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One time I escaped an abusive boyfriend and I moved into a new place and then a letter showed up at my new address for him letting me know he'd found me so I called the cops being like he found me he's gonna kill me and they were like 🤷♂️ okay well let us know if you die
A gust of wind lifts Pope Francis' cassock during his a weekly outdoors general audience with the public at San Damaso courtyard in The Vatican.
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Just wanted to say my first night homeless escaping domestic violence I called a shelter and they told me they had a six month waiting list. In a major city.
BREAKING: The Supreme Court ruled today that cities can punish unhoused people for sleeping in public, even if they have nowhere else to go.
We cannot arrest our way out of homelessness.
Whenever someone starts talking about how fast food employees don't deserve $15/hr because it's an "easy job" I like to imagine how many minutes into a lunch rush they would make it before having a breakdown on the back line
People bring up us domestic violence survivors as a gotcha when police abolition comes up, meanwhile me and every other dv survivor I know is like "cops are worse than useless"
Elon Musk trying to accuse men who list their pronouns of being oppressive has the exact same energy as a white african cis rich guy who got his money from his dad's jewel mine and depends on the US overthrowing fair elections and mistreats his workers I forgot my point
As a reminder, as someone who was homeless: Salvation Army makes you pray for your meals. They make you sit up and beg like a dog. They hate queer people. They hate trans people. They are a lie of an organization. Support groups like Outside In instead.
I don't know who needs to hear this but in every restaurant I worked in, from fast food to the fancy french place, some ingredients came pre processed, so please don't be like "real cooks peel and chop garlic" like no we get a tub of pre peeled cloves and put them in a processor
This blew up, I'ma mute so I can engage with the replies when I feel stable. Cops say they can't do anything until a crime is committed to dv survivors and also will spray bear mace at a protester for nothing so fuck the police, abolish them, build systems that actually work
The cops have all day to pull over Black people and murder them, and respond to calls about Black people with loose cigarettes and murder them, and break into Black people's apartments and murder them in their sleep and no time to help dv victims. That's their priorities.
If you're fat and you feel weird about that getting you an earlier vaccine, allow me to argue that as a fat patient if you got covid and needed hospitalization, anti-fat stigma could net you less effective or even harmful medical care. Take the vaccine as soon as you can.
Things I Will Fix in The Last Jedi:
1. Leia and Holdo kiss
2. Luke = more crotchety
3. Kylo Ren and Rey sing a funny duet about becoming friends in their mind-link set to a montage of Rey pissing off the nuns
4. Kylo Ren actually never wears a shirt now and is wider every scene
TW lynching, murder, racism, transmisogyny, cops
But also I need everyone to make noise about this, I had not heard of Tete Gulley and the police are sweeping this under the rug. This is egregious
a queer Black trans woman, Tete Gulley, was found hanging from a tree in Portland, Oregon on May 27th. Police will not investigate on the basis of “lack of public interest” and trying to rule her death as a suicide.
#SAYHERNAME
#BlackTransLivesMatter
This is the period tracker I use as a trans man. It's uses inclusive language and it's really easy to add or remove symptoms to track. I'm poor so I use the free version and it doesn't feel trimmed down at all. I recommend it
Some people who menstruate are not women. They might be trans men, intersex, genderqueer or use another term like nonbinary.
We asked our amazing team of translators: how do you express gender-inclusivity in your language?
I keep giving people masks when they tell me they aren't sick they just have allergies because I've been carrying a pack in my bag, and I've found they're actually happy to take them when I don't couch it in illness but say "oh that's why I love these kn95s, they block pollen."
Ways to insult men that aren't about their dicks or body fat:
Obstreperous Loser
Asshole
Shit-Mouthed Gremlin
Bag Of Goddamn Headaches
Turd Juggler
The Worst
A Trash Can Full Of Toxic Entitlement and Mundane Disappointments
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I love how people are coming for Scarlett Johansson with pitch forks bc of her new role as if Hollywood hasn't been doing this for years. It's called acting, hon 😊
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This is literally kidnapping and this is what I'm saying when I say abolish the police! What the hell are they even for?! I'm so sorry, this is like a horror movie
I think one of the funniest things about people who hate fat people is they're like "FAT PEOPLE ARE UNHEALTHY" and I'm like "I think that someone can be unhealthy and still deserve rights, human dignity, agency, and respect for their bodily autonomy" and you can see the confusion
Escaping my abuser took a couple tries. This is very common with intimate partner violence (ipv) or domestic violence (dv). It's hard to explain what my thinking was in that situation because my abuser had done a thorough job of breaking me down emotionally.
Well. This blew up. The responses are overwhelming, heartbreaking, enraging. I'm going to talk for a little bit about why I was thinking about this, why I'm so fucking angry. Because I am. I'm furious. Please understand if what I say seems emotional because I am.
Do you think it's weird that a lot of fans have no trouble reading Rey, orphaned and raised in an abusive and exploitative environment, as experiencing pain but not Finn who was also orphaned and raised in an abusive and exploitative environment
You ever think about how the term "involuntarily celibate" was coined by a woman and actually could be a really useful framework for a lot of people marginalized by desirability politics but it got fucked up by angry misogynists because I think about that all the time
Let me tell you a thing about being homeless that I think a lot of people just don't think about. I asked a bunch of homeless people about problems they run into a lot. The most frequent response was that they had their ID stolen and couldn't replace it.
People always say to me if we abolish the police who will stop domestic abusers or rapists. If you read the replies to this thread you will see that is largely a fantasy. They don't stop those people. For many of us, they didn't. For many, they were the ones doing it.
Remember how in Fury Road they managed to discuss the repercussions of rape culture on women and the world without show the rape on camera for a bunch of men to feel powerful to? Anyway, I don't think that editorial cartoon is actually that cool or good or anything.
Also there's generally an entire position in "real kitchens" that's just prep. They make little tubs of pre cut veggies and meat that the cooks use. Often days in advance. It is not very different than pre cut veggies from the grocery store
Also, poverty and housing were considerations for me. When he found me, and he did find me, I couldn't afford to move again. I ended up homeless for a period of time. (Many people who are escaping dv end up homeless. It is a serious problem.)
So people tell me the cops would do something if they weren't so darn overworked. So stretched thin. But they have time to respond to a call about a fake $20 (that wasn't even fake) and spend nearly ten minutes murdering a Black man in public.
This breaking down was compounded by my past trauma and untreated and at that time mental illness, things that made me an attractive target to abusive people. Not all abused people are mentally ill, and not all mentally ill people are abused, but the overlap is significant.
I gotta say as a Wholeass Trans I personally hate it when cis people make the argument of "well we SHOULD care about transphobic laws because they're going to end up hurting cis people too" like I am begging you to think about how it sounds to a trans person
I have previously explained but will reiterate that cops say they can't do anything to protect you, but just so you know if you protect yourself, they will likely arrest or kill you.
So why was I thinking about this. Why bring this up. Why argue to abolish the police.
Abolishing the police and moving those funds into guaranteed housing, into mental health care and social services, will do worlds more to help the victims of ipv and dv than another six million to the police
Part of ipv or dv is isolating the victim, so I didn't have many friends to call on for a posse to protect me. Also my friends at the time were mostly from the BIPOC and LGBT+ community, and the cops, for some reason, have all the time in the world to fuck with us.
There is a proposed budget for the city of Portland that cuts funding from housing and homeless services, things that ACTUALLY helped me when I was escaping abuse, to give more money to the Portland police, bringing their budget to nearly a quarter of a billion dollars.
Anyway, happy 420, amnesty and reparations to every person arrested for weed and every family terrorized in the drug war, unionize the cannabis farm workers and trimmers
Do people understand that "thin privilege" doesn't mean you're necessarily a supermodel, it just means you don't experience the same barriers that fat people experience? No? It feels like no.
So let me get this straight.
A group of shitty little transphobic guys decided to protest a young trans boy using the boy's room by going into the girl's room and locking a girl in there with them, and now she's been suspended for refusing to let them lock her in there with them
A girl enrolled at North Pole High School was reportedly suspended for using excessive force on a boy last week after a group of boys entered the girl’s bathroom and blocked the door, according to Rep. Tammie Wilson, R-North Pole.
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I think my favorite thing in these shots is she's like "grazed my knees but no scars so no big" and he's like WOMEN COULD NEVER
People are like "aren't you worried the younger generation will think you're uncool and unstylish" and like my own generation thinks I'm uncool and unstylish, get on my level
And support Black activists working to defund and abolish police. The indifference they showed me is damning of their profession, but the violence Black people, particularly Black women face in similar situations is unforgivable. We must stop the police before they kill again.
And he called me brother and said he was honored to meet me and hugged me and just after everything with my dad I can't even begin to put into words how much I needed to see a little old man I could grow to be
This isn't even a joke. If you want to know why an older generation seems like a bunch of out of touch rich bastards, it's because more of the wealthy than the poor survived
I can't wait for Milo to die and everyone on this hellsite to be like "you know, I didn't always agree with him but you can't deny that Milo had style, and I really feel for his family of four hundred screaming interns"
Oh yeah I remember now, it'd be like if this cartoon supervillain I described accused a rescue diver of pedophilia because nobody cared about his vanity submarine project more than children trapped in an underwater cave
I say this all the time but periodic reminder: fat activists, ie the fat people fighting for civil rights and protections for fat people, prefer the term "fat" and reject medicalizing and pathologizing labels like "overweight" and "obese" so if you want to help, don't use those.
I don't list fat positivity as my politic but rather fat liberation, and this is because I see positivity movements as inherently limited, framing the struggle around managing personal feelings through access to a consumer class rather than reducing material harm
I used to support these laws but more and more I see that a state that offers "death with dignity" but not LIFE with dignity to its disabled citizens is just practicing eugenics
And I realize this little old man is shorter than me. And he's got suspenders and a cute hat (hello call-out post for my fashion sense). And he's smiling so warmly.
I am meeting a trans man elder and I don't even have a good bowtie on!! WTF KIVAN!
I'm getting increasingly tired of analysis of queer art that operates on a binary of "happy" and "tragic" and am more interested in whether queer art feels like it's for queers or sanitized for a non-queer audience
Since it needs to be said, apparently, constantly and forever: Health is not a moral framework. Someone's health tells you nothing about their morality.
Let's do a fun thread. Tell me the big fat hating moment from media that you can't get out of your head no matter how hard you try. I've been extremely bothered by that inflating aunt scene in Harry Potter for instance
DISBAND THE PORTLAND POLICE BUREAU
The only way to stop police violence is to defund and disband the police. We demand the city take several immediate steps to shift our reliance on policing to actual community care.
Read the full demands here:
I think when people express that exercise helps depression they might not realize that a lot of fat people heard that a lot while they desperately needed medication and therapy that was being denied to them, and that can make some of us really touchy
Fucking psyops on twitter are like "we need to make pride accessible!" and they don't mean sign interpretation, chair accessibility, or length of the march, they mean no assless chaps.
For accessibility.
typical normies who don't understand orange cats: don't stereotype him he can be smart if he wants
typical orange cat enjoyer: he am dumb like potate. excellent.
@BlvckAsh_
♥️ What really frustrates me is I didn't HAVE to. If the $240mil my city puts towards cops went to guaranteeing housing I would have escaped him sooner. Therapy could have helped my trauma. Neighbors could have protected me. The cops are useless racist bigots who use up resources
No I said "actually I'm not a young lady, I'm a man" and immediately get nervous and try to explain my high voice and, uh, tiddy. "I have a condition."
And this little old man goes "oh are you transgender?" And having painted myself into this corner I say yes.
"Me too," he says
Today I want you to forgive your body for the way bullies have talked about it and attacked it. I want you to tell your body that you're sorry you blamed it instead of the people hurting it and give it the emotional care you need. That's my wish for you today.