🏳️⚧️, and I’ll whoop ur ass about it | delectable not respectable | experienced grass toucher | im a cancer… yea | where they be sayin “jawn” 📍| MINORS DNI
Ended the convo w/ my sweetheart with “do you feel safe navigating conflict with me?”
This question at the end of arguments/misunderstandings maintains safety and trust even when you’re pissed at each other.
Was having a convo with my love about reassurance. I told her that that’s not something that come naturally to me and that I’m happy to give it to her when she asks. She accepted that and now she asks for it unashamed. And I give it to her happily.
Have you talked about the harm? Yes
Has behavior changed around that specific harm? No?
Do they make you feel bad about taking space? Yes?
THAT’S HOOVERING!!!!
People who don't live with our neurodivergent brains sometimes (whether intentionally or not) say things that cause very real hurt.
What's a thing you wish people without your neurodivergent condition would stop saying?
I can’t relate to a lot of skinny (meaning not fat) and light skinned T-Niggas. There’s just a visibility there that dark skinned and fat T-Niggas will never experience. There is a certain level of praise and affirmation that we will never know from anyone but ourselves.
Tea cuz Black Americans who can “always tell” stayed callin me n other deep darkskinned ppl African cuz we cant possibly be this dark + be from here fr.
Be careful with “we can tell the difference between AAs and Africans” discourse. Too often the perceived “difference” stated is just internalized colorism, featurism, and texturism combined with eugenics. And this is also weaponized against other African Americans.
People get with me and realize how much they don’t ask for what they need. Some say I’m not a good partner/friend for that and some just honor it. I cannot help someone figure out their needs… unless they explicitly ask me to.
Everything spoken against you is being returned to sender. The support and the nastiness. You are covered and these niggas really don’t know and would hate to find out.
@astoldbyharmony
What’s REALLY wild is that the mistranslation was intentional. The scripture is actually speaking against adults preying on children. But that didn’t fit the churches practices.
The word "homosexual" (as well as "heterosexual") was invented by Karl-Maria Kertbeny in 1868. Modern translations of scriptural text using that word are literal mistranslations.
I use all pronouns but I prefer each person to use their own pronouns with me.
If your pronouns are she/her use those with me. If you pronouns are he/him use those with me. Etc.
Wtf is a “hard boundary”? That implies there are soft boundaries, and I don’t want mfs thinking just cause I don’t say “hard boundary” it’s not to be taken as serious.