We are very uneducated when it comes to uncomfortable emotions. We are taught how to be polite, how to cutesy, how to celebrate, but not how to grieve, how to be angry, how to disagree, how to repair. Grief is unending, uncomfortable, and impolite.
Sometimes it’s ok for things to not be about you, wdym you won’t reach out to a friend who is grieving because you feel ‘awkward’ or you don’t know what to say
As I commit to moving away from survival mode in 2024, I am reminded of the verse, “Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers”.
It’s the one thing where you need to sink into the mess with the bereaved not lift them out of it. Might be sitting in silence, might be feeling helpless to their questions, might be holding them when they fall apart. We need to learn how to sit in this with them.
I'm really really working hard to not fall apart in the current state of this country. I'm just trying to take it one second at a time and focus on what is within my control. If not I'll cry.
I'm deeply disturbed by that therapist calling out her client for going back to their abuser. We don't get to decide when victims are ready or when they should be ready. We owe our clients unconditional positive regard. It says a lot, not just to our clients but to other victims
@DickGodNika
It is possible. And tbh, that's the role of sitting in suffering. You learn empathy from it. When people bypass suffering through toxic positivity, avoidance, etc, they miss the opportunity to learn what hurt feels like, imagine it with others, and show up for them too.
Mental health education is necessary in primary and secondary schools. Empathy 101, compassion 101, self-regulation, communication skills, building a community mindset, how to care for friends living with mental illness (at their level), I will give a lot to build a curriculum.
This sounds like complicated grief. Complicated grief is when grieving continues to be intense, persistent, and debilitating beyond 12 months. Grief isn't just the primary loss of a person it's also the secondary loss of big and small moments.
Does the man in question really want to marry her ?
Please leave some advice for her but don’t stop there, click the link to watch the full episode on YouTube, yes, now !!
#Iswispodcast
I’ve seen many tweets from people who feel understandably overwhelmed during this time and don’t know how to navigate it. I’m sharing a few tips I usually share with my clients in therapy. I hope this thread helps someone.
#SarsMustEnd
When I’m struggling to learn a new concept, my husband teaches himself the concept just so he can teach me. I’ve never asked him to. He just does it. “Oh babe that thing you told me you were struggling with, I studied it and if you look at it this way…”
My own chatgpt🥹
Please, when going to places, visiting a new person, going anywhere at all, interviews etc etc SHARE YOUR LIVE LOCATION WITH A CLOSE FRIEND, WHATSAPP IS A GOOD ONE. LIVE LOCATION.
Please RT this till it becomes a NORM!!
SAFETY!!!!! SAFETY!!!
@iamrenike
Even if it’s because they aren’t confident in it, it’s ok to decide to go for what they are more confident in. The same way people wear high-waisted pants or get tattoos to cover up scars, it’s ok to choose what’s easier as opposed to forcing yourself to feel something you don’t
I tried to correct her, she argued with me, defending her tilapia fish. I lost my patience and went to get a small stick. I mean I don’t have time for debate, I have been writing “2” before you were born. She saw the cane and behaved her self.
I would love to see the Bridgerton matriarch’s love story too. The way she grieved her husbands death and how she’s a hopeless romantic, sounds like an epic one.
I just randomly remembered a poem I wrote about my anxiety called “This is not an emergency”. I want to hug that Aanu, also tell her that she has not felt that anxious in years. She’ll be relieved.
when they are chastised for not being perfect. We can't shame clients into healing. These cases are too complicated and deep to expect a wham-bam story, especially with people experiencing abuse. Again unconditional positive regard, emphasis on the unconditional part.
I love how
@deartitilope
and
@MissWanaWana
have explored poetry in different expressions. They have really used their gifts to make room for themselves.