I am a temple-attending member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, a gay man (homoromantic, gray/demisexual), & a Master Mason (KT, 32°).
This is not a parody/satire account; my bio is 100% genuine.
When I remember to, I use these emoji as tags for my OPs but not replies:
🏳️🌈 Gay, ✝️ Mormon, 🤝 Mason.
I made my profile pic myself to represent those 3 parts of my life. 😊
Sincere questions are welcome here or in DM.
✝️ Dear Latter-day Saints,
In Nephi's Tree of Life vision, the only people who were mocking & pointing fingers were in the great & spacious building. No one at the tree was mocking & pointing fingers.
Think about that:
NO ONE AT THE TREE OF LIFE MOCKS & POINTS FINGERS AT OTHERS.
To clarify:
Yes, I am a gay man. 🏳️🌈
Yes, I am a devout, temple-attending Latter-day Saint (Mormon). ✝️
Yes, I am a Master Mason. 🤝
I made my profile pic myself to represent those 3 parts of my life.
No, this is not a satire account at all.
Questions are welcome if you have any.
🏳️🌈 ✝️ New Bishop, immediate appointment...
Me: "This is how I understand the law of chastity & with that understanding, I'm dating men while still attending the temple. Do you see a problem?"
Bishop: "It sounds like you really know your stuff. I don't see any problem."
Family Proclamation fanboys/girls: "President Oaks said the Family Proclamation is irrevocable doctrine!"
Me: "No. Were you not paying attention? What he said was that it was 'founded on irrevocable doctrine," and there's a world of difference between those two statements."
🏳️🌈 I recently learned that in 2024, there are still people that need to be told that being gay doesn't mean I'm some sex-crazed animal, but instead that I'm still very much a human who wants & needs love, companionship, mutual support & affection, vulnerability & trust.
✝️ If anyone were able to convert me from Mormonism, they could never do it by persuading me that it's bad; they'd have to persuade me that another faith was better. No one has even approached that yet, despite my deep admiration of and respect for others' faiths.
🏳️🌈 ✝️ As a gay Mormon committed to my covenants, I'm unbothered by the idea of never having sex, but I often agonize over the idea that I may never experience what it's like to be in love with someone.
✝️ 🤝 I never cease to be annoyed by the endless bad takes on connections between the LDS Temple Endowment & Freemasonry. Most don't understand enough about either & even fewer understand enough about both to be able to make any comments worth anything more than an eye roll.
🏳️🌈 The last 3 months of the year are the worst to be single. In my family of 8 sibs I'm the only one without a happy marriage or long-term relationship. Flying solo through Halloween, Thanksgiving & Christmas is rough when everyone around me has a spouse or partner by their side.
🏳️🌈 ✝️ It never ceases to impress me when my fellow Mormons deride me for my "sin" or "sinful lifestyle" & my exmo or nevermo friends come to my defense pointing out that I am celibate and faithful to my covenants.
🏳️🌈 ✝️ Many LDS folks (myself included) love these displays of affection among the Brethren.
What's sad is that many LDS folks' heads would explode if I (or any gay member) kissed a man like that because, in their minds, homosexuality makes chaste affection between men impossible.
✝️ If I left the Church, my behavior changes would be minimal and mostly unnoticeable to others. I live by commandments & principles not because God said to but because I've lived them long enough to know that they're what I want for myself regardless of external obligations.
🏳️🌈 ✝️ I don't understand why people have to have such a hard time getting along. I'm a devout Mormon; some of my closest friends & family are exmos.
I'm as gay as a rainbow unicorn; some of my closest friends & family are devout Mormons.
Some people are conflict addicts.
It's fascinating to me how some people are refined by trials and others are hardened by them, how two people can go through the same thing & one comes out kinder & more compassionate while the other comes out angrier & more caustic.
🏳️🌈 I got sick of Mormons incorrectly telling me that my identifying as gay is sinful, advocating for sin, & contrary to the plan of salvation, so sick that I decided to change my handle (and I also chose to be petty).
@alli_stabenow
Why do you let your thoughts about it distract you? It's a symbol that indicates he's someone members like me can open up to. The only reason it has to be a problem is if members choose to make a problem of it.
✝️ I grew up as a closeted gay boy in a small very Mormon town in Northern Utah with a mother as devout as they come. I still have a hard time believing some people's horror stories about Utah Mormons.
✝️ 🏳️🌈 I had to learn to let go of the idea of having the perfect Mormon family with a wife & kids.
My current struggle is to let go of the idea of having a loving companion to share life with & somehow accept the idea that I'm enough without anyone else.
Saying that parents being lukewarm in the Church might mean their children end up leaving it is NOT the same as saying that everyone who has left the Church had lukewarm parents.
I had a breakdown late Saturday night. Fortunately, I had 3 men I count as brothers come to my aid & give me the emotional support I needed to help me process things. I just wanted to express my gratitude here even though none of them are on Twitter.
I have great friends.
Last night, in the Salt Lake Masonic Temple, my little brother was raised to the Sublime Degree of Master Mason!
I'm so grateful to all the brethren who helped with the degree & I couldn't be happier for my brother! 💙
#Freemasonry
🏳️🌈 ✝️ Possibly my best test for exposing homophobia amongst my fellow Mormons is to say that Christ experienced same-sex attraction.
"I hadn't really thought about it, but it makes sense." = Not homophobic.
"How dare you suggest such a thing?!" = Serious homophobia.
Why do people drink so much they vomit? Is that just a tv/movie trope? Vomiting is one of my least favorite things. If I drank, I'd have so many guardrails in place to keep that from happening.
🏳️🌈 ✝️ To any Latter-day Saints who want to convince me that being gay or dating men (while remaining chaste) are sins,
Your arguments would be much better received if you were to first disavow & forsake the sins of disrespecting, mocking, & belittling God's children.
🏳️🌈 ✝️ 🤝
Gay Twitter hasn't tried to prove me to be not gay.
Masonic Twitter hasn't tried to prove me to be not a Mason.
But boy has Mormon twitter tried to dig a pit for me, trip me up, and somehow prove I'm not a faithful, worthy, temple-attending Mormon.
✝️ It deeply saddens me how infrequently I encounter Latter-day Saints on Twitter who are genuinely delightful to interact with. They certainly exist & I know several, but they're fewer & farther between than one who believes in the Restored Gospel would hope for or expect.
✝️ PSA: (Outside of rhetorical & exceptionally unlikely life or death scenarios that I know some will just have to "what about"...) There is no context in which it is appropriate for a disciple of Christ to use homophobic or racial slurs.
The difficulty that so many conservative Mormons have in distinguishing romance from sexuality & in defining sexual morals apart from the standard of heterosexuality makes me concerned for the quality of their relationships.
✝️ To faithful members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I will follow your Twitter if:
1. You do not mock, belittle, demean, or insult others (including their religious or political beliefs, their race, gender, or sexuality).
2. You follow me. 😉
PSA:
I'm liable to post several tweets over this weekend about the General Conference of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
Should that be an issue for you, please mute
#GeneralConference
I wish everyone an awesome weekend filled with joy.
Nephi: "The guilty taketh the truth to be hard, for it cutteth them to the very center."
Them: "Sweet! So you're saying I can be a total douchewad to people, & if anyone has a problem with it, it's only because I'm righteous and they're miserable dirty sinners?"
Nephi:
It's in my pinned tweet, but just to reiterate for any of my followers who may have missed it:
This account is not satire.
I'm gay 🏳️🌈, I'm a Master Mason 🤝, & I'm a faithful temple-attending member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints ✝️.
🏳️🌈 As a white gay man, if I admit that I couldn't care less about Taylor Swift or her new album, will there be a disciplinary council? Will I have to turn in my gay card?
The frequency with which I consider withdrawing from Twitter has been increasing lately. The dearth of empathy I see in Mormon Twitter is becoming exhausting. Maybe I should just mute all these Mormon accounts & try diving into Masonic Twitter more.
@CourtneyLTanner
Looks like the article refers to "demonstrations" with 2 or more people...
So the Y could still be rainbow lit; it would just need to be one student with tripods for the flashlights. 😉
@StallionCornell
I put zero stock whatsoever into random people's ability to read someone's "countenance" or "light in their eyes" or how happy they look after having spent years in a deep, self-loathing, suicidal depression while everyone around me thought I was a beaming little spiritual giant.
🤝 Today marks five years since I was raised to the Sublime Degree of Master Mason in the Gothic Room of the Salt Lake Masonic Temple.
I love the Craft, & my brothers therein, for the many ways they've blessed my life. My only regret is that I wish I had joined sooner. 💙
Dear exmo friends,
I'm gonna be real here 'cause I'm hoping I have enough of your respect to say this:
For me, the most hurtful thing I see in your threads is "There's no hate like Mormon love." If you respect me enough to care, please find a better way to call out "Mormon hate."
🏳️🌈 Today is the ten year anniversary of when I came out as gay! 🎉
At the time I was intending to stay in the closet forever, but that changed when I felt prompted by God to come out. Since then I have learned, grown, & served others in ways that would've been impossible before.
Yet here you are, tweeting about him nearly 200 years later. What are the odds that people will be talking about you 200 years from now anywhere near as much as people still talk about Joseph Smith?
✝️ I think this is going to be my canned response whenever someone says I'm sinning by chastely dating men:
"What many people call sin is not sin;
I do many things to break down
superstition, and I will break it down."
-Joseph Smith
History of the Church, 4:445
7 November 1841
@elders_quorum
That's not a crucifix; that's a cross. If you're gonna mouth off about it, at least educate yourself a bit & learn the difference.
And yes, it does feel right. Good for her for wearing a symbol that publicly expresses her faith in our Savior.
🏳️🌈 ✝️ I believe God is more concerned about the spiritual sickness of those who are a**holes to His queer children than He is about His queer children who show love & compassion for others.
@hmdoppelganger
Why not just call couples as bishop & bishopess? Then they can split the load & anyone from the congregation can decide who they're more comfortable speaking with.
✝️ Being that I'm likely a bachelor for life, I'll never be called as a Bishop (hallelujah). But I can tell you, if I ever am called to any Church position where I'm made aware of child abuse, I couldn't care less what Church lawyers say, I'll be reporting it immediately.
@ultaltwav
Heard it, but it's completely unfounded in Mormonism because we believe God created the earth from "matter unorganized" and fossils are quite organized.
✝️ I realized recently that one of the reasons I really like exmos & TBMs who get along well on this site is because they remind me of my family. My family ranges from atheist exmo to quasi-deznat & all still manage to get along just fine together & miss each other when apart.
✝️ I see exmos making strawmen, caricatures, & misrepresentations of the Church & the doctrine all the time. On the flipside, I see current Mormons making strawmen, caricatures, & misrepresentations of exmo experiences & faith just as much.
✝️ It continues to amaze me how difficult it is for some exmos & TBMs to get along. Both sides need to get over their crap & stop demonizing the other. My 7 siblings & I cover the entire spectrum of Mormon faith/lack thereof & don't have issues getting along. Step it up, people.
Father's Days are rough for me.
Long story short: My dad & I were estranged most of my life and right as we reached a point where I felt hopeful we might develop a positive relationship, he passed away.
No profound point here; just venting. Sorry for being a downer.
Up at 8 this morning to do laundry. Roommate's laundry was in the washer from last night, so I figured I'd be nice & dry it instead of waking him up to do it himself. I made sure to check fabrics & run on low just in case, as well as include dryer sheets I know he uses.
✝️ In The Church of Jesus Christ (LDS), divorced men and women are *technically* considered to be committing adultery if they remarry, but God has declared that they get a pass because He apparently feels they can't hack it &/or it's unreasonable to expect celibacy of them. 1/
🏳️🌈 ✝️ All my life straight men have pontificated about my sexual orientation as if they were experts when, in reality, they had no idea what they were talking about. They compared my desire for companionship & sharing a home & family to porn addiction or alcoholism. 1/
I love camping but I don't understand why everyone I camp with has to haul an entire kitchen with them & spend hours cooking & cleaning so they can eat like kings.
Give me granola bars, trail mix, fire-roasted hot dogs, pre-made tin-foil dinners and MREs & I'm a happy camper. 😊
@bbfamily14
I grew up as a closeted gay Mormon boy in a small town in Utah and the horror stories that exmos tell are foreign to me. Did I have some bad experiences? Sure. But it was mostly just imperfectly good folks stumbling their way through life like anyone else.
🏳️🌈 ✝️ 🤝 Okay friends, if I were feeling more socially brave, who among you live in Utah & would be interested in meeting up for lunch or something?
Who among you non-Utah friends would be interested in meeting up if you ever find yourself in Utah?
I think most who know me would agree that I'm a pretty patient and understanding person...
But this guy is just unhinged & it was time to block him. Seriously though, who talks like this?:
@GayMormonMason
I don’t take counsel from unrepentant sinners.
I think you’re a hypocrite and a coward. You’re too afraid to overcome your sins and instead you pride yourself in them.
Pride is the sin of Satan, my friend.
I know plenty of gay Latter-day Saints. I don’t know any except you
Breaking news:
This guy has discovered that gay Mormons exist.
Can his mind handle learning how many of us there are? I'm not even the only gay Mormon Mason on this app. 🤦♂️
This afternoon, he asks if I moved his laundry. I say yes, & he loses it, telling me never to move his laundry. I calmly agree & ask that in return, he not leave his laundry unattended, preventing others from using the machines. Boy, if I thought he was overreacting before...
I really dislike people presuming to tell me about my sexuality & what I would or wouldn't do in X or Y scenario.
Just because you'd sleep with your celebrity crush doesn't mean I would.
You don't get to be a decent-looking 37 yr old celibate gay millennial without self-control.
Them: "You won't make it."
Me: "You don't know that."
Them: "Yes. We actually do know."
Me: "Not a single living soul, even President Nelson himself, is qualified to say whether I will or will not "make it."
Needless to say, that thread's not worth my time & has been muted.
When the remaining chips become too small for dipping, the roles are reversed. I take a spoonful of dip & dip it into the chip fragments so it's coated, then eat it.
✝️ Because of Him every tomb & every grave will be left empty, by Him & through Him every injury will be healed, every wrong will be made right, every captive will be set free, every loss will be restored, every heartache will be healed, & from every fall we are redeemed.
Have you ever known, in the moment it happened, exactly when your feelings for someone had ended? I just experienced that & it was fascinating. Just a sudden, "Well, apparently I'm over him now," then just moving on.
I already respected
@DavidArchie
& his journey. Now I do even more. 👊
My mother has two gay children. One left the church, and the other stayed. I've never once felt like my mom loves either of us any more or less than the other. ❤️
Hey everyone, I'd like to hear your thoughts. Without consulting any other resources:
1. What's the first thing that comes to mind when you see this flag?
2. Beyond that, does it mean anything more to you?
3. Are you L, G, B, T, Q, ally, or other?
(Also, please share!)