We live in a world where male violence and misogyny is driving women’s trauma and crises, no one will even name the true cause, no one will hold men accountable, no one will accept the levels of trauma and distress in women and girls’ lives, instead increasingly diagnosing them as mentally ill, hysterical, borderline and psychotic - but full headlines are written about men’s mental health being affected because someone said something they did gives them the ‘ick’. We might be on the same pitch, sisters, but we are playing by different rules. Our suffering means nothing. Their comfort means everything.

It's an honorable sentiment when people say things like - that at least it made you stronger - it made you into the person you are today. The intention behind such statements aren't inherently malevolent. However if we keep the intentions aside, the statement does some 1/