Tristan Taormino®
@TristanTaormino
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Author | Sex Educator | College Speaker | Public Health Consultant | Podcast Host. tristan at https://t.co/0Mr43mjLA4.
Los Angeles, CA
Joined September 2008
It's actually happening!! My new memoir, which will be published by @DukePress in the fall, is now available for pre-order I am both thrilled & terrified to put this work out in the world.
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Note to other platforms, if you can afford to lose 30% of your audience, 30% of your income, or 30% of your users, cool, keep up the anti-sex bullshit.
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This week on @SexOutLoudRadio, tune in to my interview with @PupAmp, the reigning @MrFriendly & host of @WattsTheSafewrd who is suing YouTube for LGBTQ+ discrimination. Listen live 5 pm PT/8 pm ET or on demand @VoiceAmVariety @applepodcasts @googleplay @stitcher @spotify
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I’m officially on the Fleabag bandwagon. Binged both seasons. It is so brilliant. One of the best television shows. Phoebe Waller Bridge is fucking brilliant.
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Hey hive mind. In the mid 1990s there was a cheap restaurant in the Village near NYU with vaguely Asian food frequented by students & starving artists. They made a great vegan tofu with carrot sauce. Do you remember what it was called? Thanks in advance.
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Hello from the Birthday Girl! Thank you for all the beautiful birthday wishes! It's been a challenging, joyful, difficult, fast-moving, blissful year. Today I’m putting the work down to do some of my favorite things. 📸 by Dean Capture for Sexual Health Magazine.
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@fakedansavage @NewYorker I have a brand new in the box Earring Magic Ken, he is a prized possession….
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Loved it when @MSNBC played 30 seconds of Trump press conference, then cut away and said - “those are lies, disinformation, and we won’t air it.”.
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Finally binge watched all of Killing Eve. SO GOOD.
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I have worked with, had sex with & loved SWs. I’ve done sex work. Sex work is work. Support sex workers today and everyday.
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Abortion in AL is currently STILL LEGAL. This bill will not take effect anytime in the near future & abortion will remain a safe, legal medical procedure at all AL clinics —@ACLUAlabama. Support @YellowFund, a local non-profit that helps fund abortions.
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The fact that cops know everyone has a cell phone, everyone is filming from all angles and they still behave this way is SOCIOPATHIC.
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Abolish the Electoral College.
Once again, the fact that we haven’t declared a winner in the presidential race when one of the candidates leads nationally by ~3M votes because everything hinges on how a few thousand people voted in a couple of states makes zero sense.
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So proud to say that you can see 90% of these in my porn. Thanks to all the performers I’ve worked with for taking their time, stepping outside the box, ditching the formula, saying what they really want, being honest & real, getting vulnerable, & boldly sharing their sexuality.
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Pleasd VOTE. I did ballot by mail & they still give you a sticker. Is this where I’m supposed to put it? #citizenboobs
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Had a big crush a gorgeous woman who was my housemate’s friend & would come over once in a while. She was stunning, opinionated, a star. So glad to see everyone giving her all the well-deserved love on Twitter today. I see you @angelicaross 😚.
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This is really important.
A new HIV prevention technique has proven remarkably effective at protecting women against the virus. A new study finds a single injection of a drug called cabotegravir given every two months was more effective than a daily oral dose of Truvada.
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I did it! All the courses, bio-fucking-statistics, original qualitative research for my final project. Just handed in the last paper for my last class. My degree will be conferred in May. At 51, I’ve earned my Masters degree in Public Health from GW.
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I am so excited to share the news that @dukepress is publishing my memoir A PART OF THE HEART CAN'T BE EATEN. I am beyond honored to work with such an incredible press. Thanks to all my @patreon supporters, my agent & loved ones for sticking with me during the long process.
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Just to be clear: my vet’s office and hair salon have more rigorous COVID protocols and practices than a Senate hearing.
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Fuck this administration. To all trans, non-binary, genderqueer and queer folks: our lives, our bodies are perfect the way they are and deserving of compassion and care. Our physical and mental health is important. This is absolutely inhumane. I see you and I will fight for you.
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@JoyAnnReid Yes, absolutely because I also think it would be more pleasant than the usual flying experience because people who get vaxxed actually care about other human beings, IMO.
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A PR person emailed asking me to blurb a book, the latest edition in an anthology series I CREATED & EDITED 17 VOLUMES OF, explained to me what the series is & made no reference to my role in establishing it as one of the longest running, bestselling series in LGBT publishing.
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Went to @okeeffemuseum. Yes, the vulvas. But can we talk about Georgia O’Keefe’s magnificent anal imagery in some of her pieces? It’s quite something. #santafe #iseeasseseverywhere
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Today is the anniversary of my father's death. He died of AIDS in Portland, ME in 1995. I miss him everyday. Being gentle w/myself today.
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Would you believe me if I told you I once went to a gay rodeo and posed for a photo topless with the actor who plays the Grinch’s dog/narrator in the televised Grinch Musical? How could I possibly make this up.
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Still reeling that a show I’ve fallen in love with mentioned my book! Thanks to the folks at Russian Doll for the love!!! #openingup
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I could talk to @Epiphora for hours about sex toys. She’s a national treasure. You know the way they honor film & art critics? Well they should do the same for sex toy critics. She’s at the top of her game.
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I’ve got 99 problems and capitalism and greed explain all of them.
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To whoever invented muffins: thank you for allowing me to eat cake for breakfast without judgment.
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I just got served a non alcoholic Jell-O shot by a male Playboy bunny while listening to 80s cover band Flashpants in Malibu. How’s your Saturday?.
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Hey I just posted my Open Letter to White People in Sex Ed Field and StorErotica Nominees on FB It's much too long to post here but I encourage you to read it. I will also post elsewhere for those not on FB. CC: @black_sexgeek.
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Capitalism is a death cult: ppl across industries & jobs say employers expect pre-pandemic levels of productivity. How can we possibly do that & manage pandemic trauma (for self & others)? It’s a form of violence: complete denial of our humanity.
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People I have an EXCLUSIVE sneak peek at tomorrow's @OhJoySexToy by @ErikaMoen just for you. No one has seen it yet!
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That @nytimes article on the “gender wars” is absolute shit. DO BETTER New York Times. Lift the voices of trans reporters and writers. Stop publishing bad science and pieces without thorough research. It’s HARMFUL.
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Lady Gaga was breathtaking. Jennifer Lopez - her best ever and the song arrangement was magic. When Kamala raised her hand, I gasped. Wow this is finally happening.
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Can we just eradicate the word "lifestyle" when used about/in association with LGBTQ people? 🏳️🌈.
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This is really important — the idea that the majority of porn performers have had surgery to “beautify” their vulvas is absolutely false.
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The problem is I don’t need a break like a vacation I need a break from humanity which is overwhelmingly inhumane. How do you keep moving toward?.
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I won my Blue Shield appeal & today I had a Medial Branch Block (a diagnostic procedure). Got some pain relief for about 6 hours & it’s a step toward (hopefully) getting a nerve ablation. #chronicpain
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I started following @kimacquaviva after I saw her speak at a conference & thought she was brilliant. Now I'm witnessing a palliative care specialist document the end of her partner's life. Thank you for teaching me more about end of life than anyone has (wish I had you in '95).
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Sometimes I want to change the world. Sometimes I want to tell people to shut the fuck up. Today’s it’s about 50/50. #truth.
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.@SmartAssJen joins me LIVE on @SexOutLoudRadio Fri. 1/20 5 pm PT/8 pm ET. We’ll talk trans representation, @HerStoryShow & @NashvilleCMT
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I didn't see that coming. Thank you @DeeDennis for the @CatalystCon Catalyst Award!! http://t.co/IC2JOKVmlA.
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@aaronhoyland @sexgeekAZ I’m pro stopping at stop signs, pro not running people over, pro giving up my seat for a disabled person, pro seat belt use, pro not cutting the line.
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Oh look that's me:.Lesbian Sex Educator Was NYC’s Real Life Carrie Bradshaw via @thedailybeast.
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Stupid gender reveal parties keep starting fires but here’s what should burn down: white supremacy, capitalism, billionaires. Please join in with your own list. .
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I'm seeking trans men to interview for academic study on sexual health & pleasure. You must be: 30-59; US resident; on T 2+ years; 1+ sexual partners in the last 6 mos. Email tristant (at) Please repost & share widely!.
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When do I get to crawl in one of my dog’s beds, sleep all day, be pet on the head and given treats? (@PupAmp I already know what you’re gonna say).
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Big life news: I started grad school in January! I’m going to get my Masters in Public Health @GWpublichealth. It has been a huge adjustment since I haven’t been in school for 27 years. The classes are challenging, but I’m really engaged with the material.
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When ppl say they want to have the freedom to make the choice to mask or not, vax or not, do they realize the number of other ppl their individual choices affect? We live in a society. It’s not just about you.
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If you wanna be my lover. you have to do manual labor and be willing to die.
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Well yeah….
Butt Plugs Were Originally Sold As A Miracle Cure For Headaches, Acne, And Insanity.
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Sabrina Duncan giving me hot dyke vibes on the Charlie’s Angels episode about a women’s football team.
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I #standwithstoya, Tori, Ashley & other survivors who come forward publicly or privately & especially those who cannot.
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We had such a blast at @fakedansavage’s @humpfilmfest on Saturday night! This is an absolute must-see every year: lots of different bodies, sex, desires, kinks, fantasies, and…confetti! @theellechase @theannehodder
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Today is Transgender Day of Remembrance. Trans folks are killed for simply being themselves. Let that sink in, cis folks. Honor the dead and fight like hell for the living. Art by Rae Senarighi.
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Anyone who does sex education, research, writing, performance, media, advocacy, Say goodbye to your Twitter presence.
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Just heard this from a friend in South Carolina: “I’m the only one wearing a mask when I go out to walk or get groceries. Here, wearing a mask is like announcing ‘I’m a rabid leftist/liberal.’” Is Covid-19 a partisan issue in any other countries? Welcome to America.
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Life is just a series of emails of people apologizing to each other for not replying sooner.
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Sex workers should not be subject to violence or coercion anywhere nor should they be discredited bc of the work they do. Listen more.
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As I’m writing the memoir, I have revisited what messages & info I got about sexuality when I was growing up, what it means to be a slut & working hard to quiet a voice that says “when people read this book, they are going to judge you.” If you’d like, join me on Patreon.
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Mexico Night 3. The theme tonight was Petting Zoo. I threw this cheetah number together last minute, then decided to make this necklace out of a small service dog patch. I wanted it to spur conversations about consent and touch, #swingsetdesire
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Throwback to the World Pornography Conference in LA in 1998. L-r: Shayla LeVeaux, Nina Hartley, me, Betty Dodson.
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I could spend 40 hours a week just answering email, managing finances, and posting on social media. But when I am supposed to do the bulk of my work? Does anyone else have this problem?.
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Trans people of all ages: I see you, I love you, I stand with you. Anti-trans legislation is an act of violence against a community already dealing with too much violence. 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈.
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Don’t know who needs to hear this but we are doing the best we can. My moods have become wildly varied, unpredictable & sometimes disregulated. Loved ones may be acting out of character. Many of us are highly sensitive, vulnerable to other people’s energy & feel unprotected.
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Today in the midst of despair, I'll get up & moderate a panel for transgender awareness month which centers the experiences of trans POC.
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Voted with my vulva & brain today. Thanks @lalgbtcenter for their voter guide & this awesome tshirt I got at Dyke Day!
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Folks are having a really hard time & many are looking for therapists & coaches right now. The Open List features healthcare providers who are competent & experienced in LGBTQIA+ communities, BDSM, kink, polyamory, non-monogamy & other sex, gender, and relationship minorities.
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I went to sleep happy last night. Obligatory selfie.
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Took dogs we found to ER vet, they're microchipped! Brought them home to their people tonight! You never know what gift you'll give. #xmas.
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2.9 million people protested throughout the country in the largest protest is US. history…
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So. Much. Misogyny. Doesn't matter how accomplished you are, some dude in yr industry will disrespect you in a flash. Wow.
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Look 1. Thanks to @kinksterama for helping me pick it & Moose for boyscouting the hell out of it. #imsl2015
http://t.co/Acwjq05IBo.
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Happy Birthday Eli. We’ve been through a lot of transitions. You have changed people’s lives by having the courage to be out, visible & proud of who you are. I welcome your presence in my life as we continue to define it on our own terms. No boxes, no binaries, just ❤️❤️❤️.
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For anyone who needs this reminder. For anyone who needs to let go of a past relationship where you felt hopeless, helpless. You did it. You got through it.
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Today, I’m on a panel about BDSM & co-presenting “Not All Sex Workers Are Trafficked: How to Address & Resist Stigma” w/ @VCarlisle at the 2019 State of Michigan HIV & STD Conference. Pic from last year where @markerninja hand draws keynotes & presentations in real time.
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Jack Thompson Is the First Trans POC to Win International Mr. Leather
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Last night’s two looks for @BawdyStory. Arrived in my gold moto leggings from @nordstromrack and sequin boots (gift from @irobyn). On stage look: amazing sheer glitter & sequin dress bought from a @sexdownsouthatl vendor in Atlanta. it leaves a trail of glitter wherever I walk!
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