I refuse to believe that God cares more about me staying married than He does about me staying safe.
That cannot possibly be the way of the resurrected Jesus.
so a man decided he didn’t want to pursue me any further because i am committed to celibacy til marriage.
a christian man.
while i understand different sexual ethics, this has happened multiple times and confuses me to no end.
Feeling a little bold tonight, so I am gonna say this: my divorce is a grace from the Lord. He loves me so much that He has made a way for me to be free of a place where I was harmed.
Abuse is enough of a reason to leave. Go.
@musafirani
@BeeBabs
I think the best part is that he used easy French, spoke slowly, and then let Drake know of his impending death once Adonis is very big.
well, i had a tweet do some numbers and just a headsup if you’re new here, i’m kind but i’m not around to make you feel comfortable.
i’m here to see my people free.
Last night, while I was leading youth group, someone fired 36 rounds into our church parking lot. One of my youth’s *car* was hit 4 times (she’s ok). And we heard it all.
I kept it together to lead all evening, then drove around wishing I had someone to just hold me. Singleness.
hot take: maybe 22 year olds shouldn’t be pastors. make them interns, associates, whatever. but they’re not ready to be in pastoral leadership positions, in my humble opinion.
on oct 3, 2022, my divorce was finalized. on oct 3, 2023, i had a really bad day and couldn’t figure out why. everything was amplified and painful.
today i realized that i’ve been officially divorced for one year. and i’m grateful for that.
but also, divorce is hard.
I wish people saw those who deconstruct as those who are trying to hold onto Jesus with all their might, even amidst a lot in the church that looks nothing like Jesus.
This is the face of a Black woman starting seminary today!
If that’s not perfect for the first day of
#BlackHistoryMonth
, I don’t know what is.
More Black women in seminary please!
a genuine question for white Christians: would y’all be as into reconciliation if it meant humbling yourself and just listening to Black folks (and other IPOC)?
no seat at the table; just a chair by the door taking notes.
could you do it then?
@emilykmay
yes. taking it further, women asking for a divorce after being emotionally or physically abandoned is still not initiating the divorce. the husband did that with his actions.
speaking from experience.
divorce hurts because it’s letting go of a future that once seemed sure and not knowing if you’ll have those things.
i’m not promised another marriage. i’m not promised children. i may be single until i meet my Savior.
that’s a choice i had to make to be safe. it hurts.
I’ve been frustrated by the tweets I’ve seen of this as a Canadian. Because the facts are being misrepresented.
We’re not under some sort of major persecution. That’s not what this is. A thread. 1/8
BREAKING: Pastor James Coates of GraceLife Church of Edmonton was just carried off to jail in hand and ankle cuffs. The condition of his release is that he cannot preach. His wife/kids are not allowed to see him.
The 1st Canadian pastor to be jailed for holding a church service
I got into seminary!!
Ya girl is starting her Masters of Arts in Christian Thought at Bethel Seminary in January! Thank you all for your prayers 💜
#BlackWomenInSeminary
Y’all, why the non-Christian men be showing up better than the Christian men?
We got amazing women in the Church just trying to find a partner and these Christian men be letting us down.
I’m asking for real, because… it’s musty out here.
y’all, WAIT TO GET MARRIED.
this isn’t prescriptive because y’all will come for me, but more often than not, waiting until your brain is fully developed is a good good GOOD idea.
figure out who you are first!!
a Christianity that doesn’t hold Christians accountable for their abuse is a Christianity that doesn’t truly understand the power of the blood of Jesus.
in my experience, white women are the largest barrier to equity.
white women have the opportunity to align themselves to others with marginalized identities. they also have the chance to ally themselves to power.
more often than not, they choose to replicate power. 🧵
this was my first christmas officially divorced and my third away from him. we only celebrated four together.
last year, three days before christmas, i told him i wanted a divorce because i still didn’t feel safe around him.
and honestly, i’m really really sad tonight.
If you’re wanting to understand why Chadwick’s death hurts so much, here’s a little insight into my grief:
I really struggle to love my hair. Like major issues with liking how I look because of my struggle with my hair. 1/9
when my mom immigrated to canada from ethiopia, she learned to make traditional food dishes by calling home to her mom. it was the 90s, so it was expensive.
today, i made my first ethiopian dish with my mom on video chat, after moving from canada to america.
full circle.
So about six months ago, my husband and I separated. I’ve not talked about it on here, but I have alluded to it. Thank you all for the times you prayed for me, not knowing why I was asking. The Lord has used you in my healing. Not done healing yet, so please keep praying for me💜
let me be clear: i don’t expect virginity. i was *married*.
but my personal belief is that God created sex for marriage and so i will wait til then.
turns out a lot of christian men do *not* feel the the same way.
so a man decided he didn’t want to pursue me any further because i am committed to celibacy til marriage.
a christian man.
while i understand different sexual ethics, this has happened multiple times and confuses me to no end.
hi y’all. i preach my first sunday sermon tomorrow morning and i’m preaching on justice. if y’all are the praying type, please pray that it would be encouraging to the people of God. pray also for my final prep today. thanks, fam.
@R_Denhollander
This isn’t even how the Bible talks about eliminating temptation. Everything is about how you conduct *yourself*. Pluck out your eyes, cut off your hands, flee. Never ever ever against the other.
North American Christians, hear and hear me well: you CANNOT celebrate a Saviour being born in Palestine this week and *ignore* what is happening in Palestine RIGHT NOW.
Where Christ was born is incredibly important to what He did.
YOUR RESPONSE MATTERS TO THE FAITH YOU HOLD.
i have a massive prayer request. i need to finish 3 papers by thurs morning & i am tapped out. my brain isn’t engaging & i don’t feel capable.
i know it’s possible, but i need prayers for the strength to accomplish it. i would also love scripture encouragement.
thanks, y’all.
Hey white friends, do people just say or yell “LOVE YOUR HAIR” when you walk down the street?
I only ask because this happens to me and I was just reflecting on how this makes me feel like I have to react positively to something that feels very othering at times.
seems i’ve caused a bit of a ruckus with what i shared yesterday. make no mistake, i was treated respectfully and my boundaries were honoured.
the part that has me discouraged is that my commitment to save sex for marriage has led multiple men to leave AND they’re christians!
hot take: if someone claims to be a prophet and enjoys a lavish lifestyle because of it, they likely aren’t a prophet.
prophets had it ROUGH, y’all. the prophetic word is often one imbued with heaviness and grief.
something to think about.
i recently saw a fb post from a youth pastor upset that the girls in his youth group came to church dressed “inappropriately” in crop tops.
anyways, here’s me—a youth pastor—in a crop top.
my slain cousin is on the right. his little brother is on the left.
fun fact: for most ethiopians, cousins are just considered siblings that don’t live in the same home as you. they’ve always been my little brothers.
i miss you already, yonnie.
(pic from 2015)
i have been so disappointed in the response by
@anniefdowns
. i loved her enneagram stuff and some of the interviews she’s done over the years have been so good for me to hear.
but y’all, platformed white women will protect their platform. and i need to stop being shocked.
it wasn’t supposed to be like this. i wasn’t supposed to be going to sleep alone in a twin bed tonight. i wasn’t supposed to be 30 and divorced, trying to figure out life and loneliness.
i don’t have eloquent words and i don’t want my old life back.
but it hurts tonight.
Friendship is *still* not a placeholder for marriage. Stay friends after finding a partner. Trust me, you’ll still need them.
Signed,
a soon-to-be divorced woman who *kept* her friends.
could it have been handled better? likely. are there hundreds of years of layers here? also yes.
but as a tired Black woman of being treated like this, i'm not mad. i felt seen and cared for. finally, someone said something. 6/6
Your race should not condemn you to death. Read it again. YOUR RACE SHOULD NOT CONDEMN YOU TO DEATH.
Grieving with my Asian friends and family. I love you. I am sorry this keeps happening. It is evil.
A lot of singleness and marriage talk on the TL this week. I wanted to add my own perspective as a newly RE-single person. My marriage ended. I’m getting divorced. That’s my reality. And it’s not the one I imagined for myself. 1/6
beloved, it costs nothing to say “wow, i didn’t realize i caused harm. i’m sorry.” after you tweet a bad take.
in fact, it will probably earn you some respect. just don’t double down.
To be clear, I have wonderful friends who held space for me. They were ready and willing. And I love them for it. We talked and they provided comfort.
But I still had to leave after. I still went home or hung up the phone. This is the space that I’m talking about.
one of the holiest parts of my job is stepping in to protect my marginalized students from further marginalization in evangelical spaces.
i get to be who i didn't have.
Friendship is not a placeholder until you meet your spouse. I repeat, friendship is not a placeholder for marriage. Deep friendships should continue for believers after getting married because THEY CONTINUE INTO ETERNITY AND MARRIAGE DOES NOT. Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
Friends, I’m SO excited to share that I will be moving to Minneapolis, MN to lead the youth ministry at Sanctuary Covenant Church, under the leadership of Pastor
@edrinwilliams
!
This is such a gift from the Lord, and a story of God’s faithfulness to me in this season.
I’ve spent a lot of today defending a viewpoint that I don’t see many people talk about. So here’s my story:
I was a very passionate supporter of interracial marriage. I believed that this would be a way that I could live out my belief that reconciliation IS possible. 1/9
hi, i didn’t set out to have a platform here, so having people say horrible things in my mentions is a lot for me. i’m a local youth pastor. i am just another person. this is a lot.
if y’all wanna leave nice words under this tweet, it would mean the world. help a sista out.
something i’m thinking about as i take a class in church history is that it’s astonishing how much the way it is taught is western-centred.
though i’m protestant, my family is ethiopian orthodox, a church that existed since the early church!
are we not part of church history??
There is freedom in letting go of white evangelicalism.
I said earlier to a friend, “I can believe the words of the Bible without taking the toxic culture of white evangelicalism.”
I love Jesus more on this side of letting go.
@LShalott
honestly, it’s a lot. i’m blessed with a robust social circle and we often hug hello and goodbye. in addition, i get hugs at church and cuddle on a couch with my bestie.
i mean this kindly and sincerely, but what causes the lack of physical touch from friends and family?
hi, i’m holly! i love Jesus & people, and everything else after. i am a woman who preaches and my pastor says that i am a red bull in heels (or Js, i guess) and that i have the spiritual gift of pissing evangelicals off.
youth director by day (and night), tweeter all the time 😂
y’all, i just realized that my ideal type of living in community is depicted in the show “shrinking” on apple tv.
they see each other regularly, they support each other, they help raise each other’s kids, and they just show up for each other.
that’s what i want!
man, last week showed me a lot of what the church abuse survivor community values, and it sure as heck isn’t survivors that are BIPOC.
as a Black woman survivor of church abuse, watching white folks protect their own—many of whom i trusted—really had me shook.
i tweet for the people who grew up singing “show me how to love like You have loved me. break my heart for what breaks Yours.”
…and then had to leave churches because they didn’t do that.
Black Panther is one of my favourite movies of all time. And Chadwick was, and is, the Black Panther. Without him, that film is not what we have loved.
So Chadwick may be gone, but in our hearts, “The Black Panther lives.” 9/9
today marks 3 years since george floyd was murdered in the streets of minneapolis.
he should be here. he should be with his little girl. he shouldn’t be a name that we all know, a face we see everywhere.
instead, he’s a memory. may we never forget.
watching tim keller finish his race and prepare to meet his Savior… i want to finish so well. watching how many different kinds of people have come to speak highly of him and his love for Jesus.
it makes me want to love Jesus out loud even more.
so when people tell their people that they are pregnant and they hand them the pregnancy test…
how does no one freak out about the possibility that pee has touched the part you’re touching?