Really struggling to go about my day to day life after seeing such horrific footage coming out of Gaza. I feel so damn guilty for all the simple blessings we take for granted…
There was a couple in Zara and I overheard the guy telling his partner with so much excitement, how he bought some clothes off boohoo and he really liked them and how they made him look really nice. Mid sentence, his partner told him to just be quiet and let her shop.
Women who constantly tell me “Don’t worry, men tend to soften up once the baby is born. He’ll be back then.” Lol let me make something very clear. I left him. I do not want that pathetic excuse of a male back.
Allah, protect me from men who always have their eyes set on other women, from men who are never satisfied or content, and from men who intend on having multiple wives. 🤲🏻
On a side note, let us married men with young children make intention that we will work hard, build successful businesses and once our kids are grown we will marry again to another younger (legal age of course) and prettier woman.
The poor guy’s tone changed so quick and all the excitement just drained out of his voice. He was like, “babe…but I’m just telling you something…” and he just went quiet. I was so upset for him. Just let men be excited about things. 😭
I had iftar with my dad yesterday. And all I’ll say is be grateful if your parents recognise you. Despite life’s hurdles, it’s incredibly heartbreaking to see either parent slowly forget who you are. To stare at you blankly as you enter the door.
Having a family meal on Christmas Day isn’t ‘celebrating Christmas’. It’s a time where the majority are off from work, a time to get together, eat and just have some family time. Relax.
As you all know, my heart has been feeling so heavy over the last few weeks. I’ve done nothing but cry my heart out in Salah. My soul just desperately needed something and…Alhamdulillah I can’t believe it, but I have the opportunity to perform Umrah with my Mika. 🥹🤍
@NathanCraig_9
@PureGym
You can’t offload something like this on Twitter and not tell us the ending. Tell us all that you got out safely. We’re all invested now.
Nobody talks about the transition period for ‘divorcees’ leaving their marital home and coming back to their family/childhood home. To struggle with your identity, not knowing where and how you fit in anymore. These are things I struggled with 3-4 years ago when I left London.
This whole topic of mutah marriage being pushed on single mums is disgusting. I’ve seen the original vid. It stems from them thinking that single mums standards are so low, and that we’re desperate to remarry and would accept absolutely any Tom Dick and Harry.
If an ‘individual’ can allow his wife to undergo the pangs of pregnancy and childbirth alone, he isn’t a man at all and does not deserve to be part of my life or my childs life. So hold back your unsolicited comments.
Have a lot on my mind and no one to talk about it with. Because no one in my life actually knows everything. The thought of having to explain so much backstory before even getting to the things I want to talk about, prevents me from opening up to people.
So as I walked to the M&S bakery today, the shelves were full with fresh croissants and pain au chocolats. The lady behind the counter stood right in front of me with the biggest smile on her face just watching me. She said “I wanted to see the look on your face.”
One thing I’ve learned over the years is, never let your emotions have too much control over you. Feel them, let them run through you, but allow them to leave.
I know a lot of people don’t believe in Nazar. But I’ve noticed that the days where I dress my cub super cute and post his outfit photo on social media - the same/next day, he cries non-stop day and night.
It’s been about 5 months since I deleted Muzz, Hinge and Bumble off my phone and I just feel so much more at PEACE! Honestly, you guys know I’ve given these apps a really good shot. But they’re not for me.
God sends so many different people your way, as blessings to help you at different stages in your life. I am so grateful for the sincere people I have come across.
I remember once I fell asleep by accident in a taxi and the driver yelled at me for being too trusting and stupid for falling asleep in a strangers taxi.
One of the best pieces of advice I would give anyone is, don’t wait for a person to come along to fill your void. Work on being whole and truly content with yourself. Look inwards and try to understand who you actually are. It’s one of the best things you can do for yourself.
So...I got taken into A&E today with a stroke scare...whoever’s reading this, let it be a reminder to you that health is everything and life’s too short.
A video was circulating online of a traumatised little boy in Gaza. His little face has been plastered in my mind every single day as he resembled my Mikaeel…
Today I found a video showing he’s alive and with his family again. The relief I felt was unmatched. ❤️🩹
The other day when I went to Asda, an elderly woman asked me if she could take my trolley as there weren’t anymore left. Without hesitation I said yes. She slowly started looking through her purse for £1 to give to me and it made me chuckle.
I’ve noticed that when people learn you’re actively looking to find a partner. They automatically assume you’re not content with where you are or your life. That’s not true. You can be content whilst also wanting to move forward onto the next chapter.
Normal babies have porridge for breakfast, mine LOVES to have tava bread dipped in chai and a boiled egg. He’s already reached Pakistani grandad level at 9 months old.
Men who pay nothing towards child maintenance suck. It’s so easy for them to just move on and pretend that there is no child. May Allah deal with those cowards accordingly.
@penny4yourtweet
All of my brothers satisfied all of my cravings no matter what time it was. One of my younger brothers made himself in charge of ensuring I was having my daily veg intake and was so attentive to how I was feeling. 🥺💞
The cutest part was, when he sat on the train, he rang his partner and explained the whole process of going through a train station to her with so much excitement. I was just in the background like…
Reading everyone’s Umrah experiences has got me reminiscing about when I went in 2010.
I remember an incident that happened where I got caught in the sea of people whilst making tawaf. I was quite close to the Kaaba and everyone was just pushing really violently.
Divorce isn’t a secret. I’m very open about it, but for someone’s mum to say to me “people tend to walk out of a marriage over nothing. I know it’s nothing to do with me but just need to know what happened with you so I know you won’t walk out on my son.”
🙂
When my sister had her Nikkah, I was married and my then husband was in the photos. When it was her Baraat, my ex wasn’t in the photos and I was HEAVILY pregnant. When she has her Walima (soon in sha Allah) my son will be in the photos. What a journey those photos will show. 😂
You know why I hate the Asian rishta process? Because of questions like this from people’s parents:
“So why the divorce?”
“Who’s fault was it?”
“This is my son’s first marriage, he deserves the best.”
My heart’s been feeling really heavy lately. I wake up weighed by my thoughts and feelings. And sometimes it all just feels too much to handle. I’m usually really good at dealing with this but for some reason something just doesn’t feel right. Please keep me in your du’as. 🤍
I’ve eaten alone in restaurants many times. I really don’t care how it comes across to other people. It’s the most liberating feeling ever. If I’m hungry and I happen to be on my own, I’m going to eat somewhere nice. Why shouldn’t I? Take yo negativity elsewhere please. 🤚🏼
I don’t think men realise how painful period pains can get for some women. As someone who has gone through labour, my period pains can get to a point where it’s worse than actual contractions.
She made such a lovely du’a for me. She said that whenever you find yourself stuck and in need of help or guidance, I pray someone quickly comes to your aid. She patted me on my head and off she went. And I can’t stop smiling or thinking about her. She was so sweet.
You know what I just realised? I’m proud of myself for not letting the shitload of negative experiences in my life, turn me cold. I still have a lot of love to give and that makes me really happy. 😊
When I got married for some bizzarre reason we didnt do any background checks...and I paid the price for this. Once I left, it transpired that a lot of people who knew of his family didn’t have good things to say about them at all..Do your checks ladies, please.
A woman has every reason to be terrified of men and her family has every right to do a thorough background check on a guy, it’s not “trust issues” and it’s not them questioning a man’s character, it’s them wanting to avoid the pain that so many women have suffered
I find female hormones hilarious. Without going into details, I feel like some males could benefit from learning and trying to understand the effects PMS and pregnancy have on a female before they get married.
It would help loads imo.
Went to someone’s house. My cub disappeared to play with their cat. When I went to look for him, I found him in another room sat next to the cat with his head down really close to it. I overheard him say - “I think I really like you. You don’t know but you’re really soft.” 😭
My health has deteriorated over the last week. My lungs aren’t what they used to be and I’m really afraid I have a severe chest infection again. I would really appreciate it if you can spare a quick du’a. 😞
Overheard a client say to someone in the waiting room. “Don’t even know what her name is. These asian ladies have such bizarre names. Can’t even pronounce it.” She wasn’t even trying to whisper. These clients are getting way too brave.
Sorry, I feel bad asking but whilst you’re all praying, please could you make a really really quick du’a that my little brain is okay. I keep hearing dr’s mention ‘concussion’ and ‘worsening brain injury symptoms’ and I’m a little scared. 🙂
Sometimes we all need that little reminder that we are more than enough. We mustn’t let the actions of another convince us that we aren’t good enough as we are.
@_luvvulises
I think now that I’m a mum, I see this a little differently. If you’re close with your mum, that’s not a red flag at all. If being a ‘mummy’s boy’ makes you unable to stand for what’s right, respectfully. Then yes it’s a red flag.
I had a guy tell me today “you might be cute, but remember you’re divorced with a kid.” All because he spoke to me in a derogatory way and I didn’t tolerate it. Yes I may have a kid and may be divorced but that doesn’t mean I should accept bottom tier behaviour.
Another day, another dude telling me he’s happy to ‘get to know’ a single mum and then after a week, suddenly saying that he thinks it’s stupid for him (an unmarried man) to consider someone with a child. 🙂
So yesterday Mikaeel made a little female friend at the wedding. I caught her trying to hold his hand and he pulled back as if someone stabbed him. Ran up to me and showed me his hand and whispered “mama…look at my hand. That girl trying to take my hand.”
“I miss my family.”
Tweeps: omg you miss your family? That’s so weird. Who even does that. It means you hate your husband. I can’t believe she hates her husband. Do people actually do this though, I’ve never come across anyone who misses their family before.
Right, I think it’s time we all go and put in a big order with them.
@LushLtd
Thank you for using your platform to advocate for the people of Palestine, even at the expense of your sales. We see you. We appreciate you. ❤️
Lush, the UK-based cosmetics retailer, is facing a backlash from customers after a "boycott Israel" message was displayed on the window of one of its stores 👇
I can’t believe how this year is ending…SubhanAllah, I didn’t even see it coming. I’m witnessing one of the du’as I made during Umrah, being answered. 🥺
So I went with one of the twins to a rishta meeting, and inevitably they asked me if I was married. I hate this question but I hesitantly told them I’m a single parent. And then I got judged so hard that it made me sad lol 😕
I’m excited to share that I’ve been nominated for a YAYAs Award. (Yorkshire Asian Young Achievers) - within the private sector, for overcoming my emotionally abusive marriage, being a Conveyancer and being involved within the hiking community. 🥹🤍
Mika’s first
@Muslim_Hikers
hike to Stanage Edge! Carried the boy 7miles in my arms and he even had 2 naps on my shoulder! I met THE great Nelly Attar, my entire body is aching, I wanted to cry twice along the way because my arms hurt but…I DID IT ALHAMDULILLAH! 😄🙌🏼
I don’t like tweets like this that suggest everything will be perfect when you find the right person. Every relationship/marriage requires work, even with the right person. You HAVE to work at it everyday.