My thing is if your partner wants reassurance, why is it so hard for you (a person who loves them) to give it to them? When your person tells you, this is how I feel loved, why is it difficult for you to love them that way? I just don't understand
Shaming women for publicizing their marital problems has been a tool used by men so they keep abusing you in private. So other women don't see you retaliate and resonate with what you're going through. So its us who are embarrassed for men's actions.
He murdered a woman and had the guts to record audios slut shaming her and victim blaming her....you know why?...society really makes men comfortable enough to believe they own us.
I feel for heterosexual women who desire real loyal and reciprocated romantic relationships. Men have not been required to be better lovers and better people for so long.A lot of women are simply settling.Yet society will make you feel like you're the failure for wanting better
I was on a date last night and we were discussing how expensive fuel is and I jokingly said "I don't remember the last time I had a full tank," and this man said you're gonna remember today. Your girl now has a full tank😂
Can we have an afrobeats event?😭 where they just play the Tems, Burnaboy, Adekunle Gold, Omah Lay, Oxlade, Buju, Wizkid, Fireboy,Lojay, Tiwa Savage,Kizz Daniel typa music while we sippin some red wine with some oiud?
Ko zvamuri kuchema vakuru venyika vatisiya, zuro hamuna kuonawo here the number of still born babies who died of largely preventable causes?Tofa hedu tisina zvinzvimbo kana mazita ane chiremera? Tofa hedu tochishaya anochema? Anochemwa ndimupfumi chete?
Zimbabwean men will call you 'hure' for looking good, refusing their advances and calling them out. The power they've put on that word to humble women they literally do not know is crazy so they get upset when you're unbothered by it because they lose their power.
I will never forget this one time a guy I was talking to came to see me on his way home from work. He brought me Nandos in a nice gift bag. I thought it was a bit weird but I assumed he was just being extra sweet. Thread
Respect your exes privacy guys. You can't be talking about your exes mental health and family problems like its tea!... with random people! Like really personal stuff you were told in confidence while they were vulnerable. It's so low.
Take homophobia and transphobia as the acts of violence that they are! Show complete intolerance and disgust to it. From people in your circle, work or anywhere.
Hanzi my father does it for me so now it's a standard I'm used to.
A 30 year old and a 60 year old man don't have the same financial capability. A 60 year old has a 30 year head start but you still expect the same financial muscle from these two. You're delusional baby girl 😂
A man's nude circulated on this app and the people that made the most fun of him are other men. That was an opportunity to stand in solidarity and advocate for sexual assault against men but you only remember to do that when women are talking about rape🙂
When that man was slut shaming her during that DNA fiasco, nobody thought to tell him not to air it out on social media....but she talks about him being an absent father and all of a sudden, things should be kept off the internet?
Parents be comparing you to kids that are high achievers, whole time the only difference between you and these kids is the kind of parenting they recieved🙂
My mom and I meet at Avondale after my meeting. She says "I'll race you home",😂I take a different route and get home 5 minutes before her and now ndomhanyisa mota and I'm a reckless driver...😂😭how?
I suppose he missed the note because it was the same color as the interior of the gift bag. So this guy basically brought me food his girlfriend had bought for him. Lol niggas stay niggaring.
Last night at Jamtree, a man stood in front of me blocking my way and when I tried to walk away he grabbed me by the arm. I threw my drink in his face and I wish I was holding a knife instead. Leave women alone! We're not playing with you no more
Most of us grew up in homophobic sexist homes, raised by parents who had unresolved traumas & didn't communicate well but we educated ourselves on mental health & human rights. Going as far as confronting our traumas to unlearn.Your upbringing is not an excuse to be shitty
I really hate this narrative that people create to make it seek like women are always just popping off for no reason. 'Be his peace' really translates to don't hold him accountable, 'don't question him and remain calm no matter what shit he do to you,'
Let this be a reminder to all the young men hoping to enjoy the fruits of partriachy they grew up seeing their fathers enjoy....We did not inherit the silence of our mothers!
A big part of decentering men and romantic relationships is retiring the habit of asking people especially women why they're single or not married. Not always tryna hook them up and respecting that their life is complete. There's nothing missing.
Zimbabweans will 'target market' this country to the ground I tell you. People from all over the world complain about the ridiculous and unjustified prices, even for luxuries. It's not the look you think it is to tell people to stop complaining coz they're not the target market.
Have y'all seen a thief being chased and beaten up in town?? Men can unite against wrongs they think are worthy to be addressed but they all watch while women get harrassed in town because it doesn't matter to them. They feel women just deserve it.
Men will obtain your number without your permission, text you and refuse to tell you where they got your number but expect you to be polite, except you to completely overlook the violation of your privacy.
You will assemble with the classic 'not all men, he was not one of us' but your mates are justifying this behavior in the comments on here...you don't see those tweets? Tell these men off ka because that's not what you support? Where is your energy for that?
Kelly Khumalo should have declined that invitation to replace Somizi. It all goes to show that some 'allies' do not recognize homophobia as a Human Rights issue. Had it been a racism, y'all would have been standing in solidarity.
Remember when R Kelly was asked if he likes teenage girls during an interview and he said "when you say teenage, how old are we talking,"
That's how some of y'all sound
There was a group of men yelling "tengesa magaro," to women passing by close to the entrance kuBush party. They were yelling for over 30 minutes and women passing by were clearly uncomfortable. Zimbabwean men I beg you, just let women enjoy themselves in peace.
The sexual harassment in this country is so frustrating and mentally draining,it really brings you down. Having to mentally prepare yourself to get into town and you're 100% sure you'll get harrassed is not easy. I really hate it with every fiber of my being
It baffles me how grown folks around us try so hard to convince us that we're such a morally decayed generation. lol your mates stored mountains of food while people starved.Your generation is literally ruining the world but we're so terrible coz I can post a picture in a bikini?
I thought it was basic human decency to not share some news around people struggling in that area. I'm not gonna talk about my baby with someone who just lost one, or how great my job is with someone whose unemployed. Why is that courtesy not applicable to your friends?
How many of us had great friends who just simply changed when they got married? Like I get that your life has changed but the friendships clearly become one sided. It sucks because men's lives barely change after marriage. If anything, they hang out with their friends more lol
Biblically speaking, cheating is grounds for divorce so stop making it seem like its normal for men to cheat and that the righteous thing to do is stick around
I feel like we don't talk enough about how difficult it is to leave a toxic relationship with a person who has mastered your love languages and manages to make you think they love you. Especially if you've never gotten that from anywhere else
Guys even if it's a dollar that you owe someone, return people's money. Don't put them in positions where they have to ask you and you make it seem like they're being a nag for wanting that small amount back. Its better for them to tell you to keep it after you've tried to return
I wish more African women realized that it's never too late to leave your husband. Hazvinyadzise that you're getting a divorce after 50, you have a right to be happy throughout your life. Your right to peace and joy doesn't expire
I wanna attract someone that has confronted their past and made peace within themselves before they pursue me because I... am...drained of the distorted souls that literally leave my cup empty.
I really hate how so much of a girl's childhood is cut short because of how society views the roles of adult women. "Mazamu atokuraso haugone kubika sadza, munhu akuyenda kuPeriod?"A child is still a child even if her body is changing.
The only thing Zim man can't do as a mob is stop a man from assaulting a woman in public but they can harrass women as a group in public, chase thieves and beat them up as a group, just be outright hooligans in public...
Its so crazy to me how its so acceptable in African homes that married men can have affairs, have children in those affairs and their wives forgive it and welcome these kids to the family but when their daughter gets pregnant she needs to leave the house and start her own family.
My friends and I actually have a rule to check on any girl that's 'sleeping' in a room alone at a house party or chills. We take turns whether we came with the girl or not because we really only have each other
Why do we believe that basic concepts like respect, kindness and understanding should be mandatory in every single relationship except for that of a parent and a child and we should just be accepting and understanding of that?
Parents kicking their children out for things like getting pregnant or dating or dropping out of school is something disturbingly telling for me. You realize that most children are loved on condition and that love can just disappear. All the care for your own child gone.Its scary
How do you do that? Manage to blame women for being victims? Even in death? A man stabs his girlfriend to death and you're concerned about women wanting designer bags?
Girls dating yahoo boys suffer the most abusive relationship but designer bags, shoe and flexing won’t let them leave the relationship
Check thread to see how a guy k!lls his girlfriend
Remember what the TL looked like when Lebohang Khitsane's sister insinuated his wife was cheating at his funeral? People were stanning her for being 'a good sister' but sis exposes her father whose also a pastor and the energy is mad different. That's on Partriachy🙂
Men will tell you they wanna do something for you so bad unprovoked!.... have you changing your schedule for some grand gesture....Then disappoint you😂
I want to know what kind of misogynistic demon would have possessed you to look at a tragic story of a young woman who was murdered by a monster of a man and not only do you think of how it's her fault,you have the temerity to tweet it.
@noxytea
An African man could literally be crucified in Africa and endure the most unjust things and Beyonce won't ever post about it. We're more than just African Attires or house beats. Making money off our culture and not being involved in anything else is just exploitation
Shadaya has body shamed, slut shamed and insulted women every chance he's gotten. Some of y'all running to his defense.Where was this energy when he did that? He should be dragged to filth. When you go low better get ready for people who can go to hell.
If you are genuinely apologizing to someone you care about, understand that even if you're sure you'll never do it again, they're not because they thought you'd never do it in the first place. So respect their boundaries and precautions when they forgive you.
The comments from Zimbabwean men when women talk about harrassment is the true reflection of what they're really about. Nobody can tell me otherwise. That is who they are! The ones who posts the vile comments, the men who like it and the men who do nothing about it..all the same
Y'all underestimate the effect that bad parenting has on people. You can't just get over it. Your entire life could just be you fighting for your sanity
It's important to understand that you're speaking from a position of privilege when you say there should be another lockdown because people will die. You know that for you, there's no possibility that during the lockdown, you can die from hunger.