@DeanAbbott True. But where there is splitting involved, the person may experience transient feelings of genuine remorse and empathy and yet under stress the harmful behavior will continue to repeat. (As will the casting of you as the wrongdoer.)

@romyromy21_ Yes. To believe that we have accurate statistics about this is woefully unscientific.

@MarkLRuffalo In many of these cases, a court-ordered psychiatric evaluation employed the principal you stated here, and diagnosed the safe parent with BPD or other mental disturbances, and awarded custody or visitation to the parent who ultimately killed the children.

@earnestdrollery Thank you for your lovely essay!

@earnestdrollery Also -- do you follow the Cultivating Place podcast? I think you might love it.

RT @naomicfisher: What a strange thing we do to our young people in this culture and time. We make them spend several years learning thing…

@earnestdrollery 😂

@MarkLRuffalo That’s a very old comedy bit fyi

@cbokhove Thanks, I'll do a search for your past threads.

@cbokhove Thanks! Has anyone written a good critique of it (or are you going to do it?)

@JonathanShedler @Apple drag and drop

@_drakenvlieg @NA_Dellsey We read to her; we answered her questions; we read and wrote constantly ourselves; her sister read constantly. We did no phonics. How she put it all together in her mind I have no way of knowing. It just emerges, often rather suddenly. It's quite interesting.

@_drakenvlieg @NA_Dellsey So my point is that school is a place where children are often not able to learn either reading or a second language in an implicit way. The circumstances for implicit learning are not present. But this is a feature of school, not a feature of human cognition.