Jo Luehmann
@JoLuehmann
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If your faith deconstruction doesnât include decolonizing (which means you deal w/white supremacy and patriarchy at the personal and systemic level), then you are just switching the weapon you are using to harm others, but harm will continue to be done at your hands.
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This is a cis woman with PCOS. Anti-trans narratives hurt ALL women.
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When @lizzo had a word considered ableist in one of her songs, she apologized and fixed it. Thousands of disabled folks spoke about it. Same with BeyoncĂŠ. But Taylor has fatphobic imagery and itâs âyou donât understandâ directed at fat people? . đ§đ§đ§.
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Men have psychologically and sexually abused their wives for hundreds of years. No-fault divorce allowed for women to leave such marriages without having to prove they were being abused. Divorce is not bad, forcing people to stay in a marriage they donât want to be in is abuse.
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My 11 year old after school last night, one week into 6th grade, tapping on her bed:. âSit down for all the middle school tea mommy.â. She wasnât done saying it and I was sitting down and ready. I love this part of parenting and I know way too much about NJ middle schoolers. 1/.
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Even if youâre fully vaccinated the CDC still recommends dismantling white supremacy within you and around you.
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Palestinian people are not Hamas. Jewish people are not Israel. Israel is a state. Hamas is an organization. Please understand this difference. Both Palestinian and Jewish people deserve freedom, self determination and safety. Islamophobia and Antisemitism are unacceptable.
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You either make privileged people uncomfortable, or marginalized people unsafe. You canât have the comfort of the privileged AND the safety of the marginalized at the same time. They cannot coexist. 1/.
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Hey non-Black people! Since weâve been talking about erasing history and stuff. How long ago did you find out about Juneteenth?.
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I am going to say something very uncomfortable. Read before you react please. Purity culture encourages pedophilia, a thread:.
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Also unrelated but related, I have been banned from using delulu and rizz. This is good because I didnât want to.
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@vickiirvin He was almost double her ago, he was her boss and also the president of the US. Thatâs a huge imbalance of power. It was abuse. One may not like that sheâs suggesting BeyoncĂŠ remove her name; but that doesnât mean sheâs not a victim of sexual abuse.
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A reminder that purity culture and pedophilia are connected to one another, and that purity culture theology does a lot of the grooming for older men.
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I think most Christian anti-vaxxers are not so much against the vaccine as they are enjoying pretending to be persecuted. đ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸.
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@provii8 She looks amazing. Whatâs your problem? Why are you cyberbullying a stranger? Just because you donât think she looks amazing (which is a you problem)? . Your behavior speaks loudly of your character.
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I know this is hard for many Christians, but people donât NEED Jesus. You may need Jesus, thatâs ok, that doesnât mean everyone else does. Believing that you know what others NEED is both supremacy in you and wildly disrespectful of others.
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So long as Christians keep thinking their faith is about salvation from hell instead of liberation from oppression, we will continue to have to deal with christian terrorism. đđđŹđŹđ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸đ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸.
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@RossNarczewski Why? .How does our genitalia affect our ability to be good health care providers?.
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Before I left the church where I gave my everything for 10 years the pastor said âsome people think they irreplaceable but as soon as they leave, there are dozens ready to fill their spot.â. Thatâs a capitalistic corporation. In real communities no individual is replaceable.
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@fatfabfeminist I am 5â2ââ and have always been able to wear kidsâ clothes and you are SO RIGHT? Itâs gross that they sexualize the parts of me that appear childlike. They are intentionally misunderstanding you.
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Since conservative Christians keep coming at me. Here:. I am a Christian and I believe proselytizing is violence against another. I am a Christian and I believe LGBTQ+ ppl are divine and should lead us. I am a Christian and I learn a lot from ppl who do not share my faith. (1).
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Purity culture is psychological sexual abuse. Always. Yes, always.
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@zoe_habibi No doubt, the answers under her hypothetical were so violent that it highlights how they just want to be violent toward women their issue is not trans women in particular.
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Quarterly reminder:. Decentralizing Christianity â persecuting Christians. Asking Christians to respect other beliefs â Cancelling Christianity. Not tolerating discrimination in the name of Christianity â discriminating against Christians. Christian is a privileged identity.
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Whatâs happening in GA is a direct result of the work of Black people, and more specifically Black women. Whatâs happening in AZ is a direct result of the work of Latinx people, and more specifically Latinx women. Thatâs all. I wanted to acknowledge that out loud.
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@FishieJAM Iâve learned that if I listen and also share honestly they open up more and more. She recently asked me if I had done drugs before and I answered honestly and listened to her curiosity. It was a great conv. For the weird online ppl- she has not been exposed to or given drugs.
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@MsShannonFisher Black people are Black people. You canât choose to be Black. Trans people are trans. You canât choose to be trans. Cosplaying as a Black person is deeply racist. Trans people are living authentically as their true selves.
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That was not a concession speech, that was an example of gaslighting and how narcissists flop quickly from evil to playing nice as they find themselves against a wall. #TrumpConceded.
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If as a society we really are concerned about vulnerable children, then we need to toss purity culture, advocate for comprehensive sex-education, stop pushing narratives of what desirable women/men should look/behave like, normalize sexuality as a part of the human experience,.6/.
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Weâve been conditioned to believe struggle is normal; we canât fathom medicine that feels good, education that is enjoyable, relationships that donât hurt, or work we canât wait to do. You canât imagine abundance when youâve been conditioned to believe scarcity is the standard.
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Purity culture makes the desirable standard a child. It makes child likeness desirable in regards to sexuality. It makes virginity, and innocence, and submission; what the male brain should want most in a partner. And your brain doesnât rewire just because you get married. 2/.
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Purity culture encourages pedophilia. Some of the standards of purity culture are innocence (pretty much ignorance about sex), submission (for women), virginity as the ultimate standard, and âmodestyâ (for women that is wearing clothes that donât reveal their adult curves)*.1/.
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Thinking about adoptees. They are being tokenized by a justice system to take away reproductive rights for many of us; I cannot imagine how infuriating it must be to hear people talk about their experience so flippantly. Adoption is not an alternative to abortion.
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Christians - Anxiety is living in the future, depression is living in the past. Either way, they are both a lack of faith. My sister - No, they are both a disorder of the central nervous system, a neurotransmitter imbalance. You donât lack faith, you probably lack seratonin. đ.
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Ok Iâm about to lose all my US followers. The US military is the biggest terrorist group in the world. Believing you are heroes is just the white savior complex manifesting. (1).
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Christians, if you ever wonder why ppl are leaving your churches by the hundreds just see how you interact with those of us whoâve deconstructed our faith after abuse. Iâm done talking to Christians for a few days. You are as always the most abusive bunch Iâve ever encountered.
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CA is the perfect example of white liberalism. An overwhelming support for Biden, and an underwhelming support for the marginalized đđđ˝đđđ˝đđđ˝
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teach consent to children, talk about sex as a coping mechanism vs. a healthy experience, give children agency over their own bodies (which means allowing them to say ânoâ to things you may thing they want), dismantle the absurd notion that virginity and worth are connected. 7/.
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If you thought that killing over a half a million ppl in Afghanistan, Iraq, and Pakistan after 9/11 was an appropriate response. And now you think that ppl breaking windows and toppling statues after 400 years of oppression is not a peaceful enough response, I have questions.*.
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Dating is not practice for divorce. Divorce is not failure. Longevity is not success. Healthy people navigate relationships in healthy ways, which may include ending relationships. Healthy people donât stay in unhealthy relationships and call them successful for being long.
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Now if you are a pedophile who wants to act on those desires, purity culture does a lot of the grooming for you. Purity culture discourages comprehensive sex education leaving children without the ability to know whatâs appropriate and whatâs not. 4/.
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Can we stop using the terms non-believer and/or unbeliever to refer to non-Christians?. People of different faiths and without faith have beliefs too đ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸. This is how language is used to support supremacy, Christians beliefs arenât the only acceptable beliefs.
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A gentle reminder that using Pharisee to mean hypocrite or âbad guyâ is antisemitic. Believing Christians are the ânewâ chosen people and replaced Jewish people is supersessionism and its antisemitic. 1/.
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It shames people for any sexual thoughts or behaviors, which makes children who may be vulnerable not want to tell their caregivers or anybody else if something happens to them. Its emphasis on virginity makes abused children prefer to lie to not be seen as less than. 5/.
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When attempts are made at their co-existence, the safety of the marginalized is what is compromised because the comfort of the privileged is always guaranteed. Every organization, family and individual needs to decide what is their more pressing value; comfort or safety. 2/.
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It teaches children not to âtrust their own heart,â and to trust authority figures, which makes any pedophileâs voice more important than their own intuition. It puts responsibility on women to protect men; causing abused girls to blame themselves for abuse. 6/.
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@CatholicVote You all have entire bookshelfs where you demonize non-Christians. The number of abuse survivors and victims in your churches is alarmingly massive. You cover up abuse of children in schools, churches and homes. Perhaps sit this one out.
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**Women inside of fundamentalist Christianity are also expected to depend financially on men, to be home while men are out in the world, to not get formal education. they are expected to be grown children. Assertive, educated women are âproblematic,â ânot attractive.â.
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This doesnât mean every man raised in purity culture is a pedophile, thatâs not what I am saying. What I am saying is that purity culture wires the brain of men to desire child likeness, which encourages pedophilia. After all desire and objectification happen in our brain. 3/.
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Being gay is not a sin. Being trans is not a sin. Being bi is not a sin. Being queer is not a sin. A deity thatâs creates LGBTQ+ people to call them sinners simply for being is a sadist and shouldnât be followed or worshipped. Also that deity is just a projection of your bigotry.
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Hey friends,. I was strapped by feet and wrists to a bed, against my will, and given haldol even though I was just grieving loss. The cops and medical professionals at the hospital were so unprofessional an abusive that Iâve been in a panic for over 48 hrs. 1/.
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âModest is hottestâ is a grooming narrative to get women to accept that they are sex objects that exist for the approval, pleasure, and entertainment of men. Therefore, it is also a way to normalize predatory behavior in men and avoid accountability when they abuse women.
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A good day to remember that virginity as a value only makes sense if women and heterosexual sex are commodities that we trade with. We donât lose anything when we have consensual sex, not having sex doesnât add or remove value, sexual activity is part of the human experience.
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*I didnât mention this as part of purity culture because it isnât precisely, but isnât it curious that women are expected to shave their body including their vulva? That women arenât allowed to look like weâve aged, that relationships where men are older is whatâs normal?.
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And they should spell it clearly so the marginalized know how safe they are in a space. Itâs not that hard to be clear in regards to what your values are, and how you plan to go about them. The comfort of the privileged is none of my concern. Donât expect it from me please.
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Husband/father/pastor is to me what âpronouns in your bioâ is to evangelicals.
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I have an ovarian cyst which causes pain. I was explaining what it was to my 5 year old and he looks at me horrified and goes: mom, I really think itâs easier to have a penis. You need to switch. đ¤Łđ.
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My 8 year old turns 9 next wk, we had a small get together planned but she said she didnât want it anymore. She wouldnât tell me why. I learned today its because her best friend is high risk and with COVID numbers rising she canât come. My kid didnât want her to feel left out. đ.
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âI love you so I have to spank you,âbecomes the internal narrative of children abused as adults: âthey love me thatâs why they mistreat me.â. Corporal punishment is not parenting, it is grooming kids for future toxic work places, abusive partners, and systems of oppression.
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Being the NYT fashion director and pretending you donât know she didnât pay for the ticket, and the dress was a collaboration with a designer that aligns with the message⌠is a complicated proposition. đđđ.
Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez attending the $35,000-a-ticket #MetGala in a Brother Vellies gown blaring "Tax the Rich" is a complicated proposition.
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Listen heâs not perfect but he just said there are many battles to fight and then said â. the battle to root out systemic racism.â We have a president who CAN SAY THAT OUT LOUD!!! That alone is a big deal.
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Purity culture. Penal substitutionary atonement. Original sin doctrine. The rapture. Non-affirming theology. Complementarianism. Theology of redemptive suffering. Hell as eternal torment. All of this is complex trauma that keeps people dependent on the corporate church to cope.
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@Holden_Smith01 Donât care what the Bible says đ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸. I donât read it as prescriptive, anybody who does is deeply ignorant. I donât make the rules.
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My children just saw a Latina speaking Spanish at the inauguration and I am crying.
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@JennMJacksonPhD We can thank toxic Christian and Christian hegemony for this. Itâs predatory theology that teaches people to accept abuse as love from God and therefore from people with more or same power as us, and treat those with less power in abusive ways.
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People are tagging my kidsâ school. Thank you for proving why I wouldnât want my offspring anywhere near you white evangelicals. My kids should be off limits and yet you are here trying to get them kicked out of a school they love. Kindly, you arenât pro-life at all.
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There is a big difference between only being attracted to women, and only being attracted to women who have vaginas. If you reduce us to our vaginas, perhaps you arenât attracted to us at all, you just want to use us for sex. â¤ď¸. #TransWomenAreWomen.
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Things I had to learn upon leaving evangelicalism:. - How to disappoint people I am supposed to get approval from. - How to know what I really want. - How to set boundaries. - How to quit without shame. - How to change my mind. - How to apologize properly. 1/.
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If you are angry about a Black woman playing Ariel, and not ecstatic for all the Black kids who get to see themselves on the screen, you are a bad person who should reconsider their priorities in life. Honestly, rethink your whole life.
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It is re-traumatizing to see white pastors talking about racism. It is painful to see ppl who have ignored our voices for years pretend they are experts now, without having apologized, without having addressed how theyâve traumatized, without having admitted their racism. (1).
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The Bible is not only obviously filled with pronouns, but it is also filled with neutral, feminine and masculine pronouns when referring to God. Once again toxic Christians show they are both illiterate and arrogant when it comes to the collection of books they claim to follow.
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@NoSteppinOnSnek Nope. Men have stolen labor from women for centuries. Men wouldnât be rich without womenâs ideas, care, and support. Whatâs immoral is how much you all owe us. Pay up.
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Just saw a quote âdonât be afraid of pressure, pressure turns coal into diamonds.â. We arenât coal. We are all already immeasurably valuable. Softness is good. What helps us expand into the most authentic expression of ourselves is not pressure, but healthy relationships.
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Conflating toxic expressions of Christianity with âall religion,â causes a lot of harm to marginalized people groups. Stop saying âall religion is toxic,â when what you mean is âevangelical Christianity is toxic.â.
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Iâm going to say it. I think it is very plausible he doesnât have COVID at all. Saying he has COVID is a great way to get a lot of attention, avoid another debate, and then come out of it all cured and having had minor to no symptoms so he can push the narrative heâs been pushing.
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Your child being gay or trans doesnât say anything about your parenting. Your child feeling unsafe to share they are gay or trans makes you a shitty parent. Your child having to cut ties with you because you refuse to accept they are gay or trans makes you a real shitty parent.
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I ran for the school board at my kidâs school. I wanted to ensure we prioritize racial equity and anti-bias training. I didnât think Iâd win because everyone else running has more experience and I talked about ensuring all families and children are safe A LOT. But I won!
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Whatever disciplinary proceedings they decide on, they better go back and start some proceedings against Woody Allen, Mel Gibson, Alfred Hitchcock, Jared Leto, Kevin Spacey, Casey AffleckâŚ. Or is a slap after a humiliating âjokeâ far more serious than SA of adults and minors?.
Will Smith was asked to leave Sunday's Oscars after hitting Chris Rock but refused, according to the Academy of Motion Pictures Arts and Sciences. The academy's board of governors met Wednesday to initiate disciplinary proceedings against Smith.
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Christians love to talk about the dangers of the world. They think itâs R rated movies and dancing, saying f*ck and being educated on healthy sexuality. But they fail to recognize that the world is the empire, wanting power at the expense of marginalizing people. 1/.
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A reminder that there are no claims of Christianity that are original. Christianity and itâs early theologians were influenced by Jewish, Egyptian, Greek, Roman, Babylonian⌠ideologies, theologies, cosmologies and philosophies. Christianity didnât come out of nowhere.
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Christians and ex-Christians if you saw the NYT article please consider that it is not for you to comment on. Dedicate that time an effort to protecting the many many many many Christian homeschooled children who donât get an education and are indoctrinated into white supremacy.
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Friends, Iâve had the hardest, most painful 2 weeks of my life. Iâm pretty used to misogyny, racism, Christian violence, supremacy, but itâs been too much. My heart and mental health canât take this without rest. I wonât be here for a while. Love to all.
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The colonial mind says âI donât understand this, therefore it is wrong.â And then demands others adapt to it. The liberated mind says âI donât understand this, I wonder what I can learn.â And then adapts to others. Shrinking vs. expanding.
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Our family is moving to the east coast. It is all related to the nonsense we had to endure earlier this year. Iâll share more later, for now I wanted to share this:. Dad - You are going to have a white Christmas. 9yr old - What? Why?.8 yr old - How many white ppl will be there?.
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I find it curious that conservatives interpret âsexual immoralityâ in the Bible as referring to LGBTQ+ folks who harm no one by simply existing, but they overlook the straight men in their pulpits who sexually abuse minors. Sexual immorality is about abuse, not about being queer.
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Hey leftist Christians, if you and the people you buy books from and listen to, still believe in proselitizing and converting people to your religion; your religion is steeped in white supremacy no matter how many BLM signs you place in front of your homes.
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Always beware of people telling you that asking questions and being curious is poison.
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An activated nervous system, or emotional manipulation is not âthe voice of God.â.
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I just saw a home I can afford, in a neighborhood thatâs both diverse and has a great school district and where my kids and I can heal and move forward. Cross all your fingers, light candles, send good vibes. This is the 18th home I apply to. I need a place by 9/1.
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I donât want to hear anything about modesty from pastors that cover up sexual abuse and promote abusers, in $2000 shoes while congregants struggle to pay rent. Your modesty culture is the opposite of holiness. Itâs looking the part of piety and being the hand of oppression.
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Going out on a date tonight and before we left when I said bye to my 5 year old son he said:. - Mom, can I tell you something?.- Sure buddy. - You are looking beautiful tonight. And he melted me and made the world better again đâ¤ď¸.
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Christians: idolatry is bad bad bad. Also Christians: we worship a book.
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This isnât true, but if it were I pick the former. I donât want anybody dying for me or defending me. I want men to not start wars anymore.
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You can not want kids, you absolutely have to respect them. You can not want kids, saying you donât like all kids is not ok. You can not want kids, you absolutely have a responsibility to protect them. Itâs wild how many âwokeâ people say awful things about kids.
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A shooter concerned with birth rates of white babies. A nation that sterilizes women of color and has a high maternity mortality rate, especially for Black women. A Supreme Court trying to criminalize abortion. Pastors preaching Dominion Theology. This is all connected.
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My grandfather passed away this morning in a car accident. He had 16 grandchildren. Iâm the oldest (youngest hadnât been born in the picture). He taught me to listen to the earth awaken, to talk to the trees, to value family and myself, and so much more. Iâll miss him.
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Here is my public resignation to my childrenâs School Board. The Board has been notified. Please help me disseminate, we need people to know my children will not be at the school for the foreseeable future after receiving threats to their safety that concerned school community.
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