20 years ago I made one of the best decisions of my life.
I once said, "I'm not a salesman!"
My friends all reply, "I beg to differ, I've seen your wife." 🤣
20 years later, 5 kids, a dog, and lots of adventures.
There's nobody else I'd rather do life with than this girl!
So I was making videos daily for almost two months.
… and I stopped.
Someone I cared about made a point of making fun of me in a public setting.
I retreated …
… but yesterday someone told me that one of my videos spoke them as they were in a hospital recovering from a
She reeked of urine.
I saw her sitting on the sidewalk outside a gas station. She had matted hair and ripped clothing. I didn't even know if I was looking at a guy or a girl at first.
That didn't matter!
I had checked out of my marriage long before I walked out!
We were weeks away from divorce. I was broke, out of shape, losing hope, and alone.
...and 4 conversations changed my life.
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30 years I hid because I had crooked teeth. I’d often practice in the mirror talking to try and hide my teeth. I never smiled!
Covid came and I loved wearing masks because people could not see me. I realized than it was time to change!
Still swollen and sore but I love it!
Hey friends - It’s been 12 years or more since I’ve spoken in front of a group. Tomorrow I will doing my father-in-law’s funeral.
I need lots of grace!!!
It’s been a rough week y’all.
✔️My aunt passed away back in Canada.
✔️I have a cousin who is in bed rest and the baby will need immediate surgery upon birth to deal with heart defects.
✔️Jenny’s dad is in the hospital with Covid
✔️Ive been sick for a week
But I have joy…
The right people at the right time under the right conditions come to life!
It’s time! I’m launching a podcast called Moments of Impact.
It will be 3 to 5 minutes of motivation, encouragement, and inspiration that you can carry into your day.
Links will be coming very soon.
You need people who:
✔️will cheer you on.
✔️Will let you vent.
✔️Will help you re-focus.
✔️Will celebrate your wins.
✔️Will sit with you in your pain.
I hope you have friends like this!
10 years ago tonight I made one of the BEST decisions of my entire life!
I was just weeks away from divorce, I chose to man up - And accept responsibility for ALL of my choices, good and bad!
Believe me when I say I made some horrible choices!
10 years ago tonight I went to
7 years ago I was weeks away from divorce.
I refused to accept responsibility for my choices.
I blamed everyone else.
Everything change when I humbled myself, and became accountable.
That’s how I saved my marriage.
“You don't get paid for the hour. You get paid for the value you bring to the hour.” -Jim Rohn
When I learned this simple lesson from Jim Rohn, it changed my life.
If you want to earn more, become more valuable.
#tweet100
I had no idea what to write about today and one of my best friends,
@samanthademers
told me to write 'what's on my heart.'
I had no idea how to do that and than I went back 31 years...and I wrote this.
This might be my most vulnerable and real essay yet.
One of the most frequently asked questions is about my bio, where I say four conversations changed my life. I get a lot of comments asking about those conversations. I've written about it before but I'm writing about it again.
This is part one of four.
People overestimate what we can do in a year and underestimate what we can do in a decade.
10 years ago, All seemed lost. My wife told me on Christmas Eve 2013 that she filed for divorce. I avoided my kids. I thought I was better off starting over...
but the story was NOT over!
I'm back for another round of
#ship30for30
This is my 5th cohort.
My essays will touch on ideas that I'm exploring as I write my book, Relationship Renewed: Renovating the Relationships that Matter Most.
The past 10 days have been some of the most challenging days of my life.
I’m used to having piles of energy and simply walking down the hallway is exhausting.
This cannot steal my joy though!
I love you!
#tweet100
I can honestly say I’m starting to love the gym.
I had no idea this would happen.
I had no desire to join a gym at 48 when I hadn’t been to the gym in 30 years.
It is changing my life!
Fridays as a:
Teen: movie and snacks
20”s: beer, pizza and wings
30’s: nachos, soda, snacks
40’s: eating anything in sight
48: - I’m at the gym because I’m turning this Dad bod into a father figure!
We brought Cody into our home 10 years ago last week. I joked that he was my wife’s dog because I’m more of a big dog guy.
3 yrs ago he developed heart failure and today he breathed his last!
Cody - you were the best dog! We love you so much!
Ok, so sick brain made it difficult to create anything of substance so I went back to the basics.
Gratitude and people that have impacted me on Twitter in 2021. This list could go on for days.
just shipped my 100th essay in 100 days.
Later today I will write a bonus essay on some of the things I've learned so far.
Nothing but love for all of you.
When I was a boy I couldn’t wait to move to the city. I love the convenience of the city but I also find myself yearning for the simplicity of the places I grew up like this one back home in Newfoundland!
Men, (no offense to the ladies… But allow me to speak to men for a moment.)
For the love of a healthy future.… For the sake of potential mates, children, coworkers, and neighbors.
Do not ignore the pains of your past
For far too long, I let my brokenness fester. Brokenness
It's Thanksgiving in America.
If you've followed me for any time you know I don't need a reason to be thankful.
I often say, "There is always something to be thankful for, Always!"
Today I want to express gratitude to many who have enriched and blessed my life this year.
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Are you interested in strengthening your relationships
Over a period of 30 days, I'll be writing 30 Atomic Essays about how I went from being weeks away from divorce to transforming my marriage and family.
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@typeshare_co
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Today I took a big step. I have been a coach at my church for close to three years. Today was my last Sunday serving in that capacity.
I have been slowly taking time to get away from the hustle mindset.
Remember folks, you can’t pour from an empty cup.
Take care of yourself.
My wife tagged me in a post on one of the other socials.
She was bragging about me for doing some basic stuff like getting groceries, filling up the cars with gas, and moving the cars this morning so she didn't need to when leaving for work.
It was little things, but her love
So today was my second time lifting weights in 20 years.
I was self-conscious; and a lot out of my comfort zone so I did what I always do when I’m uncomfortable:
I begin connecting with people.
Papa J is at the gym y’all!
Some days you just feel like it’s a win:
12,000 steps (8,000 before 8:20 am)
75 burpees.
An hour workout at the gym.
Steak for dinner - I grilled it!
Being around family.
… and Day 1 of Ship 30.
Today was winning in action.
I love Ship 30 for 30. I don’t know of anything online that has had a bigger impact on my thinking, creativity, and connections than this cohort by
@dickiebush
and
@Nicolascole77
and co.
Every cohort I find a tribe of writers where their writing just hits me.
Here are the 5
So …
This is 49! Made it home about 2 hours ago!
Walked in the house to see my wife still put up a happy birthday banner so I’d see it when I got home.
I’ve been sick most of the week but still
managed to enjoy a hockey game and a concert with my boys while sleeping most of
I'm shipping a bonus essay for me today on writing for 100 consecutive days. Here are a few reflections on my thoughts on writing and my commitment to ship500, er ship30.
I've had a few people ask me why I show up the way I do. They've asked why do you cheer for people the way you do.
In one of my most personal essays yet I share "Why I Cheer for People."
Grief to Hope: A 3-Step Framework for Parents Processing Loss After Miscarriage
I've told this story but today I was thinking about my baby. I've written and re-written this today and I just need to let the story write itself.
Newsflash 📰
💥I am not the smartest guy in the room.
💥I am not the most skilled guy in the room.
💥I am not the most polished guy in the room.
But I am relentless in my ability to see the best in others.
… and my ability to show up cheering for people!
Celebrate your gifts
In the span of 24 hours, my family has had to say good bye to my wife’s dad and to my grandmother.
As you develop a philosophy of success make sure it includes a healthy philosophy on relational success!
#tweet100
Thankful for this community and the
#ship30for30
community.
I once dreamed of making $1,000,000 in a year.
Now I just want enough $$$ to build a place where I can host events for 20-50 people talking about relationships, community, and everything in between.
I shared this with my close pals but wanted to share it with all my Twitter Peeps also.
My wife just took my youngest son to the ER just now .. he’s scared … but in a lot of pain. Pray for wisdom for the doctors.
I am home with the kids and praying myself for wisdom!
So in 5 months on Twitter I’ve created some incredible connections. 30+ Zoom calls in the past 6 weeks.
Blown away by the people I’ve connected with.
I’ve never seen that happen on FB, Insta, LI or MySpace for that matter… 🤣
I am so excited to be back for my third cohort. I am writing about love 💕 and relationships.
Over the next 30 days, I’m writing 30 Atomic Essays as a part of
@dickiebush
’s Ship 30 for 30.
I’ll share insights that we will learn together.
Follow along in this thread below 👇🏼
@LeahBSassy
@BethMooreLPM
So I used to be in the “other camp” and than I saw that the news of the resurrected Jesus was given to women and women were told to tell the disciples what they had seen.
It’s odd that many are fine with women missionaries over there... but not here.
"We are all connected by a simple wish, to be visible to be heard, to know that we matter." Vlada Mars
Connection is at the core of what it is to be human.
For my fourth wave of
#ship30for30
, I'm exploring relationships, primarily in the context of love and friendship.
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One of the best days of my life happened 9 years ago.
I went to bed planning to get divorced in a matter of weeks.
I woke up the next day, realized that I was a jerk, needing to change.
My marriage was renewed, my family restored.
I believe in miracles because I've seen it.
I am creating a mastermind group(s).
I love masterminds and have been a part of 3 in the past.
Today's essay shares three things that every mastermind needs.
Today is one of my favorite days! It is the day before
#Ship30for30
begins a new journey.
With that in mind, I wrote what I hope will be some helpful advice, before the ship leaves the harbor.
Love and respect to
@Nicolascole77
and
@dickiebush