I've been asked by various media to write/contribute to articles accusing Meghan Markle of manipulation, coercive control, exploiting Harry's mental health struggles etc. I say no to this🐴$&!£. Shame others don't.
(PS Beware anyone purporting to be a 'celebrity psychologist')
Predictably, I am being asked what caused Sutcliffe to be a 'monster' / 'beast'. He was a man, so ordinary that police didn't suspect him. And what 'caused' him was not 'schizophrenia' or plain 'evil', it was us. He is the product of a misogynistic society. That's the truth of it
I once worked with a (British) psychiatrist who confused the word 'siblings' with 'giblets'. He would write 'X grew up in Bolton with three younger giblets.' No-one ever corrected him.
That is all.
#ThoughtForTheDay
Blimey
@SurreyPolice
, a £175,000 contract to a fledgling company with numerous complaints about their professional standards and abusive conduct towards vulnerable women made against them and for training in having a more victim-friendly culture! You can't write this stuff.
This was 1977. Nothing has changed. We have not reduced Male violence/ harassment of women and girls one iota. We still blame women when they are subjected to it. Women are still gathering to
#ReclaimTheNight
FIFTY YEARS ON! We need a seismic cultural shift.
“The simple fact is, I am interested in people, extremes of people. If I’m honest I have been drawn to the darker side of life since I can remember.” -
I am 💔😭because today I had to let my gorgeous lion, goodest of all good boys, Humphrey go. It was the last kind thing I could do for him. My life won't be the same without this peaceful, loyal and majestic lump always beside me. I was so lucky to have had him. RIP Humph🌹🦴
I don't want to see Jake Davison's YouTube rants on Twitter.
We have been talking about 'incels' and the rise of extreme misogyny and where it could lead for years. I've spoken to various media about this subject who haven't been interested, too 'fringe'.
Is this what it takes?
Watching Murder In The Badlands about the killing of Lisa Dorrian 🌹. Would mightily love to get my hands on the police interviews with those who clearly know the truth for behavioural analysis. Her family deserve justice.
@letsfindlisa
I have just had to say goodbye to my precious beautiful Fozzchops. It was the kindest thing to do for her but I'm devestated. She was the most wonderful, loved dog and I'm so lucky that she was mine and I was hers 💔
Furpy has come through his operation today to repair abdominal wall, put bladder back and screw pelvis on one side. I can visit him tomorrow. He will then have a good few weeks resting and knitting some bones together before his hip operation. Long term prognosis good x
Thanks to everyone for their lovely thoughts and messages.
This is Fozzchops last photo. Thank you to everyone who read about her and knows how important she was to me x
For the avoidance of any doubt,
#IStandWithSallyAnn
and anyone with any standards and ethics should too. Very saddened to see all this fiasco playing out.
Forensic psychology has taken me to a lot of places I never imagined when I first set out on this career path. Today, I am officially a Sunday Times Bestselling author! I'm gobsmacked!
Thank you to everyone who bought, read and told their friends about it. It is so appreciated🌟
Furpy update: CT scan and surgery tomorrow. Fingers crossed home on Friday. Managed a little tail wag and ate some chicken for me. Most of all, ALIVE! So
#grateful
#dogsoftwitter
The absolute ill-informed nonsense I am seeing about the Nicola Bulley case has driven me off Twitter. I need a break. Shall post my Friday Furpy tomorrow and then switch off before I implode at the level of stupidity and self-interest in the world.
I just pray she makes it home.
Well, my
#FridayFeeling
news is that I have been referred to the Implant Team to see if I am suitable for cochlear implants or similar. 🤞🤞🤞as it is getting rather lonely in this new almost silent world.
Wish me luck! 👂🦻👂
I often have mixed feelings about dramas based on true crime stories, but
#FourLives
getting it absolutely spot on in this victim-focused and compassionate portrayal. A painful story that deserves to be told well.
I am very happy to report that I have become a Member of the Board of Trustees
@live_life_safe
.
I'm excited to work alongside the UK's personal safety charity and leading anti-stalking authority, established in 1986, following the disappearance of 25-year-old Suzy Lamplugh🌹.
Drum roll 🥁🥁... my new book,
What Lies Buried: A forensic psychologist's true stories of madness, the bad and the misunderstood
is out on the 19th August.
Furpy update - he is lively and wagged tail fir me. He will have surgery tomorrow to put his bladder back in place, repair abdominal wall best possible and screw one side of pelvis back into position. Hopefully that will put him in best shape to continue recovery.
No matter what your political affiliations or family ties, you know the murder of a woman and concealment of her body is wrong on every level. I hope the new publicity around the death of Lisa Dorrian 🌹helps some to search their conscience. Please step forward if you can help.
Furpy update: he is still in the hospital and sleepy on his painkillers. His tummy is all back in place and catheter out and weeing for himself (good). He looks part dog, part oven ready chicken. He can stand up now too. Just needs to rest, heal and repair next few days. As do I
Suzy Lamplugh disappeared 36 years ago today, never to be found. Still thinking of her and her remarkable family. Thank you
@live_life_safe
and
@BhakerSuky
for everything you do for victims of stalking.
Introducing....the new man in my life! I have adopted him and he will be arriving in a few weeks to join me and Humphrey.
Meet Captain Fur Potato (Furpy, for short)
#Furpy
#dogsoftwitter
1) Shocked/not-shocked to learn today that I am the latest of an ever increasing line of people (including academics, ex-employees, anyone who questions her on Twitter) to have been made the subject of a failed complaint by a small time social-influencer/shonky psychologist.
People asking me if Meghan is lying (Harry, not so much).
A woman says that they have been struggling with mental health issues & the first question we ask is 'are they lying?' As an advocate for better conversations around mental health I hope you realise how vile I find this.
I am used to being asked some loaded questions by media. I'm actually more irritated at those who play along with the trope. Perhaps a more qualified psychologist would point out the conscious/unconscious misogynist, xenophobic and racist values underlying this bullying 🤔
Feeling fed up today, but found an ailing bumble bee 🐝in my conservatory. Gave it a spoon of sugary water, it had two long drinks then a nap, before flying off. Now I feel much better.
#SaveTheBees
#TuesdayMotivations
I shall be a tad quiet for a while as I have a book to write, and a new series of Faking It to research. Also, some exciting news for later in the year 😀
I am Vision Boarding today! After a long week of interviews, filming and hanging around prisons, it is time to collect my January thoughts, reflect and do some goal-setting.
It's my big 5-0 tomorrow (and yes, it does involve alpacas). In fact, it is my birthday celebrations all week , if not year. I think 50 is going to be banging!
I personally think that the extent to which TV 'experts' are actually experts at all, and truly care about victims and families, is reflected in their ability to shut the f*** up during live cases and respect that police know information we don't and have a strategy. Do No Harm
I'm so grateful to have so much
#Cheshire
green space literally on my doorstep. Though my
#exercisewalk
is more of an exercise in slow-crawling and admiring every blade of grass, Fozzchops & Humphrey must be the slowest
#dogs
in all the land.
#zendogs
Thank you to everyone who has left such kind words about Humphrey. I'm going to miss this beautiful face looking at me but what a wonderful ten years we had together ❤️🩹
In the park today, we found a little cat grave, complete with memorial stone and collar. The cat was called Libby. It made me remember that there is love in the world 💕💕
#FridayFurpy
this is the constant level of sass I am subjected to by the furry creature under my desk, and the reason productivity levels at Daynes HQ have dropped dramatically
#FridayFeeling
Trauma informed does not mean anti-meds. Medication is lifesaving for some, ineffective for some and harmful for others. I've said it before, please, please don't suddenly stop medication, it can play havoc - discuss fully with your doctor/psychiatrist.
#FridayFurpy
The Fur Potato is loving his new ride and has been for a push round the park to keep spirits up! Meanwhile, any crumb of street cred I might have claimed is now in shreds as I push a tiny hound in a tiny pram!
#DogsOfTwitter
#Recovery
#fridaymorning
Genuinely amazed by those who haven't understood that the point of
#CurfewForMen
is to point out how ridiculous it is for women to have to obey the unspoken curfew of not going out in the dark, and be force-fed constant safety-advice. So much outrage, so little thinking...😳
2) It's the outright lies that suprised me. If you make allegations about someone, you need to be able to evidence them (I can), or expect to be on the end of a civil lawsuit. Even though the complaint was clearly vexatious and gone nowhere I'll be seeking legal advice.
Wow! 😱These unregulated 'psychologists' are everywhere. It really is time to stop non HCPC registered 'experts' calling themselves psychologists and acting beyond their training and skill set.
He is on loads of painkillers and fluids, so he is comfortable. Away with the pixies actually. I could use some of that stuff myself tbh. Will know more tomorrow so wish us well 🤞🤞🤞
I really do love reading the fantastic reviews of my book on Amazon🙏
What I can't fathom is that the main criticism is that I talk too much about myself in my memoir.
Surely the clue is in the word memoir, and the sub-title (stories from MY LIFE as a forensic psychologist).
🤨⁉️
@CalebJHull
Ridiculous comment. It is just a man in some clothes, not dissimilar to many music artists before him. Don't like it? Then don't wear it yourself, but to state it 'isn't normal' is sexist nonsense.
My Dad - Norfolk's only Country + Western Singer who mysteriously only cooked beige food & could rustle up a solution to any household problem in his shed - died this morning. I'm heart-broken but so grateful and proud that he was my Dad x
Something to remember for myself and Furpy as we move forward in next couple of months.
He has had a comfortable night and is being prepped for his procedure. Thank you all for your lovely words x
Unfortunately they were not able to operate on Furpy today as they found damage to abdomen and pelvis both sides and bottom of spine. He will require possibly two future surgeries that need some expert planning.
He is on great drugs, and apparently quite chilled.
Me, not so much.
Me (and the Potato) about to talk to Broadcast Podcast about the true crime genre, it's evolution, the wrongs and rights of it and what I believe makes worthwhile true crime programming. I'm just in the mood for this today!
We are on the way on
@discoveryplusUK
! As ever, some shocking and painful cases and subtle, or not so subtle, signs of deception - from every lip-lick to verbal slip, there's no hiding from team
#FakingIt
. All details to follow as I get them.
Furpy is being assessed under anaesthetic today. If it is operable, they can't do it just yet as he is too battered and swollen and his lungs are bruised so can't be under for long. Will see him this evening and have all the facts. Thank you all for kind words xx
Tonight, I have been keeping occupied constructing a little Furpy prison for when I get him home next week.
(Conditions in Furpy jail are far better than most, I can tell you).
Thank you Bramhall Dog Groomers for Furpy's 🧸 x
In other
#FridayFeeling
news, here is my sister (currently in Peru) and a lovely sloth she met called Marietta. Marietta lives with a family just outside the rainforest where she hangs about in trees but likes to come down for cuddles. We all love a cuddle, don't we?
Anthony William's sentenced to five years for the manslaughter of his wife, Ruth.
I really hope the Sentencing Remarks are made public.
Compare this to the typical 18yr sentences given to women who kill abusive partners and are convicted of manslaughter.
🤯