Anyone who believes girls can deter sexual violence by dressing modestly has never met men. You can cover your whole body and they will sexualize your voice. You can say nothing and they will sexualize your scent. It never ends.
VIRGINITY TESTING IS SEXUAL ASSAULT.
VIRGINITY TESTING IS SEXUAL ASSAULT.
VIRGINITY TESTING IS SEXUAL ASSAULT.
VIRGINITY TESTING IS SEXUAL ASSAULT.
VIRGINITY TESTING IS SEXUAL ASSAULT.
VIRGINITY TESTING IS SEXUAL ASSAULT.
VIRGINITY TESTING IS SEXUAL ASSAULT.
Do you know what happens then? Every part of a woman’s being becomes sexualized. Their hair, ankles, necks, calves, wrists etc. This has the inverse reaction by sexualizing women even more. It’s more objectifying.
Germany decriminalized sex trade and guess what happened? Majority of women in Germany did not want to be prostitutes, so men trafficked and smuggled migrant women fleeing civil wars to meet the demand. Material conditions did not improve. No one was liberated.
No liberal feminist in the West would ever trade places with a woman in a Muslim country but they will justify her oppression under the guise of religious liberty. You are anti-feminist and anti-woman.
Women get killed for removing their hijabs, dating who they want to, traveling solo, dancing, and achieving any independence. Meanwhile, pedophiles, rapists and violent abusers get to live long, healthy lives. I will never stop fighting.
Never seen a Muslim woman in an Islamic country talk about how great her life is. The ones who claim it’s “liberating” live in the West where they have actual choices.
I remember my family flying out a strange man whom I was supposed to “marry.” They told me I didn’t have a choice and that I had to marry this stranger. Packing everything I own and leaving in the middle of the night was my feminist awakening.
A lot of men convert to Islam because it’s the only religion where you can be a loser and still be entitled to 4 wives. If you live in the west, he will just pressure them to get on welfare.
Because of feminism, I am not a child bride. I am grateful to my foremothers who fought for my rights to go to school, travel solo, open a bank account and ending child marriage. Thank you, feminism.
Female students attempt to enter their university in Badakhshan only to be whipped by a member of the Taliban who prevents them from entering. The women chant ‘education is our right’ & ‘woman, life, freedom’ which is also what protesters in Iran have been chanting
#Afghanistan
#AwesomeWithoutAllah
because as a radical Black feminist, I can NOT be simultaneously Muslim and feminist. I choose women’s liberation. I love to travel solo, wear whatever I want without victim blaming and support LGBTQIA rights. I left Islam for feminism. 💖
I’ve noticed how feminist on twitter avoid criticizing Islam. It’s hard to believe they will criticize everything from media, Christianity, imperialism, white supremacy but they draw the line at Islam. A religion that oppressed millions of women.
Very awkward to see white feminists defending hijab when its premise is the reason why Muslim men in the West have to take classes on ‘how to not rape women who are uncovered.’ Lmao
I will never understand people who think dating broke men is the “safer” option. Broke men are actually more likely to be abusive and put you in debt. They’re angry about being at the bottom of economic latter and will pull you down with them.
Consent can be revoked at any time. Even if you’re undressed. You can always revoke consent. Being in bed and undressed does not mean there’s free reign. Consent is ongoing and can change at anytime.
The reason why women who remove the hijab are met with hostility and violence is because the hijab is actually a leash. Removing the leash is reclaiming your power.
People romanticize obeying their parents because that was their only medium of receiving love. Love that is contingent upon receiving permission and approval because you’re afraid of losing housing or support is abuse. This is the conversation we need to have.
Virginity testing is sexual assault. Stop inflicting sexual abuse onto young girls in the name of religious sanctity. It’s absolutely disgusting and must be abolished. Male-worshipping religions have no place in our liberation.
I’m jealous of women who can wear whatever they want, go wherever they desire and date the person of their choosing without ever worrying about honor killing. These women are so free.
Feminists cannot be afraid to critique Islam and its violence against women including honor killings, virginity testing, compulsory hijab, guardianship laws and child rape. No institution is above criticism.
Child marriage is more legalized than abortion. Exploiting children is “morally acceptable” but as soon as a woman demands autonomy and control over her body, there’s a problem. Lmao that’s why I can’t take any religion seriously.
I’ve accepted that I probably won’t reconcile with my family about living the life I want. Choosing yourself is an act of self-preservation. Just remember they wouldn’t ask their sons to sacrifice the life they want for them. Because misogyny.
I grew up wearing jilbaab, never went out passed 6pm, never dated or had friends, didn’t wear perfume or makeup, always gave up my power. Now, look at me. Breaking free is possible! 🎉
White “feminists” who defend the hijab are weak links lmao. Why are you afraid? How are you going to defend a symbol that was used to separate women you can rape (female slaves) and women you can rape after marriage (wives)? Do better!
Can we abolish the idea that your parents always want what’s best for you? Sometimes, what they believe is best for you perpetuates oppression (misogyny, racism, sexism, homophobia). I’m always critical. I always ask: is this “best” for whom?
I hate how hijab pits women against each other. I grew up being I was better and purer than non-hijabis. I was told I’d get married unlike those “whores.” I was 13. It’s dangerously patriarchal. I love how I’m the antithesis of my upbringing. 👌🏾
Ever since I left Islam, I can travel solo, date someone of another faith, divorce my husband, and I can even refuse him sex! Whoa. Is this what liberation feels like?
Do Somali people who are in uproar about gentrification in their cities realize they’re gentrifiers when they go back home and displace poor Somalis just so they can live in newly built villas?
There is nothing a woman can do to warrant an honor killing. Nothing will justify honor killings including drinking alcohol, dating, sex, solo travel, or leaving Islam. Men get to kill women and STILL live. Honor killing is femicide.
Hijab “bans” in France will never be as detrimental as mandatory hijab in Muslim countries. Women are denied education, beaten, stoned & even killed for refusing to wear hijab. If anything, I would be grateful if I had the opportunity to take it off without getting beat to death.
Sorry, you can’t be a feminist & support hijab. Women and girls are forced into hijab through state-sanctioned laws, imprisonment & honor violence. You cannot prioritize the minority of women who are brainwashed over the realities of those suffering under patriarchal domination.
“Israa did all the right things and she was still killed.” Israa could’ve done all the wrong things and she STILL should not have been killed. Honor killing is another word for femicide.
Parents need to prepare their daughters for self-sufficiency not marriage. I know of so many girls whose lives are unnecessarily difficult because they were not adequately prepared for this world.
“Islam is a feminist religion.” Which part? The part where women are told they’re deficient in intellect or that a woman’s testimony is half of a man’s? Is it the normalization of child marriage? Do you even know what feminism is?
A lot of what we consider to be strict parenting is actually domestic violence. Calling it strict parenting undermines the severity of this abuse. Language is important.
Whenever I see someone wearing jilbaab or niqab in 150 degree weather, I wonder what could be “empowering”about risking heat stroke. Men are walking around in shorts but you’re the one suffering, so you don’t get raped. How exactly is that liberating?
At 19, I was “mature” enough to get married and have children, but I wasn’t mature enough to go to the movie theaters, travel solo or move out. Very interesting.
Muslim women being afraid and living double lives doesn’t come out of thin air. We are afraid of getting killed for choosing the partner we want, wearing whatever we want, traveling alone etc. Deep down, we know what we’re risking. It’s a hard pill to swallow.
Muslim women in the west love talking about how empowering Islam is, but wouldn’t trade places with women in actual Muslim countries like Pakistan, Iran or Somalia. They have more rights, protection and freedom living amongst infidels. 🙃
I believe the reason why Muslims are defending Andrew Tate is because he is following in prophet Mohamed’s footsteps: sex trafficking, exploitation, disregard of the rule of law, bigotry etc. it’s embarrassing.
I need people to treat Islam with the same energy they treat Christianity. They’re both colonizer religions that enslaved and mass murdered people. You can’t denounce one and praise the other.
“Ex-Muslims are obsessed with Islam.” Babe, it’s legal to kill us in 13 countries and every other verse in the Quran is about either imprisoning/murdering infidels. That peaceful religion is obsessed with us.
Girls who break free from internalized misogyny are incredibly powerful. To break those mental chains is no small feat. People are taken aback at how much I love and prioritize women. Internalized misogyny is assuming I must be sexually attracted to women to love them.
I wore a gold thong swimsuit while vacationing in Rosario Islands & I returned home unassaulted. The men respected me because despite whatever I was wearing, they understood consent & saw my value. When I wore jilbaab, I was groped often. You just want a reason to assault women.
Muslims believe honor killings are mercy killings. They believed it was better for me to be dead than live a life of sin. The entitlement and narcissism. Whew. Glad I escaped.
Only supporting abortion when a woman’s life is in danger or after she’s been raped is also anti-choice. Women shouldn’t have to endure violation, trauma or suffering to receive access to abortion.
YOU CANNOT BE PRO-BLACK AND TRANSPHOBIC.
YOU CANNOT BE PRO-BLACK AND MISOGYNIST.
YOU CANNOT BE PRO-BLACK AND HOMOPHOBIC.
YOU CANNOT BE PRO-BLACK AND ABLEIST.
YOU CANNOT BE PRO-BLACK AND CLASSIST.
When I was 19, my mom tried to force me into marrying a 27-year old man I didn’t know. I remember her saying, “if you love me, you will do this.” I told her no. I knew I’d rather give that love to myself. Now, I have the life I’ve always dreamed of.
Marital rape absolutely exists. A woman’s legal relationship to a man is not permanent consent. Certain religions will even tell women they’re cursed if they deny their husband sex. This is legitimized misogyny.
The day I took off the hijab was the happiest day of my life even better than getting my first degree and buying my own car. My confidence and self-love improved drastically. Whew, face and body!! 🥂
I support burning the hijab. I had to quit my job because my family would show up to make sure I was wearing hijab correctly. That oppressive rag held me back from living my dreams.
I wish people would stop with the lie that trauma makes you resilient and stronger. Trauma makes you traumatized and can even disable you. It’s not a badge of honor at all. No one should endure such levels of violence and oppression in the first place.
There is no need to send me DM’s about how non-violent your religion is. You need to convince Muslim men, so they’ll stop beating and honor killing you. Direct your energy where it matters.
Claiming Islam over your Somali identity is just internalized anti-Blackness. Muslims treat you like shit in their respective countries because they see you as BLACK first.
They are obsessed with forcing women to cover their heads with that rag. It’s an outright act of power and control. That’s why I’ll spend the rest of my life naked. Fuck ‘em.
This is why the hijab will never be feminist. There is no equivalent where a woman can exert power over a man’s appearance and enact laws to police men. Hijab emboldens men to police and control women.
Virginity testing is very prevalent in the Muslim world. It’s expected that you’ll have sex on white sheets on your wedding night, so they can parade blood stains as proof. It’s also common to specify whether you’re a virgin or not on a marriage certificate. It’s sexual assault.
I had the most interesting experience in Colombia. Colombian men thought I was Afro-Colombiana. As soon as they realized I was a western English-speaking only tourist, they treated me better and softer. Suddenly, they wanted to protect me.
We need an ex-Muslim version of Unorthodox because our stories are beyond necessary. First time tasting alcohol, wearing a bikini, sex, dating, travel etc. Where is our representation?
I’ll never forget when my Muslim family told me they were going to hire a lawyer lmao. Sorry but how are you going to take me to court because I want to wear a bikini and drink champagne?
Telling women not to travel solo is rooted in misogyny. It insinuates that a world without gender-based violence is out of reach when it’s not. Men could just choose not to assault or violate women. It’s easy.
The reason I share my story is because so many ex-Muslims in Muslim countries cannot openly denounce that religion. They will get killed. Seeing someone abandon a violent religion, then traveling alone to far away places and writing about it is transformative. I’m their voice.
Taking off the hijab was the happiest day of my life. More memorable than graduating college or buying my first car. That rag held me back for years: lost opportunities, employment, dating, social life. It was hell.