IT'S OFFICIAL: I am a dating coach
I have been a (unofficial) coach for yrs. But I just had my 1st call with a "client."
Great call. Thank you, Sir.
I want him to win. I want him to have beautiful experiences with girls. I want that for all of us.
Go Talk to Girls (c).
@TheFP
@Olivia_Reingold
> Young men today feel they must be six feet tall, make six figures, and have six inches downstairs to get a girlfriend
They don't try. So they don't know. They are listening to the worse of other "drop outs" online.
If they would Go Talk to Girls (c), they'd see more options.
@0xAlaric
> men are socially not allowed to exist as sexual beings
Any man that thinks this (???) should immediately ask WHICH AUTHORITY is stopping him from existing sexually?
Go test it (not online, but IRL).
(HINT: There is none. An absence of "encouragement" is not negation.)
EXCELLENT DEMO of SEXUAL TENSION:
Here is a VIDEO showing some NON-VERBAL examples in GAME.
"I promise you can all be good with women if you want to step into the tension and learn about it."
--
@BrianFearless
h/t to
@beachmuscles
.
CAFE GAME:
For guys that want to meet girls at cafes (or even some bar/restaurant settings):
If a GIRL SITS NEAR YOU, and you like her, say "hi" in the first 30 secs. Do it. If you wait longer, and you "want something," she'll feel it... ruins the vibe.
3 EXAMPLES...
There is a "5" at my school that turns me on every time I see her.
Terrible "butter face."
But it's her hips. And the way she walks. She has a bounciness to her. Great body. I bet she is super fertile.
That face thou... still want her. Can't help it.
@TheLavaLeffel
@SuperVaulty
> swiped right on 4% of dudes
Girls aren't supposed to "choose" guys.
As a dude, if you need to be "explicited pre-approved" in some way, you are cutting off 95% of what is possible. Passive. And weak.
Go Talk to Girls (c). You don't need "permission." Just go for it.
== A WOMAN WILL SEE HER MAN as a DAD or a SON
DAD's lead, make her safe, have wisdom, etc. Don't forget to be SEXY DADDY. Sure is not after "old", she is after BETTER THAN HER (like Dad).
If she see you as a SON... a liability, that she has to care for and teach... you're done.
@datepsych
> There is a mindset in the manosphere that is essentially, “Life is unfair to men, look at how easy women have it, my life is so hard.”
"I wish I could be a do-nothing girl and be taken care of."
It's GIRL ENVY. Not a good look. They wonder why no one finds them attractive.
"The masculine always leaves relationships too soon, and the feminine always stays in them too long."
-- Deida
Don't think "men" vs "women" here.
Think: Men that have stayed too long (they are in their feminine) and women that leave too early (they are in the masculine).
"YOU LIKE ME"
Her: You're a little old
YOU: Yeah, but you like me
Her: I am seeing someone
YOU: Yeah, but you like me
Her: I am working a lot
YOU: Yeah, but you like me
It's A VERY GOOD LINE.
If she doesn't, it won't help. If she does, that VIBE will help break thru the BS.
@KiddDozer
> or stare at excel for 8 hours a day
I stare at Excel... But I also work for myself. And I work from cafes... And hit on girls in-between "clicks."
I probably make a little more cash that most toxic fumes guys too. Not bad.
@beamanforreal
> I am not into one night stands
Hey, slow down. We haven't even had a drink yet and you're already thinking about sex... are all Japanese girls this aggressive??
For now: XYX, 7 PM. Don't be late.
@alpharivelino
>exposed her body count: 11
It's not the body count, but the EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE she picks up from bad exps (often the same thing).
Q: Is she light, happy, healthy, feminine?
If so, she is a keeper.
If she has a n-count of "2," but is unhealthy, nope.
@Ca5per_15
@FrenchOG3
> There’s a reason why we say avoid women 30+ because the battle scars they carry on their heart
Basically true.
Assume that 7 of 10 BF/sex partners were in the range of regret-bad experience for her. If she has had a lot of BFs or sex, she has had a lot bad experiences.
@TellYourSonThis
I'll explain:
BECAUSE it'll never be "even." There is no such thing as "even." It's always more/less on one side.
You can still respect her if she likes you more than you like her.
But she will not respect you if you like her more than she likes you. She'll hate you for it.
ASKING GIRLS ABOUT SEX:
I used to ask girls what they liked, and now I never do.
I just do stuff to them, and pay a lot of attention to what seems to turn them on vs shut them off.
@alpharivelino
> She will compare your cock to every previous cock
She will compare how she felt to other times, she doesn't care about any cock other than the times she felt good.
Just make her feel good.
Quit thinking about other guys cocks. Seriously. It's weird.
@CaitlinPacific
>men like to sleep with different women, and mothers of small kids don't want to get divorced
You'll see that a lot guys like the idea, but get hurt when it's much easier for their woman to get action than it is for them...
Lots of very bruised "progressive" men in that space.
@aesgsm
@ColumbiaBugle
The Yarvin/Anton talks are the most simulating content I have come across in months:
Nerdy/PoliSci/Political History/Philosophy... but I learned a lot. Great thinking going on there.
@longburndafire
@WashTimes
The Olympics handles this better. They rule our certain hormone levels, even when sex-changes are not even in question.
When all else fails... look at the hormones as a sanity check. That individual fails that test. Absurd.
PICKING UP A WAITRESS:
"Hey, I think you're really cute. I don't want to interrupt your flow at work, but I want to hang out w/ you. When you bring me my bill, IF YOU WRITE YOUR NUMBER ON IT, I'll call you."
-- MovingTarget
It worked.
"It just felt natural."
I like it.
@AJA_Cortes
@bsilone
"You will eat that steak or you will go to bed hungry. Do you understand me?"
"Waaaaaa"
"And the knife goes in your other hand. How many times do we have to go over this?"
@thinkingstrait
@generationmss
> Even if it’s a half yes? Basically a no.
Sure, sure. So you (presumably), and basically every other guy (definitely) DOESN'T HAVE ENOUGH DATES, and he is supposed to assume "half yes" (really means 'maybe') actually means 'no.'
Good luck w/ that.
@earlofariel
@custardloaf
> think “feminine energy” is when you have to cared for like kid on a leash
No. "Feminine energy" is what happens when she isn't worried about what happens next.
It's a kind of "creativity." And it's enabled when men provide a "safe container."
My EX. Saw her today. Broke up in Sep, but I love that girl.
"Bruh, that is ONEITIS."
I have fucked 7 girls since her. I have 4 girls in rotation now. I got laid last night. The 19yo is coming over tomorrow.
Oneitis?
Sometimes you just love the girl.
"You have 10 girls in your phone that will come around... feels like abundance.
"Real abundance is being able to show up in a new country or a new city and recreate it all from scratch.
"That is a different level of abundance."
--
@SocialSinapse
@StephenStorey
> A lot of bitter men are creating it
You cannot properly understand the "redpill" movement without clearly seeing the role of divorced guys in that space. No disrespect (at all). Just understand who they are... that may not be your world at all.
BRAD P - "Diary of a Pickup Artist"
Reading THIS ^... All Brad P's lay reports.
Anyone else want to read it, there are PDFs on the internet (but I had a hard copy made).
"'Why don't you just GO OUT AND TALK TO GIRLS and try to flirt with them, everyday?'
'It's not illegal. There is nothing wrong with it.'
"You can just go flirt with girls every day. Once I got the 'green light' - I went out 7 days a week and started meeting girls."
-- Brad P
+1 JAPAN
Young girl, nurse. Met her two nights ago. Basically no English.
1st date, dinner, 1/2 glass of wine. Back to my place.
Very compliant, but when I saw the underwear she had on... I knew she planned it. Post-sex makeout was better than the sex.
I like her. Nice girl.
@TheTomLynn
@jordanbpeterson
"One of the things that is also happening - ...very characteristic of the 'hurt radical Left' - is that, people who've been hurt are afraid of any display of competence because they can't distinguish it from power and tyranny."
-- Jordan Peterson
For you, ^
@TheTomLynn
"TEASING GIRLS"
This ^ is the most over-rated concept in Game. It's taught too often, and guys "over-tease," and tease for the wrong reasons.
When you tease to "CHECK HER VALUE," it's lame. Bad vibe.
But when you tease to CREATE TENSION or show cleverness... Good Game.
@kyantewilson
@TheFigen_
>I might be in love
She is amazing, bro. I like her too.
But she is sooo "extravert."
I always feel bad for dudes that like extraverts. That is a lot of attention seeking and trouble.
If you can't outshine her, you'll be in her shadow... Hard for her to be turned on by that.
9 HOUR DATE:
The 19yo. Met at noon. My place. 2 hrs of sex. We made lunch. Walked to a cafe, had coffee. Back to my place. Put on a movie, but... More sex. Took a nap. Woke up... More sex.
She is fantastic.
Sent her home in a cab. Took myself for a beer and a steak. Perfect.
@TellYourSonThis
It's about the COMBOs, and what those "combos" look like.
Male ego combines with supporting female. Beautiful.
Two egos would repel each other. No "supporting" role to balance the "lead."
Female ego combines with "adoring male." It fits... but adoring men are weak/repulsive.
EMOTIONAL LEADERSHIP:
"HER PLEASURE is in being chaotic and then getting STRAIGHTENED OUT BY YOUR CLARITY.
"And then she'll resist it, and sabotage it, in order to feel that straightening out again."
-- David Deida
@alpharivelino
>ask out the cute cashier
Everybody hits on the service girls... but:
HER: *maybe flirting?*
YOU: If you weren't such a good employee...
YOU: I'd accuse you of flirting
Have you number written down. If she likes the comment, push it over to her lo-key.
YOU: Call me, maybe
SHIT TEST TECHNIQUE:
HER: I am not like that... I am a nice girl [<-- or whatever]
PLAYER: You feel you need to tell me this^??
I am using this on this trip... it's very effective. It's "meta" and goes above her statement. And she will often cool out, or backpedal.
#game
@Hans0mbarbarian
@KyleKashuv
Hey man. Look, a Lady Copy (+5 volunteers that jump in to save her) can do anything a man can. And don't let reality get in the way of understanding that.
#EQUALTY
(+5 volunteers)
"Can a 45 yr old man score 19 yr old girls? F**k yes, he can. That is probably the most likely time he can. Because he is in his prime.
"But most guys will never see their prime. They don't even know what a prime is."
-- Tyler
HAWKINs and "ENERGY":
It all started when
@Pat_Stedman
introduced me to the concept of what I was calling "THE HAWKINS SCALE"... Which is actually called:
"The Map of Consciousness Explained"
-- By David Hawkins
Reading this now. Sounds "woo," but this fav concept these days.
Best way to decrease "flakes" is to be on a winning streak.
-- You win...
-- Serotonin goes up...
-- You get the "glow"
-- "To he who has more, all will be given"
This ^ is also a bit of an art. But this is much more powerful than in-set techniques or "better text messages."
> "Excuse me, can I just tell you one thing really quickly? I just saw you walking by and you looked really nice so I just *had* to say hello.
EVOLVED:
ME: Hi
ME: You have great style
ME: I want to meet you
"Excuse me" is literally apologetic. "Can I/quickly" is low value.
Memorize this line:
"Excuse me, can I just tell you one thing really quickly? I just saw you walking by and you looked really nice so I just *had* to say hello. I will tell you what I noticed about you...."
That's your standard opener
BENCH PRESSED MY BODY WEIGHT TODAY.
I have been repping at/near my weight, but today I wanted to prove I could press what I weigh:
I put 90 KG up 2X (then went back to reg at 85 KG). Weighed myself after the workout - 85.7 KG.
Many men can do better, but I HIT A GOAL TODAY.
@jakozloski
@datepsych
> we see in matchmaking with Keeper is that men start getting frequently rejected for age
More common in online only; when AGE is THE thing you present, with no real world stimulus, it is used for selection.
In real life, men that approach get dates (age is not the factor).
@NickSauvage
> The average 25 year old guy can easily get a gf aged 18-25
That is not remotely true. Ask the avg 25yo if he can "easily get a GF." The answer is no, let alone a girl he is really attracted to.
So then, compare his "it's not easy" to a 35yos "it's not easy." Now you get it.
"If you want something done, give it to a busy man."
"If you want a girl to have a great date, giver her to a guy that dates a lot."
"It takes money to make money."
"We only lend money to guys that don't 'need' it."
See how these concepts are all working in the same way?
SEX TIP:
("just the tip, I promise")
If you can get her laying down... put your thigh between her legs so it's against her pussy. Continue to make out, and apply a little pressure with your leg...
This is a common way that a makeout gets explicitly sexual.
SEXUAL PRACTICE from DAVID DEIDA:
I'll lay out the PRACTICE, the GOAL of the practice, and his COMMENTS.
== THE PRACTICE. You're inside her, hard, moving only enough to stay erect. She is moving only enough to keep you hard. Your attention is on "feeling her."
1/5
@yeahrightgirlhg
I mostly date 20+ yrs younger than me.
>emotionally manipulative
I would argue that most intersex manipulation is female sexuality on under-equipt men.
>i’m 28
>nothing in common w/ 20yo me
"Commonality" is not what romance is about. Masc/fem polarity - much stronger lens.
SHIT TESTS:
"If my man is a 'nice guy,' I WILL START TESTING HIM.
"When I notice he will not GIVE ME BOUNDARIES (or 'create a container' or stand for anything), I test him.
"As the feminine, I want feel what he stands for.
"I WANT TO FEEL WHAT IS 'TOO MUCH.'
-- Sophie Josep
== PAT STEDMAN vs KRAUSER PUA:
In this THREAD I'll compare these guys as they talk about ENERGY and POWER.
"Women want the man with the most ENERGY to offer them."
--
@Pat_Stedman
"The feminine is attracted to the masculine. Masculinity is mostly POWER + gravitas."
-- Krauser
IMPORTANT LESSON: With girls, TEST, don't "ASK"
By asking, you increase her role and her responsibility. As she feels this, her "answer" changes.
If you TEST HER (just "try it"), you get a more accurate "response," that is her BEHAVIOR, not her "words."
THREE EXAMPLES BELOW...
SEXUAL TRUST:
"For a woman to surrender sexually to you, it’s not that she has to 'trust you.'
"Sexual trust is more like pilot trust or surgeon trust."
-- Alex Allman
HOW TO BECOME A COOL GUY:
Imagine your ideal boss. Become him.
Almost everything the best, coolest boss of all time would do (strong, healthy, funny, fair) are things that girls would be attracted to.
Things that would make you hate your boss (dread), girls would hate also.
"Men compete with each other for maximal sexual REVENUE, where women compete with each other to achieve maximal sexual PROFIT. Meaning that men seek quantity and women seek out quality."
--
@Blacklabellogic
That is a great twist on a common theme.
@bitsee2
@HealThyself15
I moved out 7 months ago.
I didn't mind the techies... it was the endless drug addicts on the street that were too much for me.
GIRLS and QUESTIONS:
They NEVER ask me any questions. Almost never. In my life, across 100s of dates/girls, I think I ask 100 Qs for every time a girl asks me a Q.
Part of that is me, and the introverted girls I date.
But part of that is just what girls are like...
"WOMEN are ALWAYS TRYING TO FEEL YOU and discover where you are emotionally.
"If you are in your head analyzing, then women will have a hard time feeling you. If they can't feel you, they can't be attracted to you or trust you."
--
@BrianFearless
Listened to a Buddhism talk today about SEXUALITY:
"How many people know about the Buddha's sex life?
"THE BUDDHA HAD A VERY ACTIVE SEX LIFE."
-- Eugene Cash
Some highlights:
Good question, John.
My TOP 13:
-- Pickup101: Lance Mason
-- Krauser
-- RSD: Tyler/Julian/Madison
-- Jason Savage
-- LOVESYS: Braddock
-- Franco
-- Yohami
-- Janka
-- Ars Amorata: Zan/Hans
-- FearlessMan: Brian Begin
-- Nick Sparks
-- John Sinn
-- Patrice O'neil
@DaysOfGame_com
@LynwoodLehrer
Who makes your Top 10? I imagine the certs would be Mystery, Tyler, Julien, Krauser. Personally I find Jeffy to be great, his charisma and witticism is second to none.
FIVE big "breaking points" w/ a girl:
1. When you try to take her number
2. When you try to get her to come out
3. When you try to kiss her
4. When you try to get her naked/make sex happen
5. When you try to get her out again after sex
Normal to have girls drop out at each pt.
I love THIS LINE:
== "MAYBE WE COULD GET TOGETHER"
(When ^ asking her out. Followed by a specific plan. Don't wait for a "yes")
I am a very direct guy, but "GET TOGETHER" has perfect subtlety to it. W/ the context, it can still be very sexual.
(Credit: Alicia Keys)
TEXTING FORMULA:
YOU: Hello Miss Whatever, are you always so XYZ?
HER: Ah, blah blah...
YOU: [Tease/cocky statement]
HER: LOL
YOU: I want to see you
YOU: How about Thu night or maybe this weekend
YOU: Tell me when you're free
That is what I do. TWO RESPONSES and I ask her out.
@thenewc0l0mb0
@RPMcMurphy_RPD
> How best to get this back on track?
Well, you asked a kind of boring question. If she likes you, she'll play along. If she is unsure... you didn't give her much.
The words aren't super important but don't kill the energy or string it out... BUILD energy, ask her out. Period
Jon Sinn's: "THE LAY REPORTS"
I am reading this now.
Sinn is an original PUA, he was an instructor for Mystery. This is a book of old online "field reports" about getting laid. Sinn, BradP, Cap'n Jack, Entropy, Savoy, more.
It's free here:
LOW-KEY SEX TIP:
On a cold night, if you want to get her naked and roll around for a while... pull a SHEET completely over both of you.
Lighter than a blanket, some light gets thru (so you can see), it traps some heat.
Girls feel sexier when they're not cold.
#fieldTESTED
THIS is "MALE SOLIPSISM:"
We accuse women of making "everything about themselves."
The QUOTE BELOW is about ego-crazy guys assuming their status is all that matters.
There are a 1000 reasons why a girl might need a bit more time... that have little/nothing to do with you.
DOGGY DINNER BOWL EYES:
An old school concept, but a very good one. This is A LOOK a girl will give you when she is "all in," when she is very into you. Massive IOI.
Below I'll give you SOME EXAMPLES of when you might see it...
I saw "THAT LOOK" on my date last night.
Q: "SHE'S 30 MIN LATE:
"How to counter when you want to be in charge while letting her know that this is not acceptable?"
When she shows up:
ME: Hey, you made it (*smile*)
ME: You DO look great... (PULL)
ME: Are you always late? (PUSH)
HER: Blah blah
ME: C'mon, let's go...
Very TRUE. But why?
When a man can approach, it means he can handle his own nerves during that process. That is what puts him ahead most men.
He can stand there and own it. He TRUSTS himself in that moment. If she feels him trust himself, he is rare, and she'll listen.
THE "UGLY 8":
There is a very hot girl in my class. Russian. Long Sandy blonde hair. Sparkling blue eyes. Almost perfect body.
And I couldn't figure out why she is kind of "repulsive"??? She feels "dry."
She is an UGLY 8, despite her good looks...
BECAUSE SHE IS MASCULINE.
A thread on SEXUAL TENSION:
"Tension creates a reaction."
--
@BrianFearless
(Fearless Man)
"IF YOU WANT TO MEET WOMEN, you need reaction."
TENSION is a primary focus for me in GAME right now. Brian Begin is great with this stuff.
I'll show some EXAMPLES BELOW.
@KickboxingRoma1
> world champion Andrew Tate
Just curious: Where is all the video footage of this "champion?" Is he the only champion that no one ever filmed actually looking like a champion? That's werid.
DAYGAME GIRL
#23
:
Tonight, 1ST DATE. She is.. 22. Nurse. Introvert. Sweet. Perfume. From a small mtn town. Had sex for the first time at 21.
DINNER, side by side, touched her a lot.
Would not come back to my place. Held hands, walked to the station. GREAT DATE. Very nice girl.
As for "NICE:"
I never let girls call me "nice." Never. Even on the street.
HER: Oh, that's nice of you...
ME: I am not nice.
ME: I am selfish...
ME: And I like you...
ME: That is why I am talking to you
I never, ever let a girl call me nice/sweet/etc.
Always REFRAME it.
TESTED:
Cute girl, glasses, sneakers, big sweater. Stopped her. She liked it. Good vibe. Asking me questions.
I went to take her number, and the mood changed. She got kind of serious.
HER: Why?
ME: Because I LIKE YOU
Really gave it to her. SHE BLUSHED, laughed, and loved it.
@jakozloski
@datepsych
> We present 100x more data on every profile than any dating app
Doesn't matter. Age/pics are key determinants. Puts men in a PASSIVE role "waiting" to be approved of.
In real life, a man that will Go Talk to Girls (c) will make an impression his "stats" can not.
HEY... this girl just invited me to the beach.
In 100s and 100s of seductions, this is the first time. Girls never do this kind of thing.
Sounds great.
@datepsych
@whyvert
> The libido gap: how do we know it is real
"Women always want more..." when it's really good.
Many women that are having a great experience "have no limit," they can keep going indefinitely...
They just don't feel that for avg men.
See: Multiple orgasms.
@muhammadmokaev
> Strickland reminds me of Bisping
Bisping you could invite to dinner. He'd say something weird (for sure), but he would get along.
Stickland... might kick your dad's ass, mid meal. Whole different level of energy, for sure.
I love Sean, but he is another level of "wild."
FUNCTION of a "SHIT TEST:"
A shit test is a "polite" way to blow you out. And girls always want to be polite.
If you fail... She did give you a chance to shine. It's not her fault you couldn't "unlock the puzzle."
If you fail... You'll probably feel it and give up.
She is 22, I am 48.
On the pickup, she asked how old I was, and I said "older than you."
Tonight, as I dragged her along, threatening to kiss her, she asked again.
HER: How old are you?
ME: Much older than you, you know that
ME: Only question is... HOW DO I MAKE YOU FEEL?
FTW
DAYGAME GIRL
#23
:
Tonight, 1ST DATE. She is.. 22. Nurse. Introvert. Sweet. Perfume. From a small mtn town. Had sex for the first time at 21.
DINNER, side by side, touched her a lot.
Would not come back to my place. Held hands, walked to the station. GREAT DATE. Very nice girl.
DAYGAME:
I backed out of Game for a few mths as I had a GF. It's been about 10 days since I ended that... I am just starting to get "itchy" for girls again.
Back in the "Fish Bowl" today... watching girls walk by. And...
-- 1st approach
-- Rejected
I'M BACK. Feels good.
@WomanAndGorilla
Wants to wait until marriage:
-- Wears a collar
-- Tongue hanging out of her mouth
All the classic signs of a deeply chaste girl, bless her heart.
TWO YEARS AGO IN JAPAN: Finally had sex on the 7th date.
In my bed on the 3rd date. Very nervous. Her period got in the way on 5th. A BJ was involved on date 6. Finally closed on date 7.
It was frustrating... but we had sex over and over after that.
Don't blow yourself out.
ON TATTOOS:
I like this girl. She is "imperfect" in lovely ways.
But that tattoo... it's like ripping the needle across the record. All noise, no music.
@FWPlayboy
> who has the biggest challenge on the US Sexual Marketplace and why?
Guys that don't approach. Guys with no energy.
The race/height thing doesn't predict much.
"THE MOST IMPORTANT THING with success with women is:
- Coming up and
- Doing everything to make it happen
"Because you're the man, you're the proactive force. Any time you think you can just sit there, you're out of your mind."
-- RSD Tyler
"Make her chase" is beginner BS.
"Many a girl has claimed she 'was single,' but nevertheless indulged in an ex or past flame during that period of 'celibacy.' Because that 'didn’t count.'"
--
@Pat_Stedman
Good FEMALE PSYCH ^ here.
@1truVikingbard
@0xAlaric
> Lol you must be new to the internet
"But, but, but... I can't say what I want online."
Is that where your sexuality is supposed to hit the ground?
Being sexual and "posting online" are not the same thing. You would know that, if you've ever get offline and test reality.
@GotPickup
"Good girl. I like it when you send me pictures."
Assuming you like sexy pics... reward the behavior itself.
It is also a level-headed response that doesn't specifically jump on the sexiness.