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the reason sex workers get upset about misrepresentation in pop culture is not that we need everything to be "authentic." it's that misrepresentation leads to mass ideology which leads to interpersonal violence and discrimination by the state. it's a fucking material concern.
if you think of
@StormyDaniels
as a free speech hero, i want you think about what it means that she was arrested last night for doing her job, how cops can simply decide where to draw the line between entertainment and crime when they want to make an example of a sex worker
Hey guys remember when I based a comic book villain off white gay men who throw sex workers under the bus in an effort to gain respectability and power?
Here's some Sex Work discourse 101 for ya: some people who do labor you might consider to be SW don't identify as SWers for all sorts of reason, for which they don't owe you an explanation. They deserve labor rights, and protections from the cops & psychopaths who profile them.
when you say porn stars aren't REAL, aren't HUMAN WORKERS, this contributes to a cultural environment where no one believes they deserve labor rights and protections, not to mention dignity
A nonprofit called Bedside Manner where experienced sex workers teach other professionals (doctors, tax preparers, lawyers, managers, etc) best practices for providing high quality emotional labor
it bugs me when someone is advised to stay w a partner despite incompatibility or betrayal so their kids' lives aren't disrupted. it implies that the worst thing that can happen to a kid is having separated parents. what about growing up in a home where adults resent each other?
i'm beside myself to announce i'm writing a
@vertigo_comics
scifi series about queer sex worker freedom fighters! Interiors by the versatile Michael Dowling, covers (including this gutting debut image) by
@tulalotay
, edited by the intuitive
@thatamedeo
What makes YOU feel like a whore? Some possibilities: Knowing your brand of red lipstick won't smudge. Banana, emergen-c, black coffee, mouthwash. Applying liquid eyeliner in a crosstown cab. The slight weight of a wad of bills in your boot. Coconut oil. Madacide. Sleeping in.
"No sex worker would write comedy like that. You want a funny comedy? Get a bunch of sex workers to write down the shit they talk about in strip clubs. Sex workers are fucking funny.” Thanks for this,
@IndieWire
Anybody else getting the whomp whomp pout from friends when you say no you still prefer not to hang out inside or eat at restaurants? A pout that calls to mind the image of a dude’s face when you tell him yes you still prefer to use condoms?
If you’re a creator making sex work pop culture and you say you “wanted to tell these women’s stories” after years of “research” I better not be hearing that you sat in the corner of the club thinking you were above paying workers for their time since you were there for your art
it's VERY simple and very easy. buy porn directly from porn stars. i promise you if you visit their social media profiles there will be clear instructions on how to do this on many secure platforms. we've been writing about this for a long-ass time.
it bugs me when people use the term "femme" as a catchall for women. it's often a good faith attempt to encompass cis & trans women as well as femme-of-center NBs w one word. but not all cis or trans women or NBs ID as femme. femme identity is separate from female identity.
As a queer women in comics, I get asked a lot about the male gaze. The concept remains a useful critique but I think it implies a binary where male gazey work is disrespectful while non male gazey work is morally correct and that’s just not true!
Start spreading the news! My queer leather sex worker rebel dystopian scifi action adventure SAFE SEX (SFSX) will start its original series run w
@ImageComics
in September! Like all ambitious invincible creatures, she’s a Virgo after all that, honey! 🖤⛓
if you "feel sad" for porn performers bc you think they won't be able to get any other job, YOU'RE probably the person who has the power to hire a qualified candidate for a non-porn job so perhaps it's YOU who should rethink your bias and hire more people who have done porn 💡
"Sexual exploration and
#liberation
teach us how to understand
#power
and the non-sexual ways it works," says
@tinahornsass
. "The more we're able to fully explore that with
#consenting
adults, the more we might notice the insidious ways power works on us."
listen. wearing a peg the patriarchy shirt to a fancy event is great, i'm for it. but when you know what those words mean, it's really saying "let's all break a sweat so the patriarchy can enjoy intense transgressive levels of pleasure" which isn't really the project, is it?
I had to put my emotional blinders on to report this. Last night, while working on edits, I finally watched some of August's scenes. Seeing her laughing and moaning cracked me open and I finally cried. A lot.
@RollingStone
#AugustAmes
My latest for
@RollingStone
ended up needing less rewrites than I anticipated following this morning's developments. Turns out the details of organizing, protesting, analyzing, satirizing, art-making, adapting, and movement building by SWers are evergreen!
so depressing to see wholesome words like masturbation, genital-genital, oral-genital, anal-genital, oral-anal, bodily fluids, hypnosis, intoxication, torture, hardcore bondage, fisting, and prostitution categorized with all kinds of words about violence and abuse smh
Free advice from an intimacy coordinator for actors w a background in BDSM: anyone who goes to deep emotional spaces for work/art/ and or play, who then needs to integrate back into real life post fictional embodiment, needs to plan for the comedown we call top drop & sub drop
Ppl seem to be confused so here’s the definition I use: Sex Worker is a political term coined by the prostitute activist Scarlot Harlot in the 70s to emphasis the need for labor rights w/in the sex industry. It encompasses escorts, pornographers, cam models, strippers, pro-BDSM
A white supremacist murdered eight Asian Americans and the media makes it seem like they were just massage parlor sex workers rather than human beings with families and loved ones and hopes and dreams that were brutally cut short. We don’t even know their names.
#StopAsianHate
editors pay asian massage workers really well to write an op-ed challenge ... (if you're such an editor or such a writer, DM me and i'll make the connection)
if by lesbian bed death you mean "when we're in bed all i have to do is inhale her body to melt into a psychedelic peace about the inevitable reintegration of my consciousness into the rest of quantum existence & every exhale is more erotic than the last" then, yeah, lbd is real
all respect to those giving work-at-home advice to shower and get dressed. i also want to add that the world is hard enuf and if wearing soft jams and being a dirtbag is a relief for you w/out compromising your wellness, remember that respectability is made up
Tfw you start explaining FOSTA-SESTA to the seder table while they’re all washing each other’s hands and suddenly you’re the only one allowed to speak and this is the moment you’ve been waiting for
The Favourite: a film about a dandy butch stone top and a femme stone top competing for the attention of the most powerful power bottom in all the land!
Stormy is a beacon. Let’s shine her light on the fact that this happens every day in all parts of the sex industry. This is not a celebrity fluke. Get outraged!
UPDATE my hairdresser unexpectedly gifted me my cut today because of SESTA and it made a huge difference for my faith in humanity and my checking account so if YOU can gift a sex worker sometime of value today I really suggest you do
"By alleging that the victims tempted the shooter, cops made the women complicit in perpetuating what they referred to as the shooter’s sex addiction (a medically dubious diagnosis)." ty to
@ejdickson
for your work in shifting the narrative on a huge platform like
@RollingStone
In the United States, our culture has a long history of making excuses for men who commit heinous acts of violence. Stop justifying the violent actions of white men
If you believe that porn is less sexy when you understand it as an actual industry, then you definitely will not enjoy this
@RollingStone
piece I wrote about spending a week with hundreds of pornographers and porn fans at the 2018
@avnawards
&
@AEexpo
many of us who have suffered all kinds of abuse cope by saying "i learned from it, it made me strong." so i ask you, do we need to suffer abuse in order to learn and grow strong? i rather doubt it.
well damn i was tryin to keep this quiet for the first few days but screw it we've been live for 12 hours and already hit 10% of our goal AND got a prestigious queer lit nomination so you might as well hear it from me: the SfSx
@kickstarter
is live!
Cute to see a str8 white guy who once stalked and harassed me by revealing he knew my legal name using his legal name in a feature about how much money he’s suddenly making on OF if you wanna know how stigma affects people disproportionately
what about learning later how long your parents have hated each other, having to retcon your childhood, not being able to trust memories that you thought were happy, knowing you were being lied to ABOUT LOVE by the adults you were supposed to trust?
you know you're a queer pornographer turned comic book scifi script writer when you're emailing sex scene art direction to your artist and you keep phrasing choreography in terms of performer consent even tho you made the characters up and they have no free will
this also backfires sometimes when i'm hanging out with a nice man who is treating me like he's my biggest fan, and i think "i should be getting paid for this!"
one net good about a post-FOSTA/SESTA world is that i am now utterly w/o remorse about pinning the inevitable naive party-goer who wants advice about becoming a pro-dom slash queer porn star to the wall with a buzz-killing political screed about intersectional stigma 😇
I'm finally able to announce something that's been in the works all year: the artist for SfSx Volume 2 is the mind-blowingly talented
@gromerojohnson
! Here's an amazing self portrait of her, AND ALSO a never before seen preview from our upcoming graphic novel Terms of Service!
Alright this is not a drill: I'll be in Vegas for a week at the end of the month covering AEE/AVN for Rolling Stone. If you're a pornographer w a story to tell about consent, entrepreneurship, art, health, or butts, hmu.
i see so many OF previews in my feeds, and there is more diversity of bodies there than any other media or medium from fine art to fashion to cinema to television. p0rn as a space of conformity is such a myth perpetuated by people who fear the naked bodies they can't control.
Pretty freakin big news: the most mainstream job I've ever been hired to do is finally ready for your ear holes. I worked with an expansive team who brought me on to help tell the story of a 90s PSO company, and it's coming out now on
@WonderyMedia
!
guys i'm up late and can't stop thinking about the ppl who come to my workshops to ask "if i'm new to a sex party scene how do i know all the people there aren't dirty and dangerous?" like, bitch, YOU'RE the person interloping in OUR culture, what makes YOU so clean and safe?
@RollingStone
I think it's really beautiful that some of us have documents of our experience of pleasure while we're in these bodies in this world. Fuck everyone who thinks that porn is dehumanizing. It makes our pleasure immortal.
The minute we say “something that’s nice to women is erotica” and “something that’s mean to women is porn” we turn taste, for which there is ultimately no accounting, into elitist discernment between good art and harmful art
Now would be a great time to make a list of the adult entertainers in your favorite Tumblr porn GIFs, find them on social media, and buy secure clips directly from them!
What if, go with me on this, instead of a faux-secular period of intense consumption and inconsistent obligation, we organized society so everyone could have a true month of restoration and fun every winter?
I went full finger wagging middle age white lady on the checkout guy at the grocery store when he asked what I was up to tonight, I told him going to the strip club, and he said he doesn’t give money to strippers he just watches
SELLING NUDES IS A JOB IF YOU ARE SELLING NUDES YOU ARE NOT JOBLESS (yes, it would be great to have security/insurance/PTO but lots of other gigs don't have those benefits yet don't have to fight constant syntax battles to be seen as legit labor so)
As the pandemic devastated sections of the economy, particularly those dominated by women, some turned to OnlyFans to make money. The platform for selling explicit photos has boomed, but competition on the site means earnings are far from guaranteed.
hey sex work twitter: i get messages not infrequently asking how to be a good sex work ally & activist. i usually say "THROW MONEY" and "prepare to stand up to microaggressions in media and conversation." but i'd love to collect all of your suggestions, too.
Perspective: I told my therapist I was dealing with embarrasment looking at old porn pictures where I felt my hair looked frizzy and off. She said she thought it was incredible that I looked at sex videos of myself and felt insecure about my HAIRDO
Hey all! I'm working on a docu-podcast about 1-800 and 1-900 phone sex lines in the 90s & 00s. If you were an Operator, we want to hear from you! Call 717-sexy-pod (717-739-9763) to leave a voicemail about your experience. Your message might be used in the show, your name WON'T!
did you only start working on OF or as a SWer during quarantine? i want to talk to you for a story. trying to expand outside my usual networks. dms open!
Just a reminder that years ago as I rang Beyoncé and Jay-Z up for several thousand dollars worth of sex toys and lube, Beyoncé told me she didn’t “really rap.” I guess the point of this story is don’t underestimate yourself.
loved how
@hackinghustling
&
@veil_machine
responded to a question about SWers as healers today. this is becoming similar to the "empowerment" question imo. we shouldn't have to prove we're doing something noble in order to deserve labor rights!
i know ya'll love your stories about lesbian longing but in my experience no one says exactly what they want, enjoys indulgence when it's mutual, AND moves on faster when it's not than dykes
writing about the
#OnlyFans
news, so if you have something to say and want it in print, get at me. prioritizing people i haven't quoted before, and QTPOC to the front, obvs!
Ok some of my makeup that went unused during the past two years has officially turned and I went out yesterday kinda smelling like the forced feminization closet at the dungeon
when i say "women" that means trans & cis women (cuz duh). i see ppl using "women & femmes" to signal inclusion of transwomen. i recognize the emphasize on the queer gender of femme, but this clonky category excludes NB & butch ppl that i think are meant to be encompassed. ideas?
i've been thinking a lot about hedonism lately, how it's about Dionysian excessive stimulation, yes, but also rest and healing. wine, books, orgasm, baths, inhaling, salt, massage, heavy cream, heavy bass, needles, sleep, caffeine, breath, hot sauce...
She’s bisexually lit, she’s raunchy, she’s vers, she’s for fet^sh connoisseurs as well as the fet^sh curious, and you can pre-order the hell outta her at this link right this instant!
#newbooks
#tinahorn
#whyarepeopleintothat
PSA: everyone who has a vagina has a g-spot. The g-spot is the place where the urethral sponge presses against the vaginal wall. It’s analogous to the place the prostate presses against the rectum. Your anatomical identifications and sensation preferences may vary.
I’ll never forget the editor who suggested it was a conflict of interest for me to describe how much I loved throwing money at the dancers at a party I was covering. Excuse me, it would be unethical for me NOT to. The cash stayed in the piece!
my fave answer to the extended family gathering question "so what do you write ABOUT?" is "feminist politics!" because then i don't have to talk to anyone for the rest of the party
Artist, indie porn producer, and sex work organizer
@arabelleraphael
is femme for a living. So what does it mean to be a queer lover of opulent extravagant finger adornments? Find out on the latest episode of my Why Are People into That?! podcast 💅