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Survivor of narcissistic abuse | Author of "What Type Of Man?" | Highlighting legal gaps for women | Fighting a defamation case in Spain | Advocate for change
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POST-SEPARATION LEGAL CONFLICT vs ALTERNATIVE DISPUTE RESOLUTION
Anyone who decides to use the Justice System to resolve a conflict in separation or divorce must have deep pockets.
There are other ways to manage and resolve the conflict.
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@VanessaBrownCan
There are 5 or 6 officers
She is a lone female.
All it needed was 2 officers and a knock at the door.
@SurreyPolice
@surreylive
The woman is in court tomorrow is this connected? Do the police have a warrant or is this just for questioning?
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What is narcissistic abuse by proxy? Narcissists are masters of the art of abuse by proxy. They will often use their friends, family, or even strangers to abuse their victims on their behalf.
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Betrayal, a form of emotional abuse, can cause PTSD. Symptoms such as flashbacks, nightmares & impaired sleeping, depression, anxiety, brain fog, distrust, dissociation, are common. Betrayed partners often feel as if their reality has been shaken to its core.
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@labourpress
@jeremycorbyn
What about the vandalism of the Bullingdon Club? They got away with trashing restaurants because they were wealthy elite students. Replace these with Jamaican students from an ordinary University and the police would have been involved in a flash.
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I just found this and had to share it here. All of these are the hidden emotional and psychological abuse.
That can continue post separation.
He hit her with Legal Conflict
He hit her with threats of leaving her financially devastated.
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This article just lifts the lid on how "violent men" can be seen as "kind, gentle, caring" by colleagues, friends, and acquaintances.
When the truth is they were "psychopaths" capable of murder.🚩😱
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.Many victims of emotional & psychological abuse in intimate relationships do not realise it's domestic abuse until after the relationship has ended... recognised by the CPS lead for domestic abuse
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Compassion. The caring nature of the empath.
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Who understands this?
When being alone is better than having conversations with people who trigger you
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Has anyone experienced narcissistic rage when trying to have a discussion???
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I started reading this book by
@JMoncktonSmith
It really gives a lot of insight into how coercive control & the hidden forms of psychological abuse leaves victims unprotected.
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This is the first time I have seen the Power and Control Wheel compared to a Non-Abusive Partner.
A relationship based on equality, trust and support, not on that minimises denies and blames, isolates and uses emotional abuse.
Very useful info website
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Why you should never be silent?
Do not remain silent when facing injustice and abuse but “speak truth to power.” We have a duty to speak up. Remaining silent also can represent a risk.
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@DrProudman
🤣🤣 imagine the headline
"Missing man had problems in his marriage due to erectile dysfunction."
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The Tory Government are destroying the welfare system before your eyes.
Tory MP Esther McVey says she’s part of a “COMPASSIONATE CONSERVATIVE GOVERNMENT!” Let’s put the record straight on that!
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⚠️ female victims who present as "hysterical" or angry — or who retaliate or defend themselves — are too often being misjudged as the "primary aggressor", 👇🏻
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Punishment is a classic part of
#narcissistic
relationships. They punish you if they think you criticize them, if you express a need, if you question inappropriate behaviour,or give them feedback.
In a
#narcissistic
#abusive
relationship there is always a punishment waiting..
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October is Domestic Violence awareness. Women are silenced in many ways, not reporting DV when there are no bruises, no scars. Legal professionals who say, "its difficult to prove emotional abuse"
When you dare to speak or write about abuse you suffered you risk being sued.
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Abusiveness is driven almost entirely by a man’s belief that controlling and punishing a woman is justifiable, and that his behavior is normal and can be excused.
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Do women who date a married man or a guy in a relationship have low self-esteem or do they get the thrill of winning?
I say "if he cheats FOR you, he will cheat ON you"
And "if he was a serial adulterer in his longest marriage he will never make a faithful partner or spouse"
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@Serena_Partrick
I watched the video footage just before that happened. Things got pretty scary. Luckily she was able to get out of the protest unscathed just very shaken.
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Emotional Abuse.
Is a consistent pattern of abusive words & bullying behaviors that wear down a person's self-esteem & undermine their mental health.
1. The underlying goal of emotional abuse is to control the other person by discrediting, isolating, & silencing them.
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When you have been blamed. When you have been told you are the problem, you were disrespectful, you lack empathy, when the reality was it was the other person that was disrespectful, lacking empathy, they were toxic, a bully and abusive.
#powerandcontrol
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They want to win at all costs.
It doesn't matter that they destroy you in the process.
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Why do so many women end up never actually leaving?
The answer is, she's not in a relationship where she is free to exercise that level of autonomy and choice. In what can be described a form of adult-grooming, she's been coerced into an abusive, controlling relationship of
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What does emotional abuse do to a woman?
Staying in an emotionally or verbally abusive relationship can have long-lasting effects on your physical and mental health, including leading to chronic pain, depression, or anxiety.
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People who respond in anger and rage when you raise something they have done to hurt you or put you in a place of fear.
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When our bodies are in constant
state of stress through trauma from abuse, fears, legal conflicts, court cases, burnout can happen.
Take care of yourself.
#recovery
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What is coercive control?
Domestic abuse isn’t always physical.
Read the article from WomensAid 👇👇👇
.
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How many can say this is true?
👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
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💔 my youngest daughter, how I remember her as a happy carefree child 💔 she was just 38 years. She was happy in her world writing fiction and publishing online. She never used her real name and preferred not to post images of herself. Gone too soon. I'm numb.
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@munsy_uk
@eveibraham1
@DavidLammy
Personally I would like to see the criminal in number 10 Downing Street deported.
#CorruptGovernment
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."TRAUMA is a wound. Trauma is not what happens to you, trauma is what happens inside of you as a result of what happens to you." Dr Gabor Mate.
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Do any of these 🚩🚩 fit in your relationship? ⚠️
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And Family Courts and the Justice System ignores the real victims of domestic abuse. While allowing the offender to repeatedly (ab)use the courts to cause untold damage to survivors.
#DARVO
#legalabuse
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This is from a website with a lot of research on Coercive Control and post-separation control.
Domestic violence is a factor in up to one-quarter of female suicide attempts, and eight times the risk for suicide compared to the general population.
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First they tell you, they are in control, you do as they say.
Then they threaten you with legal repercussions. Then the take legal action against you.
And fabricate the statements in the court documents.
#legalabuse
#financialabuse
#emotionalabuse
#DVAM2023
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How To Spot The Signs Of Coercive Control
While the number of prosecutions for these offences has continued to rise since this legislation came into force, many victims still do not recognise the torment they are experiencing could be a crime.
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Did you know? Denmark, Spain, France, Hungary and Ireland have implemented specific criminal offences for psychological violence or coercive control. And only Denmark and Ireland use the language of coercive control in legislation. Jul 14, 2022
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@ItCorbyn
@JFCWindmill
@BBCNews
Or that Carrie is an unmarried mum living in a property supported by the taxpayers of the UK.
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When the one you loved wants to destroy your life.
#narcissisticabuse
#psychological
#emotional
#financial
#verbal
#sexual
#sadistic
#Abuseofpower
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If only 🥴 now perhaps the politicians will take notice of the people. Strong campaigns against Brexit gathered pace at the end of 2018 a huge March in London, 6 million sign
#RevokeArticle50
petition, & another London March in 2019.
Next up
#EUElection2019
No getting away from it - a poor set of results for Labour round here & I feel for our unsuccessful candidates. But losses to different parties across city tells us this isn’t a simple Brexit story
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Listen empathetically. It will have taken a lot for her to talk to you. Victims are much more likely to cover up or downplay abuse, than to make it up or exaggerate. It takes courage to speak up.
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How does a victim of emotional &
#psychologicalabuse
provide evidence? I mean it usually happens behind closed doors. The Heard vs Depp case had recorded incidents. How many victims have turned on cameras or recording devices to capture abuse?
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How do you move on from trauma?
He writes ✍🏻 telling you to “treat him with respect” when he has been disrespectful and trampled all over you and your emotional wellbeing.
Should you stay silent, forgive and forget, or raise awareness and share what you have learned!
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OMG! only 14% of women make a report. That means there are a lots of men who are not reported or held to account for the damage they cause.
And walk free to cause even more damage. Think about that for a minute.
#WhyIDidntReport
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@DrProudman
They were vulnerable, young, impressionable females who were targeted to be manipulated, used and abused by the wealthy and the powerful... Escorts know what they are doing and charge accordingly, full stop.
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What Type Of Man? Betrayal Abandonment, Post Separation Abuse.
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Yhe Power and Control Wheel compared to a Non-Abusive Partner.
A relationship based on equality, trust and support, not on one that minimises, denies and blames, isolates and uses emotional abuse.
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.Most domestic and family violence is NOT physical.. Learn about coercive control and psychological abuse.. By Clare Murphy PHD
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. This is the most comprehensive information that I have found that describes the situation of
#coercivecontrol
and
#postseparationabuse
that women can experience.
The
#hiddenabuse
in relationships. It comes from research via
@engenderequal
- there is a focus on mothers.
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@beckinsale_sam
The punishment never seems to got the crime. This woman has suffered life altering damage, inflicted by the person that she depended.
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. Sad facts of Domestic violence and abuse. The other is people who experience DV are more likely to suffer a mental health condition as a result of the abuse. That includes all forms, physical, emotional, verbal, financial and sexual.
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@DrEliDavid
@AutonomyHotline
I lost my daughter last month. I was told she had a Covid booster vaccine a few days before. Police reported that neighbours heard her coughing alot before she was found dead in her flat.
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.Ah so the PM himself nor anyone else is willling to sign witness statements that may lead to claims of perjury.
Lord Pannick explains that, once again, neither the Prime Minister, nor anyone involved in the decision to prorogue parliament for such an extended period of time, is willing - some would say no one is stupid enough - to put their name to a witness statement put before the UKSC.
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"All around us, every single day, human beings devoid of empathy are wreaking havoc and destroying lives in the coldest, most heartless ways imaginable. In constant pursuit of money, sex, influence, or simple entertainment, psychopaths will do whatever it takes to gain power ...
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Difficulties lie in being or becoming "financially dependent" in a relationship. Money can be used as a weapon of control or stick to beat you with when they see fit..
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What is DARVO in narcissism?
"DARVO is an acronym for Deny, Attack, Reverse, Victim and Offender. It is a defense mechanism used by manipulators to evade accountability for the abuse they inflict on others. A blame-shifting tactic used in the context of emotional abuse."
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@DrProudman
“Living in the shadow” what sort of 💩 is this? If a man can not be proud of his wife or partner and their achievements then he needs help. The gender roles should not apply anymore. Each person in a relationship needs to be supportive of the other and not devalue or degrade.
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Post separation abuse is a serious issue that affects countless women, and current laws often do little to help. My new book discusses the realities of this type of abuse and the urgent need for legal reform.
#postseparationabuse
#women
#lawyer
#abusebyproxy
See my 🔗🌳
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@DrProudman
Spanish custom is 2 kisses one on each cheek. You can see he put both his hands on the back of her head to kiss her on the lips. Looks forceful to be honest.
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Expect violent rage if you damage their ego.
Zero empathy, lacking in morals.
They will want to win at all costs.
They will start legal conflicts.
Move the goalposts constantly
They are unreasonable
You will not be able to negotiate with them without legal backing.
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This is how the narcissist thinks: “How dare you try to stand up to me or not agree with me or not want me no matter what I did to you!”
#narcissisticabuse
#emotionalabuse
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What is DARVO in narcissism?
DARVO an acronym for Deny, Attack, Reverse, Victim & Offender. A defense mechanism used by manipulators to evade accountability for the abuse they inflict on others. It is a blame-shifting tactic used for gaslighting in the context of emotional abuse
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Suicide Facts
Domestic Violence is a factor in up to one-quarter of female suicide attempts. Female victims of domestic violence have eight times the risk for suicide compared with the general population.
Criminal Justice Research 🧵
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When you attract a new relationship into your life, they show up as the "nice person" ⚠️ beware of 🚩🚩
Do not accept any form of bad behaviour, do not make excuses for the things they say & do.
You owe it to yourself to set very firm boundaries from day 1.
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This allows them to avoid detection and maintain a position of power
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@PeterStefanovi2
Yes people deserve to know the facts, thank you for your excellent reporting. 👍👌
If you agree it’s outrageous for BBC1 to report broken pledges by the Government as promises broken by the “NHS” please RT & make sure as many people as possible know the Truth
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And I said in my book, women are caught between a rock and a hard place. it’s re victimisation. It is the same as being in a TOXIC relationship whatever you do, you can’t win.
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How may trauma survivors get through their situation with no help?
The best minds in mental health aren't the docs.
They're the trauma survivors who have had to figure out how to stay alive for years with virtually no help.
Wanna learn how to psychologically survive under unfathomable stress? Talk to abuse survivors.
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Trapped negative emotions will destroy you eventually.
It's called dis-ease.
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Has anyone suffered from being stripped of their sense of self? I call this "hidden emotional and psychological abuse" in relationships. You either don't know it is happening or you ignore it or make excuses.
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This fits with how I explained the hidden emotional abuse. He loves me. He loves me not. And after an anger outburst where you get this sick sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach. I said I want a man not a monster.
#traumabonds
#abusesurvivor
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@labourpress
@jeremycorbyn
“People talk about the Bullingdon Club ‘trashing’ places, but it was serious criminal damage.”
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Hidden emotional abuse. Controlling people often disguise abusive behaviour as harmless and blame their partners for the strife in their relationship.
No physical bruises, scars, or blood, but the pain is real.
#emotionalabuse
#psychologicalabuse
#abusesurvivor
#abuserecovery
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These are the people who care about the UK. These are the people that want to protect your rights and there families and children’s rights. They want a prosperous strong UK.
#PeopleVoteMarch
#PVKeyboardWarriors
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Even the professionals victim blame and the targets of narcissistic abuse are retraumatised by a broken system when they step forward to report. Or seek legal advice or even when they try therapy.
#healingJourney
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"Post Separation Abuse, Betrayal & Abandonment, What Type Of Man?"
Oh yes, he did this, introduced to the new supply before he even left Spain for the UK. He was engaged after 6 weeks and married within 7 months.
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Have any of these happened to you? Do we call this
#legalabuse
or Law Firms who take advantage of people with
#money
to spend on trying to destroy another human life.
This should not happen. How many more real victims have to have their lives
#devastated
?
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Crowd justice and
@GoodLawProject
helping to defend a defamation case in the UK. Just because a person is not charged and convicted it doesn’t mean it never happened.
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This says a lot. I have discovered that some people use money or gifts to express love. Some people use generosity to “control” those they are meant to love.
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They use false promises, future fake you, offer you security, a dream life, they tell you what you want to hear. They can and do “sabotage” your opportunities, your aspirations, your goals in life. It’s all very subtle, drip by drip, comment by comment,
#controller
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@JolyonMaugham
@londonyc
@GoodLawProject
😡😡 This Government is not acting in the best interests of the country. 🤑🤑 issuing contracts and bypassing procurement procedures. At least
@GoodLawProject
is doing something to hold them accountable.
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@VanessaBrownCan
What did his court order actually want from you? Was it a fair judgement?
What reason did you "disobey"?
Hope you have legal representation now.
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Emotional and psychological abuse includes a lot of different behaviour patterns. If you do not know the patterns you may not be aware of actual abusive behaviours.
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This is why recovery after being in a narcissistic relationship takes such a long time.
👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
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@Theholisticpsyc
If there has been emotional damage in the relationship there will be emotional damage post separation. The discard can be brutal. The anger rage outburst, verbal attack, intimidation and threats. Worse when they use the legal systems to continue to attack you.
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.Many victims are not supported.
Not heard... failed by the professionals solicitors, police, social services, charities and justice system... There is no use having elaborate laws in place for "emotional abuse" if victims are ignored... 🚩🚩🚩
👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
Imagine feeling hopeful after leaving an abusive partner, only to be judged & blamed by the services that are supposed to help. Survivors want to be listened to by people who understand their trauma. They
#DeserveToBeHeard
.
➡️
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@EmilyThornberry
@thatginamiller
@SophyRidgeSky
Dear Emily, there are numerous campaigns for Remain. The huge March on 23rd showed support, the petition for
#RevokeArticle50
has just passed 6 million. Please support a
#RevokeA50
vote, and look up the hashtag
#MaySummons
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Who understands how someone can try to destroy your life completely. Treat you like garbage. Use you, move on with a new supply, apparently enjoying their life like nothing happened. When you are going through grief, anxiety, trauma and trying to start over.
#narcissism
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