Don't make yourself small for anyone. Be the awkward, funny, intelligent, beautiful little weirdo that you are. Don't hold back. Weird it out. Be the glitch.
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If someone is falling behind in life, you don't have to remind them. Believe me, they already know. If someone is unhealthy, they know. If someone is struggling in their relationships, with money, with self-image, they know.
READ IT AND LET IT SINK IN
Every relationship will get " boring" after you've been together for years. Love isn't a feeling it's a commitment to love every day, physically and emotionally. It's difficult, it's not always laughs, smiles, and fun.
LISTEN...
The saddest end to a relationship is one where you have to break up with somebody when you're still in love with them. It sounds blizzard but it happens, because the truth is, as powerful and as thrilling and as wonderful as it may be, love isn't always enough
I respect a person who knows their energy is off and keeps their distance because they don't want to transfer it onto you. I don't think some people understand how real that is.
ALL WOMEN NEED TO READ THIS
When a man is truly interested in you, there will be no need for you to do the pursuing. Men are born to pursue women. Yes, you can pursue a man if you want to, but in most cases that's just an obvious sign that he's not into you.
I love seeing couples who are actual best friends w/ each other. Not a relationship based solely on duty & societal expectations but one based on mutual understanding, laughter, shared experiences, shared interests & more. I genuinely think these are the happiest relationships.
I saw a post today that said " when you finally learn your place in peoples lives, your feelings won't get hurt" . I swear that's the truth and one of the most important life lessons you'll learn. Whether it's friends, family or whoever.
It's what consumes their thoughts each day. What you need to do for those who are struggling is not to reprimand, but to encourage. Tell them what's good about their lives, and show them the potential that you see. Love them where they are.
I respect a person who knows their energy is off and keeps their distance because they don't want to transfer it onto you. I don't think people understand how real that is.
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Sometimes you're unsatisfied with your life, while many people in this world are dreaming of living your life... A child on a farm sees a plane fly overhead and dreams of flying. But, the pilot on the plane sees the farmhouse and dreams of returning home.
You are someone's favorite person. The way you laugh. Your kind heart. Your sense of humor. The way you make problems melt away with a loving hug or a shoulder to cry on. And it's tough to remember that sometimes. But it is true. You are appreciated for simply being you.
You are someone's favorite person. The way you laugh. Your kind heart. Your sense of humor. The way you make problems melt away with a loving hug or a shoulder to cry on. And it's tough to remember that sometimes. But it is true. You are appreciated for simply being you.
Everybody is shocked when you start being real serious about your boundaries like yeah surprise, I'm not a people pleaser anymore so let's see how cool we really are.
When we can't see clearly for ourselves, we need others to speak greatness over us. People don't need you to tell them what is wrong with their lives, they already know. They need you to reassure them they can still make it right.
I'M NOT DESPERATE FOR A RELATIONSHIP, BUT.
I do miss the feeling of having someone that can make me smile and feel appreciated. Someone that will make calling and texting me the first and last thing they do every day.
LET ME BE CLEAR...
If you are dating someone try and find out how that person was raised. A lot of people weren't raised in love. They were raised on survival. That's why you see so many men/women not being able to love properly ( hurting people).
Nobody tells you how hard it is to rewire your brain so you can allow amazing things to happen to you after so much trauma or hurt. Blessings exist, good people exist, and a safer life exists. Let it happen.
Nobody tells you how hard it is to rewire your brain so you can allow amazing things to happen to you after so much trauma or hurt. Blessings exist, good people exist, and a safer life exists. Let it happen.
Life changes. You lose love. You lose friends. You lose pieces of yourself that you never imagined would be gone. And then, without you even realizing it,these pieces come back. New loves to enter.Better friends come along.And a stronger, wiser you are staring back in the mirror.
I love seeing couples who are actual best friends w/ each other. Not a relationship based solely on duty & societal expectations but one based on mutual understanding, laughter, shared experiences, shared interests & more. I genuinely think these are the happiest relationships.
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I'm slowly learning that even if I react, it won't change anything, it won't make people suddenly love and respect me, it won't magically change their minds.
Some people don't love you, they just want to stay connected to you. The love, the benefits... so they do the minimal... a little phone call here and there just checking about you. What they are doing is maintaining a connection, so when they need you... they still have a way in.
I saw a post today that said " when you finally learn your place in peoples lives, your feelings won't get hurt" . I swear that's the truth and one of the most important life lessons you'll learn. Whether it's friends, family or whoever.
Some people don't love you, they just want to stay connected to you. The love, the benefits... so they do the minimal... a little phone call here and there just checking about you. What they are doing is maintaining a connection, so when they need you... they still have a way in.
HOW TO KEEP A RELATIONSHIP:
Communicate: talk about things, the good and bad. Build trusts. Be honest. Be faithful. Be there for one another. Leave the past to the past. Know that having arguments are normal.
Never disrespect your gut instinct. You are not paranoid. Your body can pick up on bad vibrations. If something deep inside you says something is not right about a person or situation, trust it.
You are someone's favorite person. The way you laugh. Your kind heart. Your sense of humor. The way you make problems melt away with a loving hug or a shoulder to cry on. And it's tough to remember that sometimes. But it is true. You are appreciated for simply being you.
As you get older, you realize that you're not always right and there are so many things you could've handled better, so many situations where you could've been kinder and all you can do is forgive yourself and let your mistakes make you a better person.
I respect a person who knows their energy is off and keeps their distance because they don't want to transfer it onto you. I don't think some people understand how real that is.
WORTH READING...!!!!!!!
Sometimes you're unsatisfied with your life, while many people in this world are dreaming of living your life... A child on a farm sees a plane fly overhead and dreams of flying. But, the pilot on the plane sees the farmhouse and dreams of returning home.
The biggest lesson I learned this year is to not force anything; conversations, friendships, relationships, attention, love. Anything forced is just not worth fighting for. Whatever flows flows, what crashes crashes. It is what it is.
It's very rare to find someone that genuinely cares about you, that wants to see you achieve all of your goals, that's wants to help you grow as a person, and be by your side every step of the way. If you have that type of person never let them go, it's really rare to find.
People tend to quit when it stops being fun and they go look for someone else, because " the spark is gone". No, that's not how it works. If you want somebody to never give up on you, and love you unconditionally then do the same. Be the change.
When someone doesn't like you, they team up with another person who doesn't like you. And before you know it, there's a group of people who hate you. The funny thing is that they don't even like each other, but they are gathered just because of you.
I didn't grow up having role models. I grew up having people I didn't want to be like and seeing situations I'd never want to be in. Not all of us are dealt the right cards, but that doesn't mean you can't reshuffle your deck for a better outcome.
Remember, most of your stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is. Change how you see things. Look for the goal in all situations. Take the lesson and find new opportunities to grow. Let all the extra stress, worrying, and overthinking go.
I like being alone. I have control over my shit. Therefore, to win me over, your presence has to feel better than my solitude. You're not competing with another person, you're competing with my comfort zones.
The truth is,
It doesn't matter how tightly you hold on to certain people, because at the end of the day, what is meant for you will always be yours. Trust me when I say, the right people will choose you just as deeply as you choose them.
and to be in love doesn't always mean you're happy. You can continue to love someone even after they've hurt you, but you know deep inside yourself that it won't ever be the same again.
I didn't grow up having role models. I grew up having people I didn't want to be like and seeing situations I'd never want to be in. Not all of us are dealt the right cards, but that doesn't mean you can't reshuffle your deck for a better outcome.
I saw a post today that said " when you finally learn your place in peoples lives, your feelings won't get hurt" . I swear that's the truth and one of the most important life lessons you'll learn. Whether it's friends, family or whoever.
Start now. start where you are. Start with fear. Start with pain. Start with doubt. Start with handshaking. Start with voice trembling but start. Start and don't stop. Start where you are, with what you have. Just... Start.
I am no longer apologizing for being me. Yes, I'm confrontational. Yes, I'm bluntly honest. Yes, if you disrespect me, I will politely disrespect you. I am so sick and tired of molding my personality for the sake of other people's feelings when they have disregard for my own.
This isn't Hollywood, this isn't the movies. That sh*t isn't real. Love someone when you don't want to. When they aren't the easiest to deal with. When they're hard to love. That's the realist sh*t there is.
Some people don't love you, they just want to stay connected to you. The love, the benefits... so they do the minimal... a little phone call here and there just checking about you. What they are doing is maintaining a connection, so when they need you... they still have a way in.
Karma comes after everyone eventually. You can't get away with screwing people over your whole life. I don't care who you are. What goes around comes around. That's how it works. Sooner or later the universe will serve you the revenge that you deserve.
The truth is,
It doesn't matter how tightly you hold on to certain people, because at the end of the day, what is meant for you will always be yours. Trust me when I say, the right people will choose you just as deeply as you choose them.
One thing I realized is that everything always ends up working out. Sometimes even better than you can imagine. Remember this when you feel like you're in a hard place or you feel like you're being challenged the most. Believe in where you're headed. See the bigger picture.
When someone you care about does you dirty, it hurts. But what hurts even more is when you have a bad gut feeling about them, but trust them & give them the benefit of the doubt anyway, & your gut ends up being right. That sh*t feels like they ripped your heart out.
Believe in yourself. Have a bulletproof mind. Don't seek validation. There's nothing to prove to others. Know yourself. People will always have an opinion. Laugh it off, pay it no mind, and certainly don't get provoked. Stand by what you believe in. Don't fold.
None of us are getting out of here alive, so please stop treating yourself like an afterthought. Eat delicious food. Walk in the sunshine. Say the truth that you're carrying in your heart like a hidden treasure. Be silly. Be kind. Be weird. There's no time for anything else.
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Sometimes you and someone else were only meant to share a moment. Sometimes friendships and relationships are not built to last forever, they are built to teach you a lesson.
The older I got, the more I realize the value of privacy, of cultivating your circle and only letting certain people in. You can be open, honest, and real while still understanding not everyone deserves a seat at the table of your life.
Karma comes after everyone eventually. You can't get away with screwing people over your whole life. I don't care who you are. What goes around comes around. That's how it works. Sooner or later the universe will serve you the revenge that you deserve.
Admit it. You got a dope soul. Stop regretting being a caring person. Whoever got to experience you, needed your light at that time. You stay kind and committed to your love. Don't you dare doubt your worth or the beauty of your truth. Just keep on shining as you do.
Admit it. You got a dope soul. Stop regretting being a caring person. Whoever got to experience you, needed your light at that time. You stay kind and committed to your love. Don't you dare doubt your worth or the beauty of your truth. Just keep on shining as you do.
I am no longer apologizing for being me. Yes, I'm confrontational. Yes, I'm bluntly honest. Yes, if you disrespect me, I will politely disrespect you. I am so sick and tired of molding my personality for the sake of other people's feelings when they have disregard for my own.
I have no desire to fit in. No plans to walk with the crowd. I have my mind, heart, and soul. I am ME and it has taken me years to realize how important that is.
I stopped sending paragraphs, stopped begging, stopped telling people how to treat me, and started walking away, blocking and distancing myself. Life may be lonely, but it's becoming peaceful. Sometimes being alone in life is better than being surrounded by half-ass people.
When someone is gentle, and soft and respects you consistently, that's when your nervous system starts healing. That's why some women ( men) have that special glow when they're being loved right in a relationship. It's not the love, it's not the good sex. It's emotional safety.