Dom/top and bottom/sub are. not. the. same. They are not synonyms. You can bottom without subbing. You can top without domming. The difference is power exchange.
I really hate that I have to add the qualifier QUEER before FEMME now because all these straight women are coopting this. Fem/Femme is not yours if you aren’t in queer community. It is not a synonym for woman OR feminine.
I want younger queers to understand the historical implications of throwing the word pedophile around directed at older queer + esp trans people. This is a criminal archetype that’s been used to target homosexual and/or gender non-conforming people for centuries.
Reminder: BDSM relationships do not need to involve traditional sex acts at all. The S in BDSM does not stand for sex. Kink is expansive and it’s super sad that people think being a bottom or a sub is just about getting fucked.
Homosexuality (and variations) created identities that today are rainbow stickers completely severed from the knowledge of how it arrived here in this cute package, that is to say that GAY SEX WAS ILLEGAL!!!! Sex is so important to queer culture BECAUSE IT WAS CRIMINALIZED!
May 2020 be the year that people really grasp the concept that what consenting adults do is truly no one else’s business, and fantasy enacted in a scene a isn’t an indication of real life. Amen.
I made my girlfriend/sub a sticker rewards book where she gets affirmations for doing things that are good for her and encourage her growth. Stickers for setting boundaries, sharing her feelings, and doing things that are difficult. 🥰
Mom can you come pick me up the straights just learned that pegging isn’t actually a feminist act but merely anal sex with a different name so the men don’t think they’re f*ggots.
To everyone who is scared to share art they made about their shitty ex, just remember that Beyoncé wrote an entire album about how her current husband cheated on her!!! Tell your story!!!
There’s so much history that’s erased and sanitized when we remove sex from sexuality. As if being gay wasn’t criminalized by the act of SODOMY!!! Fuck your respectability!
Declaring older gays as pedos for funsies isn’t radical or cool and actually makes you more aligned with the fucking CIA than any “queer community” you think you’re a part of.
Gay BDSM: I piss on my sub. We don’t even touch each other. This is the best sex I’ve ever had.
Straight BDSM: I fist my sub’s asshole and keep him in chastity. This is not sex.
Hey guys we’re bringing BACK flagging! We heard about it on TikTok and apparently no one has done it for at least 40 years. We’re totally reviving the hanky code straight from the leather elders we’ve been consulting. Except no violence ❤️🔥 so black now means holding hands 👉👈
The Ultimatum is propaganda for uwu handholding sapphics. Someone mentioned an orgy and everyone clutched their pearls! Someone said it made them uncomfortable. This shit is so boring!! Can someone make a show about polyam dyke perverts please.
I think one of the hardest concepts to explain to people who aren’t already into BDSM is that for some people sex can be being put in a corner and ignored or like having someone rub their feet on your face.
Being SM and D/s oriented is like instead of thinking “Will I ever find love again?” I think “Will I ever have a service sub again?” like will someone ever clean my apartment in lingerie and get rewarded with a beating everrrr againnnn 😢
Every time I see a really hot top I question for a solid minute if I could bottom. Do bottoms do this? Switches are you aware that you’re winning all the time?
Please I beg of you don’t ever be the girl at the gay party who insists on talking to me about how god cursed you by being straight and how awful men are and how much you LOVE lesbian bars bc men aren’t hitting on you and … I beg of thee!!!
This new(?) dyke(?) metaphorical language everyone’s using of wanting your crush to destroy/crush/murder you is really a let down when as a sadist top I know there’s not that many people who want to actually be destroyed. 🙄
Here’s the thing about consent- it’s ongoing and cyclical and it’s not for anyone else to decide. It can be given and taken away at any time without question or explanation. I don’t play with people who don’t exercise their own agency in saying both No and Yes.
Eating brunch at a fancy spot and my girlfriend lifts her shirt all the way up to show me her new sheer bra, I grab her by the neck and whisper in her ear that she’s a bad girl — leatherdykes in love.
I am so tired of hearing people say things like “lesbians don’t have orgies!” or “dykes don’t cruise!” how about you build community* with the people doing the things you want to do instead of taking a quick peek around and crying that what you’re looking for doesn’t exist?!
There’s a post being shared by basically everyone I follow on IG that makes me really sad. “If I’m friends with your abuser, DM me and that will change.” Wow people really must think they’re incapable of causing harm, of abusing. 1/4
On my long drive today I learned that OG Christmas was a 12 days long party full of orgies, cross-dressing, furries, and demanding gifts from the wealthy. Bring back Christmas!!!
Someone asked if the leatherdyke picnic is bi/pan friendly. I unfortunately don’t understand the question. Do people not know what a dyke is?! Do people want to actually bring their str8 boyfriends? Dyke does not mean lesbian (and even lesbian is an expansive identity). Help.
Whenever someone says to me “Oh, my friend is into bdsm you might know him” is it appropriate to say “No offense, but I really don’t know any men...”? 😂