I think part of the reason why Gen-z is so quick to crowdfund or beg online is that they truly have no idea what people their age should have & should have achieved. Social media creates a false equality with people who are several years older that doesnt translate offline.
Lagos is wild sha, you will go to a fashion show and sit front row beside your husband’s two mistresses + his boy toy, all of whom have front row tickets with you because oga paid for it.
Please document your personal experiences.
Our families who were killed during the Civil War couldn't document their experiences so much of it was erased. Don't make the same mistake.
Tweet, take pictures, write personal accounts and send to online magazines.
#SARSMUSTEND
Your pentecostal pastor Vice-president’s daughter is about to marry a Muslim billionaire’s son.
So at no point during couple’s counselling did they bring up being unequally yoked with unbelievers or is that a teaching only poor church members have to follow?
Saying a prayer for Olajumoke, the eventuarry guy and all the other poor people living their ordinary lives that Nigeria’s influencer class sold dreams, exploited & dumped when their virality no longer brought in the coins.
That singular action of buying a domain name for Patriarchy FC will follow Asemota for the rest of his life.
It was a seed of unprecedented wickedness and it will grow to choke him.
Politics is local but when police illegally detain your brother, you go carry am come Twitter instead of going to report to the Iyaloja of your market.
Oni radarada.
An average 21 year old in Nigeria cannot afford to handle rent, school fees, the occasional restaurant meal, data & an iPhone X 256 gig. That’s a level of self actualization most 30 year olds struggle to pull off with serious planning. Free yourself of the pressure to belong.
You hate to think about it.
But the constant assault on men on this app actually affects my mental health.
Because I am seeing you say these things and even though thats not me, I want to ask myself "what If this is you?" And then I start to inherit guilt that I didn't create.
So I'm going to do a thread about this.
The pictures are from Nadine Ijewere's Stella McCartney shoot from 2017. Nadine Ijewere's shoot was one of two shoots done in this style that year.
The other was by Ruth Ossai for Kenzo.
To people just discovering this thread, it is largely inspired by this essay I read in 2016 by Gaytari Jarayaman about a similar problem in India. She coined the term, ‘urban poor’.
It is not a Nigerian or even a queer problem, its a global one.
A 21 year old can easily find themselves kiki’ing with a 35 year old who’s already put in 10 years of work & sacrifice to get where they are, & somehow become convinced that all they need to get where this person is, is the right equipment or the right look/social markers.
One of the worst things about growing up in a social media era is that you people are convinced every insignificant moment that happens in your lives requires a public statement.
Otis and Eric are great but I am always, always floored by the excellent writing that bring Maeve and Aimee’s friendship to life.
Every time they share a screen together I end up shedding a tear.
The funniest thing about this is that Anthony Joshua got his high school girlfriend pregnant, refuses to marry or live with her or even actively raise their son together, but somehow he finds time to raise another person’s daughter.
Scum?
I see this especially with queer youth, who see moving out of their family homes as ‘independence’ cos the older queers they fraternize with have that, not realising that true economic independence, emotional growth & a support network all have to be in place before moving out.
@Elohcaine
@chuuzus
Nope, according to the original book, Peter Pan steals the children and kills them when they get too old to play with him.
Captain Hook and his lost boys are former companions of Peter Pan who grew up but have no way to leave the island.
So crowdfunding rent, and 3 months later coming to crowdfund school fees will not be met with the same level of enthusiasm.
Many times, a lot of the material privileges we take for granted comes as a result of someone else sacrificing or denying themselves some comfort.
The same Segalink that you could call at 3am with a Police harassment case was conveniently sleeping during a massacre?
When Nigerians are wicked, they are wicked.
#EndSARS
Ckay is coming for that slightly toxic manic pixie lover boy niche that has remained unexplored in Afropop. The girls and gays will eat it up.
Chike would have been a shoo-in but his music sounds like he is the one who is chopping breakfast instead of serving it.
UcheDandy did a long ass thread just to show he doesnt understand consent. Didnt disprove either woman accusing him, didnt show he was any less rapey. But somehow convinced himself at the end at he’d ‘shown’ his accusers.
Y’all need to stop entertaining dumbasses.
Small (big) announcement:
As some of you know, asides been your Twitter conscience, I also am a design savant. I have run a boutique bespoke fashion label called Studio Imo, collecting a small but loyal audience.
Well I've decided to go 'pro'.
So they take a shortcut by crowdfunding, and only when it is too late do they realize that their solution was only cosmetic & the real problems remain unsolved. Seeing as many irreparably damage familial ties in the process, they find themselves at the mercy of strangers.
In all of this, NOT ONE PERSON has come forward with evidence of one good story about SARS.
30,000 officers & not one good story. not even the government that is fighting to keep them has any positive evidence to support their fight, and we should stop protesting?
#EndSARS
Dismantle the institution of marriage as it currently is and remove the privileges that make it attractive to all men, straight or not and see if it retains its value.
"Don't do it to me." is not a structural solution if you arent doing anything else to dismantle the system.
Goodwill is in short supply & people get resentful of people who beg to ahead, even if the reason why they are doing it is noble because they assume by the time you beg or crowdfund for a need, it is of the utmost importance & all other secondary needs have been take care of.
Like DJ Kaka and the girl from Enugu on the lion statute, our protests matter because being able to publicly express our anger like this is allowing people who have been quiet for so long finally grieve, for themselves and their loved ones.
It matters!
#EndSARS
#SARSMUSTGO
Wasn’t going to make a thread on this Deola Sagoe Komole ad, but it seems some actual fashion perspective is needed.
Contary to what everyone has been saying Deola Sagoe’s Komole was first debuted in 2012, not 2016, four years before it was unveiled to Nigerians.
We are watching to see how the government is going to implement a 24 hour curfew in 4 hours by mobilizing a police force that didnt respond to direct orders from the presidency to leave the streets for 12 days.
We are watching.
#EndSARS
Again, thank you FEMCO for showing us we dont need any ‘leader/strategist’ to mobilize. All of us na one man army now.
For every rigged result, there are 5 more where regular Nigerians closed ranks & forced to INEC to do the right thing.
We saw shege, but they saw shege too.
The slaughter of Chief Daddy 2 on the TL is killing me because just 72 hours ago I was in a space where it was suggested that critics are overly critical, not that films are badly made.
Well, now the audience itself is talking, hopefully this time Nollywood listens.
This is a Nigerian. Her name is Naomi Oloyede. This is a video of her speaking at an international conference in Vienna. She might not go viral cos she’s not twerking though 🤦🏾♂️
Straight men here talk ALL the time about marrying unsuspecting cis straight women who they dont even like, because it was 'time to settle down'.
If you people stopped fixating on this 'survival' narrative, you'd see no matter the orientation, most men marry for privilege.
So, I just scored my first byline for Vogue US. It is extra special for me because it was commissioned by a Nigerian
@nnadibynature
alongside a long time friend and collaborator of mine
@Stephen__Tayo
about a community I care deeply about.
FYI:
Victims of sexual assault dont owe anyone graphic details of the actual act. You either believe them or you dont. Unless you are law enforcement or a lawyer , asking for information about their assault that they didnt offer just needlessly derails the conversation.
@Laruchiiiiii
They are worse off, people treat them differently and accuse them of hiding wealth and try to exploit them. They have recognition without access, and people continue to profit off their image and likeness.
Why do people use this ignorant & infactual perspective. Google child rape in Nigeria, & see how many girls are raped as children by heterosexual men. Pedophilia is a problem that affects more straight women than gay men. Why aren't you worried about that instead of the 'gays'?
I’ve been waiting quietly for when Paedophilia will be argued to be another acceptable sexual orientation.
It’ll be difficult to reject this argument if we have accepted homosexuality as acceptable. Several homosexuals encountered it first as children.
Excited to announce that I will be showing a new capsule collection at the 2019
@gtbank
fashion weekend showcase.
"Fashion Girl" is inspired by a number of fantastic women whose fearless fashion has inspired me over the years, as muses and clients.
Career milestone: Got to sit with Pearl Thusi and Kagiso Lediga and grill them lightly about
#QueenSono
, the first Netflix original from Africa, must have done such a good job cos we went overtime. Enjoy.
LMAO! You people want to pretend you didn't know Williams Uchemba was Yahoo boy?
Which film was he doing that he was buying cars and flying around the world?
Today as I watch gay man after gay man not only marry unsuspecting straight women; but go out of their way to heavily reinforce heteronormativity & ‘traditional’ love stories, I’m grateful for the Gen-Z kids who clocked that if it was left to millennials, we will never get free.
I feel like I am affable so its easy to forget.
I am a veteran in the Nigerian fashion industry, I am a New York Times published Nigerian fashion journalist. I know my shit and maybe this year is the year to remind everyone.
So even in this Talk song that is supposed to drag your corrupt politicians, Falz still found time to insult slay queens.
Alexa play Obsessed by Mariah Carey.
So I got the privilege of making one of the costume pieces for Adekunle Gold's concert tonight.
Nothing like seeing your work brought to life by the right person.
Guys, can finally announce I'm also in the
@gtbank
fashion weekend annual magazine along with faves
@Steph_tayo
and
@BellaAlubo
Copies available when you come for the shows today!
Quick reminder:
Don't be deceived, your feelings, no matter how strong they are, are just that, feelings. They have nothing to do with the reality of the situation you find yourself in and more often than not only end up hindering you from improving yourself.
For people asking inane questions in my mentions, Osinbajo is a RCCG pastor, the same church where if your wedding gown doesnt pass ‘biblical’ standards, no marriage for you. Let alone heathens loun loun.