Lala Bohang
@lalabohang
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Joined March 2009
So excited to share the cover for my upcoming book. ✨IN THE MIDDLE OF EVERYTHING✨. This book is a collection of stories, narrative poetry, untitled pieces, and drawings that collectively depart from an attempt to portray how the opposite is also true but more on that later ❤️🩹
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devina hermawan hyper-focus on her thing is so amazing at an unbothered extreme level it feels like when there's a zombie attack she will still upload her cooking videos.
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who said experience makes you stronger? experience makes you afraid and overthink.
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jadi ada kolega yang salah diagnosa bipolar, selama bertahun-tahun minum obat kemudian dia coba ke dokter lain ternyata dia spektrum autism. perempuan lebih sulit didiagnosa spektrum autism karena riset-riset terkait hal itu contoh kasusnya adalah laki-laki. let that sink in 😩.
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bro has no business saying all these thoughtful things in one sit-down interview 😭.
Iya mas Ario Bayu. I wanna grow better in a clear direction with you too
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menggampangkan pergi ke psikolog padahal ketemu psikolog yang cocok gaya komunikasi dan perspektif tidak gampang sama susahnya dengan mencari partner kerja jangka panjang dan tidak sesederhana orang yang gampang naksir (nafsu) karena lihat IGs atau sekali kerja bareng luar kota.
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kadang saya melihat diri saya pecah berserakan di lantai kemudian saya kumpulkan dan mengelemnya satu persatu.
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kayaknya emang agak kurang berbakat jadi orang dewasa bawaannya capek melulu.
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mindfulness is not all about being calm, present, and meditation (at all). it's all about, for example "ok I decide to do this shitty/stupid thing to myself and I clearly understand the consequences — still doing it anyway and not being surprised when it finally throws at me.".
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konsep tidak masuk akal: menikah berarti menikahi keluarga pasangan. menikah sama satu orang sudah rumit kalau mesti nikah sama keluarganya juga mending jadi kerikil di jalan. lompatan logika kejauhan menikah menggabungkan hidup, finansial, lifestyle kalau sama keluarga berelasi.
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dulu.“kok gue gak diajak.”. sekarang .“untung gue gak diajak.”. lalu selonjor nonton serial sambil tahuaci.
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normalize getting married doesn't always mean the person wants to start a family. the person just wants to add 1 other person in life, that’s all.
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trauma lintas generasi itu nyata, cikal bakal dirimu sudah ada jauh sebelum ibumu lahir di dunia, di dalam tubuh nenek moyangmu dan nenek buyutmu. dan tidak adil menyalahkan generasi sebelumnya atas luka batin yang kamu miliki sekarang karena mereka juga mendapat sebagai warisan.
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yang “gitu doang,” buatmu belum tentu “gitu doang,” buat orang lain. bisa jadi “gitu doang,” versimu adalah “gunung merapi lagi erupsi,” versi orang lain.
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ternyata cara gampang berhenti jadi people pleaser adalah tidak ketemu people.
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"dia baik.". it's the bare minimum, kurir makananku juga baik di mataku 🥲.
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kurang-kurangin jahat sama tubuh karena cuma ada satu dan selama ini tubuh diam saja menampung dan menyaksikan kebangkeanmu, rawat dia.
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so tired of losing things, moments, and opportunities but the major effect always comes when am losing myself even for a bit. pls prioritize yourself always. one year losing yourself might affect you for a decade later. flow with life but never drowning in somebody else's stream.
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menjadi perempuan dan diberkahi pertemuan dengan pasangan hidup yang membuatmu merasa cukup aman dan nyaman secara mental, intelektual, spasial, finansial, dan sosial bersama-sama melalui komitmen seumur hidup untuk hamil, melahirkan, dan membesarkan anak adalah rezeki besar.
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setiap hari perempuan bangun tidur dan menjalani hidup untuk hidup di dunia yang tidak didesain untuk kesenangan keselamatan dan kesehatannya. dituntut melakukan dan memaklumi banyak hal biar masuk surga yang ada bidadari surga buat menyenangkan laki-laki. bahkan di surga pun.
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orang yang bilang uang tidak bisa membeli kebahagiaan mungkin belum merasakan bayar listrik, wifi, mbak, groceries, rental, dan bensin dari kantong sendiri karena uang memang bukan buat membeli kebahagiaan tapi untuk bayar hidup agar produktif 💆🏻♀️.
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on johnny depp's context: a manipulative partner can literally ruin your life.
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If you sleep early you will have a smaller possibility to do things you will feel sorry about in the daylight. late-night has the power to bring too many odd thoughts and emotions that will trigger late-night's impulsive decisions to pursuit instant comfort.
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when you remind yourself that your parents and grandparents are also human beings who went through their journey of youth, heartbreak, and self-discovery. suddenly it feels melancholic and you can see them from a different lens not as the roles they play in your life.
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I just want to wish an easier year of 2022 for all of us 🌱.
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dear orang yang suka bilang kok email/whatsapp gak dibalas tapi bisa ngepost,. monmaab balas email/whatsapp perlu mikir dan tidak bisa cepat (kecuali konten flirting). ngepost adalah titik kecil oase di tengah kusut. tidak apple to apple. trims.
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if you have been living with fear, not feeling good enough, naturally a low energy person. in the end, all you want is a delicate and authentic life with people who share similar energies. no lies, no playing games, no manipulation, no outburst, no drama. safety and comfort.
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hookup, casual sex, one-night stand, and friends with benefit culture are gross.
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being an adult is exhausting but compare to my younger days when I can’t choose who I want to meet and talk to. I prefer this tiring adult life because I finally have the freedom to choose and can put all the distance that I need on everything that feels unnecessary or annoying.
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the paradox of people who constantly voice "it's ok to live a mediocre life" mostly have the inner pressure to live to the fullest with achievements (totally ok). because people who are ok living a regular life (totally ok) don't even think about it that much. they just exist.
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orang-orang yang tumbuh dengan kasih sayang, kelembutan, dan cinta tanpa syarat akan membalas dengan mencintai diri sendiri dan orang lain dengan langkah serupa. lalu mereka yang tumbuh dipeluk oleh rentetan ledakan, teriakan, dan persyaratan afeksi akan mengeras hingga meledak.
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asalkan terus melanjutkan perjalanan akan ada pintu-pintu tak terduga yang terbuka.
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you’re so quiet. hehe. (awkward laugh that means: am not quiet. it’s just we have nothing in common and this interaction feels insignificant to me.).
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merasa berhak atas sesuatu adalah jalan pintas menuju penderitaan.
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the least you can do for yourself in 2023 is to become a safe space for yourself. the real one, not the one who said, "I'm your safe space,” but proceed to send a long-ass lecture, stone-walling difficult conversations, not keeping promises, and invalidating your messy emotions.
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badan cuma dikasih satu-satunya dan tidak bisa diganti. yang bisa dilakukan adalah berterima kasih serta merawat dan menjaga kesehatannya dengan cara masing-masing. your body is a sacred temple of yours nobody have the power to shame the sacred place of others.
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what's your love languange? .financial stability otw financial freedom 👌🏼.
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deep talk is draining if you do it with the wrong people.
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yang sudah masuk fase lagi kerja tiba-tiba air mata menetes tanpa alasan, siapa?.
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it’s amazing to think that whatever happened in your life you still have to wash the dish.
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when you already have low expectations but it is still disappointing.
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humans are so complex that sometimes some people you meet often are not your real friends and some people you rarely meet are the real friends who genuinely support you without much questioning and want what is best for you and vice versa.
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what’s your hidden talent?. leaving everything behind without actually leaving.
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if you are always tired and never in the mood: you’re a firstborn daughter who grew up in a chaotic and unpredictable family dynamic which forced you to mentally grow to be an adult ASAP as a coping mechanism. it’s injected into your nervous system, now all you can do is🧍🏻♀️cope🧍🏻♀️.
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mentalitas orang yang sudah merasakan hidup sendiri dan/atau sudah merasakan bayar tagihan domestik dari uangnya sendiri beda banget sama yang belum.
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POV: the first daughter from an emotionally absent father and tiger mother grow up in one of the most patriarchal region in east Indonesia, "you can't hurt me because I sabotage myself first."
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iya kolegaku tentu perempuan. juga fitur keamanan mobil ketika mengalami kecelakaan lebih melindungi tubuh laki-laki daripada perempuan karena desainnya berdasarkan ergonomis laki-laki. sebelum soal pendapatan dan kesempatan. keselamatan dan kesehatan saja tidak dipentingkan.
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maybe I keep my distance because when it’s too close I will expose myself to the vulnerable and fragile side of being. there’s always a lonely and longing person under the hard case. a moment that will delicately takes me to many places that I prefer to not visit.
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is it just me or a week before the monthly period, females, in general, have their minds and soul possessed by a scary demon?.
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I miss my friends they’re not many but they keep me grounded and sane.
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the lore of first born daughter: .born → pressured → people pleasing → die.
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you're not the center of the universe but you're definitely the center of your universe.
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pandemic makes me lose interest in so many things. lol as if I was not before.
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everyone’s a whore. we just sell different parts of ourselves.
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memperluas kenalan, tidak menambah musuh, pupuk rekan kerja, merawat kenalan, perkecil lingkaran orang terdekat.
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to everything I have ever lost:.thank you for setting me free.
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ingin kerja yang rapih, sering yoga dan jalan kaki, punya waktu untuk ngadem malam, punya kemauan belajar, produktif yang manusiawi, tidak menyiksa diri dengan ekspektasi, masih bisa nyanyi sendiri, lebih banyak baca buku tentang jamur, terpapar karya-karya yang bikin terkesan.
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berjuta manusia cuma satu yang bisa diandalkan: dirimu sendiri 🫂.
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semoga berguna bagi keluarga, agama, bangsa, dan negara. berat amat ya ekspektasi hidup via doa-doa yang ditanamkan di alam bawah sadar sejak lahir. padahal untuk jadi mandiri, konten, sehat, dan tidak membebani orang sudah bagus banget.
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I complain, I selonjoran, and I post nonsense while keep moving forward on whatever that needs to be done in my days. balance life, everybody’s happy.
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persoalan perempuan tidak hanya berkisar pada soal cinta, seks, dan anak karena tidak semua perempuan memilih hidup sebagai seorang kekasih dan ibu.
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even people who raise in the same house grow to be totally different people than how some people have the audacity to generalize everyone and everything based on a much macro scale of similarity and intersection.
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ada yang selalu menekan dirinya untuk selalu menjadi lucu, bermakna, relevan, berpacu, berbagi, dan menginspirasi padahal tidak ada tekanan apapun yang ditujukan padanya, tidak salah dan tidak benar. hanya saja, pasti rasanya melelahkan sekali.
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kurangi iseng yang melibatkan perasaan orang lain. sekian dan tidak terima kasih.
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I mildly disagree with ”be kind to everyone” because there are people who don't deserve us to be kind to them.
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menyembuhkan luka batin dan trauma tidak perlu pakai ambisi mesti cepat pulih. kenali, terima, lepaskan. terbaca mudah namun prosesnya fluktuatif. ketika sadar diri masuk ke tiga langkah tersebut, kesadaran itu sendiri sudah merupakan langkah besar, jalani dan nikmati prosesnya!.
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please remember that the real quality of a person is not according to what they said or text you but what they do behind your back when you’re not knowing.
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di titik mana kamu sadar kalau semua peran perempuan yang selama ini dijejalkan ke dalam kepalamu sejak kecil ternyata semuanya adalah pilihan dan bukan kewajiban.
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being sad, guilty, confused, and anxious all the time is not a character, it’s a range of emotions and it will pass eventually. if it sticks with you all the time it means you need professional help to define the source, acknowledge, and hopefully to let them go at some point.
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why it’s so hard for some people to let other people live their life as their please as long as it’s not disturbing your life let others live in their preferences.
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sometimes I take a pause and realize the current people around me are so lovely and such colorful individuals. am so lucky they made me a part of their life.
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some people put high walls surround them because they understand that once the wall is breaking down it is easier for them to lose themselves completely for the simplest reason. and in the end, they have to rebuild the wall alone to find themself again.
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you can feel like the best version of yourself but seems like the worst version to others.
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I wish you who read this to be healthy, have a comfortable and peaceful life, have enough space to grow, and (if you want) share your life with other people who have similar values.
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you don't need to always be the bigger person sometimes being a tiny person is better.
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me after 30 min interaction with people I’m not genuinely comfortable with.
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when you want a peaceful and calm life you will understand that’s the hardest kind of life to achieve because it needs a lot of hard work beforehand especially if you’re not coming from a privileged background and living in a country with no established social security structure.
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lately am craving a good friend who lives in the same neighborhood so we can do casual low effort daily stuff like working out, monthly groceries, doom Youtube watching, quick lunch, or drinking for an hour or two. a low mobilization and short-duration meet-up friendship.
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treat people as you want to be treated. exactly that’s why I don’t talk much, I don’t ask about private matters, I try to speak as it is, I try my best to not playing games, maintain financial independence, live my life in the most comfortable way for me & let others live theirs.
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sebelum persoalan cewek bisa angkat galon aqua atau nggak. lebih penting bahas kenapa air bersih yang bisa diminum mesti beli?.
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you’re the main character of your own life but you’re not the main character of others life. we’re not living in a cinematic universe.
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