When he (my doctor) started testing my range of motion my hip slipped out of place with a loud crack and I instantly moved to fix it & said sorry and the doctor, who I hadn’t mentioned any of this to before, just went “oh don’t apologize, it’s ok, you’re clearly hypermobile”
“yeah, you’re hypermobile. I’d say your hip socket is also likely a bit too small so with the hypermobility instead of just being sore it pops out of place sometimes, probably often, right?” I don’t know how I didn’t burst into tears I really don’t I just nodded like 😳
And I just. Froze. Like “I’m what?” Bc he just so easily observed smth I have been begging doctors to acknowledge for years and years since I was a teen and they’d make me feel so crazy and this wonderful amazing man just looked back at me and said
It’s insane to me that the main argument against the wizard franchise is that she’s “turned out to be a terf” like she wasn’t a raging racist and antisemite for 30+ years beforehand.
I lost a nearly 20yr friendship bc she would not stop acting like this to the point where after I had been homeless for months & starving for years I tried to open up abt my struggle to afford food and she sent me a pic of Google search result for an $8 bag of gluten free pasta
Bad Bunny, outspoken advocate for queer rights, trans especially, famously anti toxic masculinity, has respectfully performed in Full Drag several times himself, heatedly kissing a man on stage, is apparently queerbaiting
Seriously, do Not bother arguing with hate accounts. If you see it, report, block, walk away. Give them no engagement. Don’t boost them. Nothing. “But there’s a real person on the other side maybe I can shame/teach them” you can’t and here’s why
If you cannot afford to pay your employees a living wage you cannot afford to own that business. You are not entitled to employees. You are not entitled to success idc what your vision is.
I am very much against this Puritan white supremacist wave of vilifying desire and de-queering queerness. I’m not going to make my queerness palatable or more appealing for anyone.
New one just dropped today. Roommate meant to say “you talk the talk but don’t walk the walk” and instead said:
“You can talk but you can’t walk!”
I’m in a wheelchair I almost choked I laughed so hard
My reaction to having grown up with the franchise myself isn’t ‘aww it’s been ruined bc she’s a terf’ it’s ‘god I’m ashamed for what I didn’t notice as a teen and I wish I’d spoken up against the parts I did notice back then’
It’s easy for many white ppl to claim they aren’t racist bc they condemn racist ideologies they didn’t have to begin with. It’s when you ask them to unlearn the racist beliefs they do hold that a lot of them start doing violent mental gymnastics to avoid it
Anyway bring back camp. Let the Addams be soft and goofy. Let Superman punch modern fascists and then bumble around an office as a buzzfeed producer. Let shows be magical unironically. Let Winnie Pooh be soft and have stuff n fluff in his little head.
@UnaMcIlvenna
Mostly they just don’t want to have to do anything and hate their patients esp poc patients like me (I’m not in the US) so they just really don’t care more than like not knowing
the people saying “her being a terf hurts real people, but the racism is kind of run of the mill” …so this just in, people of color and Jewish ppl are apparently not real people worthy of protection and care, cool. Say the quiet part out loud.
@deborahjaquith
Actually all my most dismissive, cruel and violent experiences were with white female doctors. Older male doctors or doctors of color are the only ones who don’t see me as a threat (I’m a femme appearing WoC). White women in medicine have been especially cruel to me. 💀
Oh boy numbers, well, hi there! I’m Angel, I’m a disabled dyke of color and I’m an artist, a game designer, a podcast and web series producer and a YouTuber/streamer so statistically I probably make at least one thing you’ll really like
This on the heels of me crying on the phone over how frustrated I was with how I couldn't get housing in my own and was getting sicker still and she groaned and said "well nothing comes from nothing, are you even really trying"
Interesting how cis-men get to wear makeup and dresses and be “comfortable in their masculinity” but when I do it I’m “not actually transmasc”and “not masc enough” huh. Fascinating.
@kenicemobley
Thisss!! I got followed and screamed at by a guy who chased me down the street, I ducked into a little grocer and the cashier pulled me into her corner, hid me under her desk and lured the guy to the back of the store so I could get away ❤️Real heroes
Stop Dunking On Trolls And Bigots. Stop platforming them. Some bigot says smth asinine to his 24 followers and you saw it? Ignore it. You comment or QRT congrats now ur 10K+ followers had to see the hate. It gets a boost from the algo. It goes viral. You helped it go viral.
Honestly a LOT of people need to learn that platforming marginalized people isn’t just putting them on your space (so you profit) but setting them up for success with their own platforms, boosting THEIR work, helping to provide tools and connections they don’t have.
OF and SW in general is not quick money. It’s not easy money. It’s barely any money unless you’re already stupid famous and even then for any consistency it has to be a fucking full time job. Im sick of civs acting like they have any idea what SW is like or what it takes.
Been seeing the narrative “living disabled isn’t a life worth living unless I’m living in hopes of a total cure” popping up a lot lately, in re viral tweets from previously able bodied ppl who are now disabled from covid.
Untrue, incredibly harmful and mind blowingly offensive
HP y’all will really dick ride that white English man to hell to allow him to say homophobic ignorant shit a la the sentiment ‘it’s more radical to not be queer actually’ pero my son Benito does Real Shit and you’re booing.
My point is you have GOT to stop trying to feel cool on the fucking internet by dunking on hate accounts and QRTing them and boosting them. It only helps people like that. It makes them feel encouraged.
@LBahmanziari
My TL on every social is flooded with discourse over how to “ethically” consume the product and it’s like why are ppl bending over backwards, foaming at the mouth to consume what is easily the most racist game concept I’ve ever heard
Final note, shame as a behavioral motivator often works irl against bigots in the moment, yes. Not online. The dynamic is entirely different. That’s it’s whole own thread. Not for this conversation rn.
I’m ngl it was satisfying as hell this time when a nurse asked my why I was “so anxious” to hold up my heart monitor and go “I’m not anxious I have chronic tachycardia. I am here for beta blockers.” And have her immediately get super nice and understanding.
Not that I wasn’t always pretty radical abt it but once I worked somewhere where they asked me to take over socials, then tried to not pay me enough for it and then framed my extra work as a “fun privilege” they could take away if I complained abt pay so I smiled and said;
The people he left alone were the people who just kept blocking him and any accounts he made. It got boring so he moved on. When you give these ppl attention and a platform they thrive, it emboldens others to hurt ppl as well and the more ppl see it the more targets they hit
POC don’t need to hear how racist you used to be. I’m not your priest, go confess to someone the fuck else I won’t absolve you. I don’t want to hear it. I’m a cunt I’m not gonna make you feel any better abt it.
@teatimeadventur
I think the 8 years stuck together in school are a type of friendship that required little maintenance, then we stayed in touch relatively close thru college, when nothing strained it so it felt fine. Only when I became Big Sick did it deteriorate rapidly. We aren't friends now
As I’ve said before. If you’re thinking abt QRTing hate, stop. Take a breath. How have you helped your community tangibly today? Do something kind at home. Volunteer if you can. Donate to a good cause. Organize resources and education for an issue you are passionate abt.
Being in Sex Work and geek spaces is so confusing my heartrate keeps spiking at the “I love SW but…” and then realizing they’re talking about Star Wars 💀
I’m not saying you can’t be mad. Or that you can’t make your own post abt a subject. But stop platforming bigots, the algorithm doesn’t know the difference between support and indignation.
The truth is that hateful assholes like him come in all kinds, you’re not helping anyone and if 100 bigots QRT supporting hate or 100 ppl QRT dunking on them, Twitter doesn’t know the difference. All engagement is good for them.
Do you want to get into TTRPGS?? But DND is too daunting?? But Fantasy isn’t your things?? But you don’t want to end up playing white supremacy lord of the rings?? I GOTCHU OOOH I’ve been WAITING for this one, TURN IT UP:
Obviously I was fucking horrified but I was also being horrifically abused and trying to bide my time to escape so pardon me for not risking my life to stop him in the moment all those years ago.
“You’re Right, this work is Not in my contract and I was not hired for it so I don’t want to do it. I won’t do it anymore and will focus only on my contractual obligations. Thank you!” And they were gagged but they couldn’t do anything.
Every time I ask for a POC-led or entirely POC resource there are literally always white ppl, usually white queers who pop up and say “well we are all marginalized-“ pls shut up, and know I will now never work with you and I will tell other ppl to not work with you
I think a lot of ppl don’t realize how much it costs to produce TTRPG AP’s that pay at a decent rate so let me show you the breakdown of this proposed CHEW miniseries I’d like to make 1/11
I was in an abusive relationship for a long time. Dude was a law student and then lawyer, well liked, respected, successful. Whole nine narcissistic yards.
I’m not a very sexual person but one thing I will not let anyone do is vilify my ability to desire and consensually act on my desires. I will fight for queer rights and that includes the right to have fucking queer sex and queer desire.
If you see smth, don’t say smth. Report, block, perhaps privately send the tweet to consenting parties to get them to report them as well, and move on.
He said He would go into random forums on different sites with fake names and dummy emails and do this shit for hours, laughing at the people that tried to educate him or ‘dunk’ on him.
….some of the audhd disability advocates among y’all are loud and proud until it’s physically disabled&immuno-compromised ppl asking you to help protect us and then you’re just as fucking ableist as everyone else. As someone who’s all 4 of those I see you. And I won’t forget.
I hesitantly told him I was confused about what he was showing me and he laughed and replied to a comment and I realized he was the hate commenter. He said he did this several times a week, because it’s ‘fun’ and ‘funny’ and ‘maybe she’ll k*** herself and do the world a favor.’
The way I would let a lesbian softball team run a train on me like I was trying to set some kind of record. You will not find me frolicking in a field you may find me in a bar bathroom getting railed by a tall butch🖕🏽
Hey everyone, as y’all know I’ve been getting sicker & sicker and now with my dad dying there’s no denying I need to go home to be with my support system and get medical help ASAP, I’ve made a GoFundMe here, any and all support is massively appreciated! ❤️
“Look at this!” He said, pointing at a Facebook page. It was a support group page of sorts and he was pointing at a thread where a woman had shared something vulnerable and there was a slew of hate comments underneath, with ppl arguing with the commenter.
The hate comments were awful. They were violent, dehumanizing, disgusting things I’d never repeat much less say on my own. Everyone was defending the woman and arguing w/ the comments. The pfp of the hate comments was some south park character and the name was clearly fake.
@Lucianowrites
As a brown trans person whose tl is full of white people foaming at the mouth trying to get a public a-ok for playing the game illegally bc they don’t care that it’s all racist, that’s not been my experience. Nor has it been my experience the last 10yrs of telling ppl it’s bad.
Livable wages are one of the first corners I see businesses across the board cut and it’s indefensible. I see this in retail, in gastro, in entertainment, everywhere. If your business model only works with the gross exploitation of your workforce then it doesn’t work.
@j4sslin
@peachiefuzz21
It’s so messed up. I’ve heard the threats before, but tbh if my mum were still alive she’d be so relieved I have an OF she was worried I was gonna be a prude 😅
It has become a massive red flag to me when someone self markets themselves as wholesome in a way that implies they are inherently harmless. A lot of those ppl have ended up being the biggest predators and abusers in their spaces.
Today I learned I could have dated an entire girls rugby team back at Uni if I wasn’t so fucking autistic that I just thought they really wanted me to play rugby
I teared up thinking about this, you are such a wonderful person and a light in our community I really can’t tell you enough how happy I am for you, you deserve this blessing!!!!
I want to produce a paid all indigenous AP this year I want to be on more indigenous tables I am so sick of people not knowing what we look like or that we’re here. We are here.
@AdamantxYves
I’ve had this happen to me at my apartment complex. I’d get notes every day on my car. the day I caught the guy I just started screaming my head off &tore him a new one, then went to the leasing office and they called the police for stalking and harassment. It was terrifying.
@qriator
@UnaMcIlvenna
I am competent enough myself with my life’s worth of experience in the matter to be able to tell the difference. You were not there and in one tweet I cannot fill the details of nuances for everyone to read. So I recommend assuming I am indeed capable of telling the difference.
Like, I’m sorry, I wasn’t aware of the quota of racism and antisemitism that was allowed to have a pass, my bad. Let me sit my brown ass down to listen and learn. Explain it to me. How much racism is okay to have in a global franchise?
Everyone posting unmasked pics in big groups and/or from on the con floor at PAX, even group photos where one person is masked and everyone else isn’t… why. Like do you not see us talking abt covid still. Genuine genuine Q, how do you justify that?
Daily reminder that I am Not a woman and finding me attractive does not make me a woman and if you continue to misgender me after being corrected I will beat ass 😌
If you ever see me post a casting call and it says marginalized only, or even specifies a specific marginalization, and you apply with “im not XYZ but I still want to-“ I’m blocking you. I block you. I block you as soon as I identify you. I always block.
I actually think more racist white ppl should lose their book deals, especially when they are actively trying to harm authors of color using the platform they gain from their work.
My disabled life is worth living!! I am a real full person who deserves to live!! If I never get better, if I get worse, if I never stop needing a wheelchair, if I can only ever wfm, if I can never work again- I deserve to live!! My life is my right! Fuck eugenics!
I am so happy with these!! Super fierce and effective (that knife is fucking sharp as shit jesus). Go get a self defense kit from
@Alythuh
and also some of her art while you’re there!! My only warning is careful how long you look at her profile I got gayer by the second ❤️
My face when I was told I couldn’t lead the disabled & chronically ill student union I founded at my university bc I’m disabled and that I had to bring in an abled person to be above me as the president
I’m seeing nonsense and all I will say is this. This is an important thing many white /& privileged ppl still need to learn:
You’re Not entitled to success. And You’re def not entitled to success in predominantly marginalized spaces you don’t belong to.
Reminder that you can use mobility aids preventatively too. Not just when you can’t go on without them but also to reduce pain/discomfort & keep you from hitting ur limit. There’s no “oh I can make it it just hurts”, use it. You deserve every ounce of comfort they can give you.
The response to this just emphasizes the difference in communities bc a lot of white queers would never ever fight for any issue that doesn’t affect them bc they are white first and foremost and any issue that includes others is inherently seen as taking smth from them.
It’s insane to me that the main argument against the wizard franchise is that she’s “turned out to be a terf” like she wasn’t a raging racist and antisemite for 30+ years beforehand.
@burst0fhope
@RussWildest
The first thing I thought when I saw bones no bones was “so this they get but not spooon theory?” I love noodle and bones/no bones is cute but that stuck with me for sure