Hopeless romantic on a quixotic quest to be the perfect gentleman. Chalant, hold the non. Here to learn. Anonymous but always respectful and accountable.
@REGINAVGEORGE
I see this all the time: people (feminine or otherwise) taking it personally when plans need to change slightly. Honestly don’t understand it at all. Would love to hear from those who experience this and what causes their change in mood.
@aby_pacman
@lunasweekly
@REGINAVGEORGE
Good thought if you know what they’re feeling. Would it make sense to say “hey abi, you suddenly got quiet. Let me know what you need.” (Or something like that.)
@genmxn
Yes. Although I like having flowers delivered the next day as a thank you. My date gifts tend to be physically smaller things that are more unique to her and more of a surprise. 🎁💐
Things I love about dating:
- the sense of occasion. Getting dressed up.
- arranging her transportation
- customizing the perfect adventure
- treating her
- giving her my full attention
- sending a thank you note and flowers the next day
- picking out the perfect gift
@lovedoveclarke
@MrsJellySantos
Spouses plural after 10 days? That’s suspect. Were the spouses in with the clients? If so, they’re clients. Otherwise how would they know? I’m guessing someone with the management is using a single call as an excuse or just outright lying.
@nycbxtch
Now is romance season. Especially in NYC! Cozy cashmere sweaters. Leather gloves. Tall boots. Hats and scarves. Hot drinks (pumpkin spice is over, break out the cocoa). Skating rinks open soon. Snuggling for warmth. Candles and fireplaces. Gifting season begins.
@Jani__Gee
Yes!
Expect her to get dressed up to sit in a chair for 2 hours in a dark room and go straight home? If you want her to put in effort, put in effort.
@itgirlenergy
I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been harassed. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with giving your readers the opportunity to support your work. Had I known about it I certainly would have.
@itgirlenergy
@savannhsmiths
From JFK or Newark they have trains that get you into manhattan and every other passenger has luggage. I do it all the time.
@divinedreamgirl
True, particularly because many women don’t have uteruses. Not sure that’s what they’re doing here. They may be trying to be specific to those with uteruses to include all of their experiences, like those who don’t ID as women.
@lovedoveclarke
Agreed. This is terrible advice. Get to know her and then maybe go to a Pilates class together. Everyone is there to do their own thing and not be self conscious. 🙄
@soieange
@ballerinadolls
Nicole is amazing, and it sounds like you’re getting everything you need. I find I can get more advanced with in-person classes. There are instructors here in Toronto who are challenging and good at checking form to make sure you’re not cheating.
@EXQUlS
… I do find it disrespectful for any man to compliment a woman’s appearance at work. I usually limit my compliments to things like “love the new hairstyle” or “nice glasses”. Things that compliment her taste rather than appearance.
@divinedreamgirl
Also true, and they’re a population worth considering. I was referring to those born biologically male who identify as women. My general point is that they may have wanted to include anyone with a uterus to get a range of experiences, regardless of whether they ID as a woman.
@dioruniverse
😂 I think I wanted to get into finance just as an excuse fo wear suits. I wonder if there’s an office attire line that would hire you to wear their clothes to cute cafes? 🤔😉
@soieange
There are a few people whose opinions really matter to me. I admire and respect them, & they know me intimately enough to give me informed advice. They also know how to use the power I’ve given them with kindness and discretion.
@genmxn
I do. I usually take it as a sign that I should relax and avoid bringing that nervous energy into our relationship. Then it’s just a good sign.
@samihealthclub
Daily pilates in the morning and yoga in the evening before bed. Weights 4 times a week and swimming twice a week. Minimum 1 hour of outside time daily. Learn to make paella.
I would like a high-quality coffee table book including all of
@soieange
’s tweets. And then I would like one for everyone I care about so we can all open it to a random page whenever we need inspiration and delight. Please and thanks. 📖 🙏
flower like; she struggled, she spent her time in secrecy allowing herself to grow but eventually, all saw roses in the ashes and only knew of her light.
@EXQUlS
My tip: start with something small (eg. a coffee) where the amount is insignificant. Then do it again until the amount becomes significant. If she offers to pay you can say “up to you, I don’t mind covering it”. If she accepts as a gift you can move onto bigger ticket items.
@EXQUlS
I love when the ladies demand compensation for their suffering: “I’m not walking in these stilettos anymore … fetch me a drink”, “I’m not waxing anymore so get me laser hair removal for my birthday”, “sure I’ll wear this dress but I’m taking your suit jacket home with me”. 😉
@divinedreamgirl
For example: “all men should be checked for testicular cancer” would both include men without testicles and exclude those with testicles who don’t identify as men. “People with testicles should get them checked for cancer” is more precise.
@casbby888
Good idea! If they make it free for 24 months on any new iPhone purchase, then you’ll be encouraged to upgrade your iPhone to get the promotion again. That would put a boot on Spotify’s throat …
@lovedoveclarke
That’s so dumb … having you wear there clothes is great promotion for them (not to mention an ego boost) … of course they’d send it to you!
@bed_romper
I have 2 problems:
1. I am unable to excuse the no makeup thing because you are GORGEOUS.
2. That corset is PERFECT and you shouldn’t even have to ask.
😍
@EmileJames_
I’ll abstain on this one since I’ve only used Amazon. I prefer offering gifts in person when they’re portable enough. Maybe keeping a list on your website?
@soieange
Highly endorse this. I offer a completed background check application and the processing fee to any woman I’m dating, along with a picture of my ID she can forward to a friend. And anything else she needs to feel safe and secure.
@soieange
Planning for the end of your relationship is critical. The best gift you can give your partner is assurance for their future and respect for their autonomy. Sometimes the practical is the most romantic.