editorial director
@scalevp
, essays editor
@The_Rumpus
, writing in The Cut, Buzzfeed, Electric Lit, Catapult, Vox, and other publications both dead and alive
The thing I can't stop thinking about for Simone Biles is the narrative that she withdrew for her mental health, which is true, but she withdrew because her mental health put her physical health in real jeopardy. That's how mental health works. It's not just being nervous.
Sent a pitch, didn't get a response, saw the article written by a staff writer. (I'm not saying they stole it, I'm more mad at myself for not pushing harder to place it at another publication.)
@rachsyme
I'd be surprised if you hadn't watched it because you have great taste and Netflix, but Lovesick! I have such a hard time selling it to people because the premise is based on STDs but it's so charming.
We’re open for nonfiction submissions through the end of the month at
@The_Rumpus
! Send us something, make me cry (it’s not hard).
If you’re like, shit, I need more time, members get access to a special Submittable portal and can submit yearround.
The steaming thing was mostly a joke because I would rather commit to a bit than be earnest about how my marriage is the best thing I’ve ever done but I’m grateful to all of the photoshop wizards out there!
My personal brand is so strong that my mother-in-law went to Paris and got me the same glassware that I’d gotten for myself in Barcelona four years prior.
We are spending a week with my niece at the end of the summer. She's almost five. I'm buying a tie-dye kit but what else should we do? The goal is to be a cool aunt and to give my SIL a break.
My brother called me last night and told me he’d had a bad day and remembered what I told him about trying to experience joy in things vs. achieve happiness. He had an iced coffee and sat outside and he said it helped. If this is my legacy I am cool with that!
I was really hoping not to have to do this but I need a lawyer to help me hunt down a five figure overdue freelance payment. Anybody know someone good?
I’m getting a ton of rejections (pitching more, applying for jobs) and to make sure I am not persistently miserable, I’m doing a lot of fun things like making stuff and taking my dogs to the beach. It’s been a terrible year, I’m having a delightful time!
The most uncool thing about me is how much I love being married. My husband is making pie crust while I sit on the couch and read with the dogs. It’s lovely.
It's been four years since my first essay publication and while I am sometimes mad at myself for not doing more—both not starting earlier and not doing more in that time—it's also wild that I totally changed my life just because I wanted to.
The biggest marketing tip I have is that no one cares why anything is important to you, only why it’s important to them. It’s not revolutionary, but it’s still the most common edit I give on copy.
What if I published a book of essays and it was about mental illness and money and addiction and family but was maybe also a little funny and not as depressing as it sounds?
We got good news about Penny’s heart yesterday! She has stabilized and, most importantly, has a dramatically reduced risk for heart failure. The best news for the best pup!
I’m putting together my docs for taxes and can say for sure that I cleared five figures every month as a freelancer. I don’t know a lot, but this is what I do know (thread)
Some of the meanest shit that’s ever been said to me has been under the guise of this. Honestly it makes it harder to actually hold boundaries because I never want to be this person.
For
@bustle
, I interviewed people who've been on the flip-side of "therapy speak" — ghosted, bailed on, friend-dumped — and spoke to experts to see how we can avoid hurting others in the name of self-care. Give a read!
I took an exercise we do in class and made it into a craft essay. Inspired by a conversation between
@taffyakner
and
@lizweil
, it gets at what you’re actually trying to do with your essay and the questions that help you get there.
A few years ago a no-longer-friend made fun of how I wrote dialogue in a draft and it’s been stuck in my head since. Last night my writing group said I should only write dialogue. So, maybe I’m writing a screenplay and also don’t listen to people who aren’t on your side!
I tell this story every year but Richard and I got together because my roommate broke up with her boyfriend on Valentine’s Day so we went out, drank too much tequila, and I called him for a ride home. Be young and stupid, but never drink and drive!
I love this approach and apply it to literally everything. Jobs, fellowships, friendships, etc. I do my best. If it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t exist anymore!
@blktinabelcher
I’ll be 32 next week. Since I was 28, I published for the first time (so you’re way ahead where I was), got married, changed careers twice, and more than doubled my salary. But more than those things, I feel like I know myself a lot better, which makes so much more possible.
I am the friend you call when you want permission to do the thing you want to do. Adopt a puppy? Yes. Quit your job? Yes. Cut a person out of your life? Do it. You’ve already made the decision! I will help you rationalize it.
I just got a particularly brutal rejection before a cross country flight, giving me 5.5 hours to really sit with all of my failures. Or maybe I’ll watch a movie!
If you're a freelance writer or editor looking to expand your skillset, I highly recommend looking into instructional design. It capitalizes on the same skills, you learn a lot as you work, and it's generally more chill than other content work streams.
@svershbow
I’ve gotten disparagement on fiction vs. nonfiction (a little from women, too, the girl boss types) because novels are for leisure (??) and nonfiction is to better yourself (obviously, I disagree with the premise!).
To be clear, even though it always feels sketchy, I truly don’t think they stole my story, I just think it was a good idea I could have placed elsewhere and didn’t. That’s on me and something for next time.
If you saw someone sobbing on 101, it was me! Turns out, progressive diseases progress sometimes. We’re making some changes and have more aggressive treatment options if those don’t get us anywhere. In the meantime, snuggles, treats, beach trips, etc.
I very much agree with this. After I wrote about my, I don’t know, breakdown?, last year, a lot of friends reached out to say I could have talked to them. It’s sweet and appreciated, but what I needed was medical attention.
I’m not saying that folks who are depressed don’t need friendship and support, they do, but that friendship is terribly insufficient. I think we as a society owe a more supportive community of care. Good access to free/affordable therapy, medical care, and treatments that work.
One of my 2023 resolutions is to tell at least one person a week how much I like their work. It costs nothing, it feels great, and it takes five minutes.
A year ago this week I left my full time job to freelance. I am generally happier and make a lot more money! The most unexpected thing is that it feels more secure than FTE. I’ll probably do a learnings thread at some point but for right now I’m just enjoying the moment.
I'm teaching a workshop on writing about family with
@CatapultStory
! We'll talk about ethics, form, craft, feelings, and so much more. More info and how to sign up at the link!
Got a new job in the worst market of my adult life, started a new book, made a bunch of great knitware, generally abandoned what wasn't working for me and found other things that did.
Completing my dressing like a 12 year old boy style transformation with the Levi’s my brother wore in middle school that I stole from my parents’ house.
If I did a tech writers who also do creative writing meet up or book club or writers group or whatever, would that be fun for people? Like, would you come?
Nothing happens for a year and then I get three editors in my inbox asking me what I'm working on in two weeks. Yes, I do have some book projects, let's talk immediately, let's be best friends forever!!
Selling out is harder than you'd think, according to my inbox full of emails asking me how to do it. Also, I am a better writer now that I don't have to sell my work to cover my basic needs.