Red Bird Ministries is a peer-to-peer Catholic grief support ministry that accompanies ordinary families who have been given the extraordinary cross of child loss (at any age).

Husband told me not to buy a grow light because “we have too much junk in the house.” So I bought the grow light and a warming mat for under the seedling tray. For SCIENCE.

@mclovesbooks That’s so hard and frustrating and guilt-inducing. But no matter what, you and your husband are the only ones who know what the right choice is for your family. It isn’t up to anyone else. You’re doing a good job. I hope tomorrow is better. I hope your week is peaceful.

You guys are awesome. So many lovely, beautiful suggestions of things to do with my 2nd grader were provided on this post. We went to the library. Then to the hardware store (to buy seedling trays, seeds, soil, etc). And then out to lunch. We planted the seeds when we got home.

Okay but what if I made tacos AND washed the dishes!?

@FullAsMuchHeart I feel like you have to be an emotional teenager to really appreciate it. The first time I read it I was exactly that and thought it was everything. Reread it as an adult and was horrified that I liked the characters. They’re both miserable people.

@HenriRoi98 I pray you never know, either. It’s something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. I believe in attachment theory, and it explains a lot of my kids’ behaviors right now. Both my husband and I have been so overloaded by grief that we haven’t been fully present like we used to be.

@HenriRoi98 I started reading it but didn’t get far because it was phony. A lot of fluff when they could have just written an essay.

@QueSeraSeraC @charjahar If you read my original post, you’d know that “I’m looking for ideas for quality time activities for good memories.” At no point did I say I was wondering why she was being difficult.

@charjahar I’ve been barely functional since my daughter’s death 8 months ago, so if you’re trying to suggest that I drop everything and start homeschooling you’re barking up the wrong tree. Is this comment supposed to add more guilt and stress to my life? Or was there another purpose?

She’s 6 feet underground and every time the ground freezes her body freezes too. On the milestones and anniversaries the horror and pain of it all settles in and it’s all I can do to try to remember to eat. Yesterday was hard. I survived. And next month I’ll do it again.

@iWomansplainer We do insist on pinkies up when we drink anything.

@keplerswitch Where is this?

8 months.

@delawarensiss I wouldn’t have thought of writing letters to them in the first place so maybe there’s hope?

@delawarensiss Uh… yeah. Not great at all. How do you gain their trust?

@keplerswitch Wow that’s super annoying! Maybe God will do a loaves and fishes miracle.