s for all the girlies who were not fully plus size but noticeably bigger than all their peers in high school and then got actually fat later in life because turns out they were only that size as teens because of extreme dieting and being terrified of food✨
As a fat person who spent years restricting and dieting, there is nothing more infuriating than the assumption that all fat people have “food addictions.”
they finally gave me metformin but said it was “to help me lose weight” as if the reason it could potentially cause weight loss isn’t TREATING PCOS ????
It’s wild to me that pretty much every person we ever see get presented as sexy or attractive in media has been thin and yet people don’t think that could have any impact on who they end up wanting to date in real life??? What????
We have this idea in our culture that wanting to eat and enjoying eating is abnormal, wrong, or even some sort of mental illness. We have pathologized the desire for food, something we need to survive. It’s absurd.
Ok we have to talk about the “fat girls are better at blowjobs” cliche. This comes from the most insidious and gross stereotypes about fat women and yet it’s often framed as a compliment. CRASS THREAD TO FOLLOW 🧵⬇️⬇️⬇️
Thin people feel so entitled to being more successful than their fat counterparts. That’s why they can’t handle it when a fat person is in a relationship and they’re single. It’s literally like, “but I’m supposed to be better than you. You can’t have something I don’t!!”
Anyway I am writing a related dissertation and will be sharing more so follow along if this also makes you angry xoxo (I also have a podcast on the same topic: has links to it all!)
The skirt belly pic discourse is interesting because we’ve come so far since the early ‘00s in that most of the comments are defending the girl, but sooo many of those “positive” comments are like “she’s not even fat” and “it’s okay to have a *little bit* of belly” 🫠
This is exactly what we need more of on the internet but fat people (understandably) won’t post it as much because this comment section is what happens when they do.
I actually can’t begin to describe how damaging it was to repeatedly be told “SOME freak out there will love you!” as a fat child and person, by people who would never ever ever ever ever ever be caught dead dating a fat person
What is an opinion about film that gets this reaction?
Mine: Stop making live action remakes of animated film and TV. Let animation stand alone and be praised for its craft.
The fact that people think fat people don’t deserve to be protected from employment discrimination because some people can get thinner??? Unhinged, sorry!
I’ve seen a lot of people who’ve lost weight complain about how their fat friends treat them differently or stop talking to them after their weight loss. As a fat person who has been on the other side of this, let me explain.
It’s crazy how people will say “everyone prefers a thin/muscular partner because having that body means they’re disciplined and moral” because like…THAT is the
#1
quality you look for in a partner? Over kind, funny, or smart?? Really??
We have got to talk about this “fatness as a chronic lifelong disease that should be treated like any other” framing that’s been popping up since new weight loss drugs came on the market. It pretends to be more compassionate to fat people but it’s still WILDLY stigmatizing.
Platforming thin, conventionally attractive people in conversations about body size discrimination always reminds me that for a lot of thin people, the worst consequence of fatphobia they can imagine is someone who is not fat being told they’re too fat.
How many times have I caught myself thinking “I shouldn’t be this hungry, why am I so hungry?” As if something was wrong with me for wanting to eat, or God forbid, wanting to eat food that tastes good!
Which, by the way, I will never understand the shaming around. Eating for pleasure sometimes is normal. Choosing foods you enjoy is normal. A lot of people believe they shouldn’t eat for pleasure, but they’re just fine doing lots of other things purely because they enjoy it.
Taylor Swift’s Anti-Hero music video has been changed to eliminate the shot of the scale saying “fat.” In its place is the self-destructive Taylor (the one in red) shaking her head at the scale, which is out of frame. Let’s talk about why this was changed and what it means.
I’m devastated for fat people right now. So many people are already using this as an excuse to make shitty jokes about us and I fear it will also be justification for shutting us out of the entertainment industry.
If you travel, drink or do drugs, or have sex for pleasure but believe all food should be “fuel,” consider whether you’re just really afraid of gaining weight and/or need to believe fat people deserve poor treatment because “they brought it on themselves.”
Diet companies don’t bother selling you weight loss anymore because they don’t have to. Instead, they sell health, beauty, and happiness, because they know you already believe those things are synonymous with thinness. That work has been done for them.
When they say “promoting obesity,” they don’t really mean promoting. They mean presenting fatness as anything but the worst case scenario that makes life completely miserable, and fat people as anything but pitiable punching bags.
So upsetting. Fatsuits seem to be a real trend in Hollywood right now, but in a different way than they used to be. In the aughts, they were a comic gag. Now they’re a gimmick for famous actor “transformation” in the most prestigious projects.
When Americans complain about how fat people existing means they have to pay more for our healthcare, it’s like....we...have...privatized health insurance in this country???? Like do you think all fat people are on Medicaid??
Anyone who is fat, in ed recovery, and/or just doesn’t participate in diet culture knows you’re about to be slapped in the face with it at any large gathering like a wedding or reunion. So I have made this diet culture drinking game to get you through!!
I wish fat women ending up with fat partners in media wasn’t always portrayed as “settling.” The trope that everything fat positive includes a thin partner as the happy ending is also rooted in fatphobia!
and extra shoutout to those who blamed and shamed themselves for wearing a size large but are now wearing plus sizes and are happier with themselves and more at peace than ever before✨
When people say “it would be easier to just lose weight instead of fighting fatphobia,” what they mean is they can’t imagine I could be talking about fat issues for any reason other than my own personal gain.
to be clear, i don’t care if you do! it’s unhealthy yeah but i assume you already know that if you don’t live under a rock and your choices are none of my business anyway!
If we add in the ideal of temperance and self-denial that is almost always tied into this, it also becomes a religious mentality.
If we add an explicit mandate to shape your body in this way, it becomes a fascist mentality.
If y’all really think being fat is 100% individual choice, why not just…let people make that choice? Why is what they decide to do with their body any of your damn business?
when someone says “fatphobia isn’t real discrimination because fat people did this to themselves” meaning they believe fat people are so disgusting and terrible that they deserve to be forced to lose weight in order to access things like basic medical care and airplanes …..
We have got to talk about the trope of being forced to engage romantically or sexually with a plus size person. In so much media, just having a fat person ask you out is presented as literal HORROR.
But being hungry and wanting food is completely normal and has no morality attached. Pathologizing that is not only weirdly puritanical but literally dangerous.
Feeling LIBERATED from your hunger cues is not normal. Does anyone remember the pills from The Giver that take away your sex drive? It’s like that. Sure, use Ozempic for medical reasons, but being hungry is not a disease.
That’s like the only thing on that list that actually IS historically accurate too lmfao. And it literally happens every day irl but somehow people don’t see it
even bigger shoutout to people who were fat the whole time and had to endure their size large friends complaining about how huge they were because they couldn’t understand that they still had thin privilege even though they experienced fatphobia✨
I will say I don’t compliment weight loss because you never know what really caused it, even if the person views it as a good thing and is showing it off. You might be encouraging an eating disorder. I treat weight as neutral on principle (to the extent that that is possible).
As a fat person, is obvious to me that this moralization underlies nearly all fatphobia - and ties right back into religion, bootstraps capitalism, and anti blackness.
Okay so this is what I mean when I say positive media representation can literally change who people are attracted to - and can certainly also change who they respect and view as worthy of love even if their personal preferences don’t change!
just in shock that THIS is my most popular tweet of all time…i, a famous prude who would never dream of disclosing the details of my fat sex life…and while i am actively writing a dissertation that critiques overly sexual representations of fat people no less. the irony!!!
Leftists do not believe these things. If you claim to be anywhere left of center, but especially if you claim to be a communist/socialist/collectivist, fatphobia is in direct opposition to your ideals and beliefs.
@fatfabfeminist
Well, she did lose a lot of weight which according to her was so she could be eligible for more roles. Really sad that had to happen for her to have the career she does, but she’s been absolutely wonderful about it and rarely talks about it unless asked.
Let’s be really careful when we talk about mandates to “get fit for the revolution” or mock the appearances of people we don’t agree with. You are not living your values when you do that, and I guarantee a lot of people who share those values also look like who you’re mocking.
Going from theatre acting to voice acting was truly a mindfuck. After having to fight for the smallest theatrical opportunities for years and coming to the conclusion that I just wasn’t very talented, I had IMMEDIATE success as soon as my body was taken out of the equation
It’s actually really concerning to me how much people talk about friendships with the language of work. It’s like we’re so deep into late stage capitalism that all personal relationships are viewed as transactions
It’s actually fine to get hungry and enjoy food! That’s not necessarily a disease you need Ozempic to treat! In fact it’s actually not normal to feel totally disinterested in something you need to survive 🫢
Amazing how being a smaller fat person will shield you from so much of the grossest fatphobia. But the minute someone larger (superfat/infinifat) is mentioned as being worthy of literal basic dignity, people show their asses
But here’s the thing about your friend who has recently lost weight vs. your friend who is naturally thin and gorgeous: FRIEND
#1
WON’T SHUT UP ABOUT IT.
Tell me about a common historical myth that makes your hackles rise. I don't mean actual disinformation like Holocaust denial; I mean stuff like "Napoleon was short!"
For me it's probably "corsets were torture devices for the rich" and "romantic love is a very modern concept."
I know people are gonna come here and say “but what if I can’t stop eating even when I’m not hungry?” And I’m not talking about those people. Maybe you use food as a coping mechanism, and that’s a different thing that you can address in therapy or however you choose to.
But I never see y’all, say, advocating for healthier school lunches or lower grocery prices. Nope, you just want to laugh at the people you think are below you because it demands nothing from you and makes you feel superior.
it’s just crazy how the size that I was SO ashamed of was actually only achievable through the disordered eating I was doing to try to get to a way smaller size 😵💫
If you truly want a large-scale collective or “revolution,” you actually need people with less-than-ideally-thin bodies on your team because IN AMERICA THAT IS MOST PEOPLE.
@Artists_Ali
I had a friend whose mom wouldn’t let her read the books because she didn’t like that they called dudley fat. I mean it didn’t come from a place of fat liberation but it was telling that she picked up on how harmful that was
Thin people love to make art about exploring their eating disorders and body dysmorphia without considering how many people will see it who already are *the thing they’re trying not to become* (even when those people make up 70% of the US population)