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To say “I don’t see race” in a country where race was the metric for humanity is to functionally state “I choose not to see injustice.”
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there's massive demand for housing that's affordable for people earning $15/hr ($30,000/yr) or less yet the free market doesn't seem to be kicking in. weird
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a "genital inspection" that is not medically necessary is sexual assault. i believe we need to make sure we're using that language. these grandparents wanted to sexually assault a 9 year old girl who was ostensibly doing better in the race than their grandchild.
Grandparents attending a school track meet in Kelowna stopped the event and demanded a 9 year-old female student be examined to make sure they weren't a boy competing in a girls event.
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folks keep calling for unity instead of accountability, not realizing unity without accountability is precisely how we got here.
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let’s talk about why we are no longer hitting kids! in a word? research! we now have five decades of peer reviewed reproducible studies looking at kids’ behavior, outcomes, and brain scans. no matter the angle, hitting kids is always bad for them. no exceptions.
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i sincerely wish more people understood how much of “willpower” is actually just dopamine regulation. That our in/ability to do everything we need to is almost exclusively brain chemistry and has nothing to do with moral character.
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as a kid i remember distinctly being told by adults how awful it was that kids in the soviet union couldn’t learn real history, they could only learn state sanctioned propaganda.
these exact same people are now advocating for banning books and history in the US.
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hi please stop telling anyone with a uterus to "get an IUD" and start telling everyone with a penis to get a vasectomy
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conservative evangelical parents were SO terrified of raising liberals that they inadvertently raised a bunch of radical leftists
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this whole Duggar mess is leading me to think we need to discuss the ways in which purity culture hinders essential skill-building and requires teens be secretive about their sexuality in ways that lead directly to predation
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respectfully i reject the premise of “being civil”
large groups of wealthy white men sat around for centuries civilly discussing the genocide and enslavement of millions of people. politely. over tea.
i do not believe in being nice i believe in liberation.
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@morninggloria
this is why i tell everyone that the nuclear family is a scam. babies need more than two full time adults if everyone is to maintain their mental well-being. we got got
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the one thing gentrification does is prove definitively that poor, underserved, actively neglected neighborhoods are a choice - a violent choice - made by city leadership and capitalists and NOT a reflection of some moral failing or cultural inferiority on the part of residents.
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hi your kids are supposed to lose their emotional regulation on *you*
you are their person, it’s literally your job to be a safe place for them to let their nervous system air out.
YOU aren’t emotionally regulated 100% of the time. stop demanding regulation of brand new people.
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calm is an immoral response to state agents executing children.
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turns out, facts don’t care that you think you “turned out ok” despite being hit. if you are on the internet arguing that adults should be allowed to physically assault someone 1/3 their size? you did not in fact turn out ok
thankfully for all of us, therapy + medication exist
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@artcrimeprof
@metmuseum
you, literal professor of art crime: this is the scene of the crime!
rando anons on here who can’t use a real name bc the feds or something: k but lemme mansplain how you didn’t do your due diligence and are just making stuff up
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behavior: hitting kids does not get them to improve their behavior long term. it puts their nervous system into “fight or flight” meaning the preponderance of their brain’s resources are focused on “just SURVIVE this”. fight or flight actually hinders learning and self-regulation
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“Resilience doesn’t come from difficultly. it comes from being cared for during difficulty.”
- Anna Skates, completely wrecking an entire western construct. a normal friday.
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I’ve always been deeply dissatisfied with how we discuss purity culture by saying you are expected to “flip a switch” on your wedding night from “sex = extremely bad” to “sex = extremely good” without a transition period.
you’re expected to do so much more than flip a switch 🧵
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outcomes: on the whole, how do kids who are hit fare when compared to kids who weren’t hit? in a word: worse. kids who are hit experience anxiety, depression, violent outbursts at a rate higher than their peers who are not hit. they have *less* “self control” than kids who aren’t
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i don’t think people don’t know this because of malice, ignorance, or lack of intelligence. i think it’s because western psychology is based on capitalist normative paradigm where we all have to produce in order to eat and only some of us can actually do that without meds
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brain scans: MRIs show that people who were hit as kids 🙋🏽♀️ have less gray matter than people who weren’t. when your brain thinks it needs to devote a lot of resources to staying alive, there are, it turns our, fewer resources left for learning, regulating, and improving behavior
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unfortunately we can’t go back and have those developmental experiences we missed because our brains were focused on surviving. but all of us can resolve to advocate and agitate for protecting kids from violence in the home.
and that counts.
/fin♥️🔥💫🌿🌊
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ooo, since everyone is on board with nonviolence today let's go ahead and make adults hitting children for "disobedience" illegal 💕
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friendly reminder to liberals: your ring cam cancels out your Black Lives Matter sign 🤗
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related: i would give literally everything to end the myth that punching down is an effective way to get people to improve their lives and outcomes.
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now here’s the good news. this is not proof that people who were hit as kids are all destined to be failures. we can see that is untrue. what it means is that those of us who were hit as children have brains that are wired more toward survival than processing new information.
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if you were hit as a kid, you are not predestined to become a violent person incapable of learning new things.
at the end of the day, we just have fewer cognitive funds left in the account because our nervous systems were trained to believe the world requires hyper vigilance.
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evangelicals claim to worship a guy who died for his enemies but they won't even wear a mask to protect people they like
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i'm being told schools and parents are apparently supposed to keep medical documents with a student's DNA and birth certificate to produce to any random stranger who wanders in and starts screaming "that's not a real girl" and we're supposed to think that's reasonable? lol no.
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New rule: I refuse to allow people to say “we disagree” when they reject data and evidence.
We are not disagreeing. You are rejecting data. Those are not the same and if you are communicating with me, I will not allow you to conflate the two.
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when the wicked perish, there are shouts of joy.
- the actual Holy Bible
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if your vaccination status is considered private health information then so is my pregnancy status
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@latimes
“Morrone is now the fourth woman to stop dating DiCaprio after her 25th birthday as the Oscar winner’s age continues to rise like water on the Titanic.
DiCaprio, 47, has never publicly dated anyone older than a quarter-century.”
yeah, 911 gonna need that burn unit stat
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White evangelicals comforting Mary at Calvary: You know, if he just obeyed the law, this wouldn’t have happened.
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Y’all I wasn’t allowed to go trick or treating, play with Barbies, watch Disney movies, or go to school.
Evangelical boomers ADORE cancel culture. 💓 Just not when it’s done to them.
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@lyta_gold
@YasminYonis
as a mom i firmly believe one of the most generous things you can do for your community is to not have kids you don’t want. 💕
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@TomiLahren
thank you for your concern but we are currently not accepting feedback from the party responsible for the deaths of 350,000 americans.
try again next year.
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y'all know that "staying calm" is a physiologically abnormal response to a cop with a gun right?
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You are not allowed to be honest about your sexuality within purity culture. you certainly aren’t allowed to act on any of it. if you do explore your sexuality as a teen - something that is completely biologically appropriate - you are encouraged (shamed) to “repent and confess”
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Everyday is a good day to talk about how research study participants are whiter and more affluent than the general population but this headline really drives the point home.
Having Sex Once a Week Makes People Happier Than Earning an Extra $50,000
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@SEAConsv
fascinating! people only deserve safe, affordable housing under certain conditions. what an unusual presupposition!
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@TheEconomist
Idea: stop pitting women against trans people like we’re undergoing some kind of civil rights rationing. Y’all act like those of us who aren’t cis/het white men have to duke it out for whatever scraps they leave on the table. Rights aren’t pie.
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So having worked in a neuroscience lab for three years, I’m at the point where I no longer believe that kids misbehave. Kids do as well as they can given their current brain development and whether their physical and emotional needs are being met.
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i’m afraid to ask how many of these texas bounty hunters will be angry boyfriends and exes and husbands
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@suchaputz
@andreanatalemd
If anyone is so inclined, my mans employer might be encouraged to open an investigation into the way he has treated his Black patients over the years.
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*taps mic*
PEOPLE REMAINING IN POVERTY COSTS THE GOVERNMENT MORE THAN PROVIDING SOCIAL SERVICES
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america: telling children that they’re individually responsible for the crucifixion of Christ on the cross but nobody is responsible for Black bodies on the lynching tree
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@BrendonLeslie
nothing on earth would in any way entitle you to the equivalent of three full work years of unpaid labor from a woman to whom you provide literally nothing. forced labor is usually called slavery.
also this didn’t happen.
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@Sleepy_Reader
@traceyh415
i think it’s less about the legality, and more that no one is there to make sure your rights are protected when you’re incarcerated. it’s really just the discretion of the people who work there, who, it’s worth noting are often cruel and lacking meaningful oversight.
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I say this on
@gohomebible
all the time and I will die on this hill: the only reason a stranger "needs to know" what is in your pants is because that person is deciding whether or not they are going to treat you like a human being.
human dignity and autonomy are not gendered.
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@shaboom
it's interesting that they believe the majority of us only deserve a trickle, seeing as we're far more than half the country.
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reframing “there’s no such thing as free will”
if we think of brain chemistry as USD, we could say you get $10k/mo while i get $700. we both get to make choices with our “income”! but we don’t have anywhere near the same number of available options. i will run out far sooner.
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I think we've framed housing entirely backward. We talk about housing as a debate or a privilege to be earned, not a need essential to human survival. Americans are dying of exposure every single day, and it's not even mentioned. We're having the wrong conversation.
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someone plz explain how the "don't live in fear" people and the "crime is everywhere! i need a thousand guns!" people are the exact same people?
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White people who say “I want to learn without causing harm” and white people who say “I want to learn without being uncomfortable” are very different white people.
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would they wear masks if it would save the unborn?
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@H_MitchellPhoto
@jjingle3
Well well well if it isn’t the consequences of their own actions.
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@LordNishar
@probheardright
haha right? it’s almost like the market… cares about something other than the market? lol
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Once you reach adulthood or marriage, you go from a prison-like setting with absolutely zero agency to having no guards, consequences, or accountability. But you have no idea how to operate in a free setting because you’ve literally never experienced it before!
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@BenBonnema
@TraderJoesUnion
lol 90% of these “medical conditions” are... being white and too manly for a mask.
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WOW, this is a piece that i had forgotten.
within purity culture, all nudity is inherently sexual. this is why 3 year old girls are required to “be modest” so that adult men don’t become “overwhelmed with uncontrollable lust”
literally.
we were groomed to predators AND prey.
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You’ve never been taught about consent. You’ve never been taught how to control yourself when you have a sexual urge that you should not act on. You don’t even have the language to express your sexual desires. And now you’re completely unchecked.
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The thing about missing developmental milestones is you don’t get those neural connectivity gaps automatically filled in at a later date. In some cases they don’t get filled in at all. But now you are someone who has spent maybe a decade or more w/o any safe outlet for sexuality.
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But you don’t actually have the opportunity to in this hyper-controlling environment to practice any level of self restraint. All of your motivation to remain pure is external, primarily via shame or beatings.
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Dear fellow humans of color and those from historically marginalized groups,
Sitting down with racist white people to have ✌🏽conversations✌🏽 is legitimately, quantifiably bad for our mental health.
You do not have to do that shit unless you are being paid.
Love,
Me
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hear me out. if somebody has WALKED across the border they have already proven that they
• are a hard worker
• are goal-oriented
• have excellent follow-through
• are innovative
• are able to stay focused under stress
isn’t this exactly who we want to come here???
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Ok so the first Millennials are gonna be 40 in *checks watch* four months.
Yet Baby Boomers think Millennials are high school and college students and Alphas/Centennials/iGen-ers just... don’t exist? 😂
I know Millennials whose *kids* in are junior high. 🤷🏽♀️
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just to be perfectly clear: in the wealthiest nation on earth all poverty is manufactured.
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the destruction of Black wall street in Tulsa was not a race riot, it was ethnic cleansing.
language matters
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Honestly, we should be shocked more people who were raised in purity culture don’t become predators. Though the number is far higher than what we do know. We are experts at not getting caught and our default is to lie to protect ourselves. 🤷🏽♀️
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What I think I have: high pain tolerance
What I actually have: a predisposition toward the active denial of my own suffering
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my evangelical parents homeschooled me, spent MANY hours a week reading the bible to me, took me to church every time it was open, from birth to my early 20s.
i still turned out queer without any attachment to having a gender.
if your kid is gay, the bible won't change them.
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@stephenedwardc
@FoxNews
@NRA
Same. I’m here with Bible open. Can’t find the verse they’re referencing.
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It’s real fascinating how the people who taught me “the wages of sin is death” and “whatever someone sows, that will they also reap” are absolutely positively convinced that there will be no consequences for white America’s slavery, land theft, and genocide.
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White folks: here are some way I would like you to participate in Black History Month
• purchase books x black authors
• attend a local event (google. You can do it!)
• find 2-4 local black owned businesses to support
• subscribe to podcasts hosted by black folks
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as far as i’m concerned anyone raised evangelical gets one (1) get out of marriage free card
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Hi hello yes please remember (and state!) when you share Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs that his academic work came directly out of his summer experience with the Blackfoot people and they deserve credit for educating _him_
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This phenomenon is SO common. In purity culture, female-bodied people are always held responsible for boys’/men’s sexual misdeeds. we are told men cannot control their sexual urges, so it is our job. I was punished for being molested because i “caused a boy to stumble”
@ToriGlass
@mharvey816
Got blamed for my SF molesting me at 8-9 and the attempted rape on my 15th birthday.
I was going to hell for attending my proms etc. The only way my mother left is my siblings turning them in a year after i got married. The cops told her that she left or be charged too.
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within the framework of purity culture, sex is bad, your body is bad, your desire is bad, and you should feel shame for literally all of it
while dating/courting you aren’t actually getting to know someone because most of your executive function is consumed by DO NOT HAVE SEX
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After being saturated in sexual shame and stigma for maybe decades, you are required - with no knowledge of yourself and no idea what you like - to immediately become fully vulnerable with this person you’ve spent years trying to not touch.
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marriage cannot magically become an emotionally safe place to discover your sexuality, never mind emotional intimacy with another person, because sexuality requires exploring a body you’re terrified of. your body is inherently, fundamentally, structurally UNSAFE.
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Just so everyone is perfectly clear.
Rightwingers are setting up illegal armed checkpoints during literal evacuations to “find antifa”
Meanwhile antifa is collecting + distributing food, water, masks, and air purifiers.
One of these is basic morality. The other is malice.
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MY KIDS ARE GETTING VACCINATED TOMORROW 😭😭😭😭😭😭
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@hobbsisme
it's truly incredible. like maybe don't hijack an entire religious tradition if you don't like what it tells you to do?
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7yo: *starts harassing 10yo*
me: 7. stop it. 10 didn’t agree to that
7: he didn’t answer
me: no answer is a no
7: no answer is a yes
me: this is one of the most important things i need to teach you. no answer means _no_
7: what if they can’t answer?
me: then it’s a HELL no
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way too many adults think that hitting is an appropriate form of discipline for a child.
so let me be perfectly clear: your child's nervous system *cannot tell the difference* between punishment and assault.
there are no circumstances where this is not the case.
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it’s so amazing how many of our conservative parents love star trek when it’s literally a show about space communism
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I will say this. The appropriate response to a lynching is NOT tone/language policing Black folks.
The appropriate response to a lynching is to CONDEMN THE LYNCHING.
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Ok class, if you’ve been paying attention over the last two years, intersectionality, Critical Race Theory, and now the 1619 Project have all been deemed antithetical to Americanism.
And what do they have in common?
These frameworks were all created by Black women.
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@raycash_216
Hi there, I’m a woman, never (yet, I supposed it could still happen) been sexually assaulted. I know many women who have. None of them have ever received a dime in monetary compensation. How do you recommend they go about receiving said funding?
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