Arianna Rebolini
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I write about books, motherhood, and suicide. (I promise I'm fun!!) 📧 hello @ariannarebolini .com ✨ subscribe to my newsletter Reading Habits ⬇️
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I started this book before I knew it was a book, in a psych ward in 2017. After 5 years, multiple iterations & near abandonments, it's a trip to see it here. Overjoyed & overwhelmed & so grateful (ty
@ianbonaparte
!!😭) to have a home w/
@rkambury
. Can't wait to share it with you.
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Thinking about the time I drunkenly spilled an entire bowl of soup on my new macbook & then tried to tell the apple store it just broke out of nowhere & then the guy had to look me in the eye & say “we opened it up and there’s just…so much soup in here…like chunks of carrots..”
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The best thing I learned on TikTok? That there’s no age requirement for AARP. Just saved close to $100 on a car rental. My life is changed.
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so basically everyone I know is depressed, every conversation I have with a close friend is a check-in like "ok so how serious is YOUR desire to die" and we're all just supposed to like.... keep... working? like this isn't happening? still gotta clock in those 40 hours?
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you must release yourself from the tyranny of pride and get the granny cart and never look back
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I've been opening up about how I do not enjoy being a mom, thinking about why I feel so passionately about talking about it, and I think a large part is my belief that normalizing(/celebrating!) the decision to be childfree can lead to more communal childcare
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In my defense(?) it was 2005 and I was 19 and I didn’t know how anything worked
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friends, if you’ve lived through suicidal ideation, please take a break from this news cycle. log off. stop reading. take care of yourself.
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For those insisting I’m lying (sure!) I promise you’re underestimating:
- how big a 2005 MacBook was
- how mushy those soup chunks were
- how hard our frantic wiping probably smooshed them in
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lmao never forget some bullies created a Facebook group just to tell Lady Gaga she’d never be famous back when she was at NYU
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DID YOU KNOW if you are in NY and have been getting the runaround from your health insurance, you can tell them your next step will be submitting formal complaints w the NY attorney general & dept of financial services and they'll miraculously get it solved real quick
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the amount of people I know feeling guilty for not being able to focus, for being "off their game." WE HAVE BEEN IN A PANDEMIC FOR ELEVEN MONTHS. i'm so angry.
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$12 for the first year… I’m shouting it from the rooftops
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Also any willfully obtuse responses that conflate "I do not enjoy being a mom" with "I do not love my child" will be blocked
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Literally nothing makes me feel like a worse mom than fucking gentle parenting. Half hour late to daycare and work bc I had to spend 15 mins telling Theo I see he’s frustrated but he’s such a good helper maybe he could help me put his coat on instead of slapping me? 😌
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make sure you *always* google the email addresses from threatened men who troll you because you might just find it’s from a professor emeritus from
@UTAustin
:)
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A perfect lede to a great essay from
@Scaachi
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"There’s no good way to talk about an 18-year-old woman’s body. She’s too young to drink legally, and yet it’s somehow permissible to start the time-honored tradition of picking her apart."
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I didn't think it needed to be said but of course, if you are like "i fucking hate kids and i'm not watching yours"... i'm not talking about you! i'm talking about options for people who want to care for children but don't want to parent them. there are many!
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@EvilBoris
@patrickklepek
this is the first time i've actually considered the fact that the tech ALSO has this story to tell... I hope it's served him well
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Ok I’m back because anxiety. I do want to *not* be glib about this & reiterate that I don’t think childfree people are valuable only insofar as they support other people’s kids. More what I meant was: I wish we weren’t so narrow minded in our ideas about raising the next gen
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sorry y'all I know i'm going through it publicly this week but this wall we're all hitting right now is real
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The friends who have been making fun of me for this for 15 years are pleased
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@surlybassey
one of the many things about life in the US that makes me want to scream IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY
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If you can go through this beautiful list of books that helped our favorite indie booksellers get through the year without finding at least one book that wasn't already on your radar, I will eat my hat.
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all i'm asking, and I don't think it's too much, is for the spotify app to open when I click a spotify link. I just... I think it's doable, I really do.
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that sounds like a beginning of a thread but it's not, it's just a half-baked idea! something i'm mulling over
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Today my therapist suggested the reason I struggle with emotional intimacy is because I’ve conditioned myself to share my feelings exclusively with strangers on the internet ever since starting livejournal 20 years ago, a big breakthrough, so of course I wanted to log on & tell y
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A cool thing about parenting is that you don’t have weekends anymore, you have two days of non-stop, energy-draining vigilance & entertainment & performance and sometimes you’re like wow I’m literally not going to make it to monday but guess what you have to!!
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it's time to mute this but every response has been heartening, thank you 💙 supporting & celebrating childfree folks doesn't happen without abortion access
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look i know everyone is tired and it was my *decision* to get pregnant and giving up your seat on the train is a whole *thing* (a thing people don’t really do, i’m learning) but an old lady just scolded the train for not giving me a seat and it was incredibly fuckin cool
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Childfree folks, don’t ever let anyone tell you you’ll regret the decision. I’ve always wanted to be a mom & I adore my son but I also woke up and cried over a tweet asking people what books they’re reading for the long weekend so like.. if I’d started with ambivalence? Idk man
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Muting this for a bit so I can actually make myself go to sleep but I appreciate everyone commiserating. I’m sorry you are also very depressed!!! You’re not alone.
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Been thinking about this since it went up, overwhelmed by the response & reach beyond the US. I want to add: There's a specific sadness/guilt/powerlessness in knowing how lucky I am to even have a job, a job I have *loved*, and still watching my ability/will to do it well fading
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The unmitigated gall of Talented Mr Ripley era Jude Law
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What helps is that we’ve started a prompt/response:
“What do we say, even when I’m angry or frustrated?”
“You always love me”
which does not make him more likely to suddenly behave (lol) but helps me not spiral into a guilty crisis for the rest of the day
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reminder that "listening to audiobooks doesn't count as reading" is a wrong, embarrassing, and ableist take
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Cool news: I'm doing a monthly book column at
@bustle
, and the first installment went up yesterday! I'm reading broadly—old stuff, new stuff, literary & "genre" (for lack of a better distinction). What a dream!
Check it outttt
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The adorably devious thing he’s figured out is that in the middle of our power struggle, if he stops and says “are ya happy mama? are ya frustrated?” It will make me laugh
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a friend DMd me asking for pregnancy advice & I was like of course!! then I forgot & months later was like I’m so sorry i never responded, how are you? & she said no worries! good, you? then I never responded & now we can never speak again even tho I’ve known her since I was 3 :(
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@cherishbearclaw
the funniest hate response to me is "that's not what it's like for me, it just sounds like you shouldn't have been a mother!!!" and it's like ok well... I am... so... ???
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@georgiapeach331
yes!!! like what if we allowed people to do this without the additional "don't you want some of YOUR OWN?" pressure?? also, entirely selfishly, I'm glad my sister is childfree because that means she can just babysit mine all the time.
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I've been putting together book lists for mmm 6 years? & this one is hands down the coolest, curated by laid-off booksellers who will get commission if you buy thru these
@Bookshop_Org
links!!!
36 Great Recommendations From Booksellers Who Read Everything
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I wonder if they'll stick with each other once they take off the makeup and find out they're both extremely hot
Sexy Beasts is a new dating show where real-life singles sport elaborate makeup and prosthetics to put true blind-date chemistry to the test.
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(The best part is that despite doing his background research, Braden is wrong.)
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Going from a bad pregnancy to 5 months of colic to global pandemic means I have been VERY LONELY for almost two years and woof I am just falling apart
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Impeachment vote is happening today but might I suggest clicking on this list of 75 books we're very excited about in 2021, maybe bookmarking it for a break, etc.?
So many authors I love & debuts I'm psyched about, I could CRY. Here come some tags ⬇️
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Hi hi hi the BuzzFeed Book Club is born! 🌟 📚
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Probably a long shot but! I'm looking for people who might have worked with my grandmother at a bakery in the Bronx called The Cookie Jar circa 1950-1960 on White Plains Rd. She died very young and my mom and I are hoping to connect with people who knew her.
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one of the worst things about being in a low is how, as you come out of it, the shame of having been IN it makes the idea of reconnecting w the world so terrifying. the sense that you’ll have to start with a mound of apologies - & is this the time those apologies wont be enough?
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also BuzzFeed dot com had just said they would no longer dedicate resources to books content/newsletter & would transfer everything to news, which means an outlet that was once a leader in exciting online books content is officially dead
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This year I finally got my shit together and applied for residencies. I was rejected by all. That’s life!!!!! Somehow I survived and I hope this inspires you.
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hard to articulate how disheartening/heartbreaking it is to watch so many writers who were at BF when I started in 2013 - writers who made me want to work at BF! - being so unceremoniously dropped. what a misguided and mindboggling decision, and it just keeps getting worse.
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(Though I do love the idea of Braden frantically googling “[author on list who looks like a white man] + gay???”)
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What a bittersweet thing to spend the past couple days learning about these amazing independent bookstores — so I could include them in a list of stores in danger of going out of business. Donate where you can, buy books where you can, share far & wide.
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Re “pro-abortion” pushback: We give credence to the idea that abortion is Bad if we refuse to name it. Abortion doesn’t have to be a whispered worst case scenario. “Pro-choice” is fine but it capitulates to a moral framework I reject. I am pro-abortion, no caveats, forever.
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After a year+ of obsessively writing about indie booksellers I'm THRILLED to announce I'm joining their ranks—starting next month I'll be leading marketing for a very exciting indie bookstore/event space opening in LES, so follow
@ptknitwear
and, as they say, watch this space.✌🏻
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For the past 5 years, I've been thinking about depression & suicide, and what a future without fear of either might look like. I'm so glad to have part of that work on
@CatapultStory
today, about the problem of separating the symptom from the person
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@blgtylr
truly if anyone is looking for proof that fat people can't win, it's in the comments under any article about ozempic
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Hi! Are you interested in writing deep-dive pieces about book trends & the book industry? I want to hear your pitches! arianna.rebolini
@buzzfeed
.com
Here are some recent ones we've loved:
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tell me the best book you read this year please (especially interested in books that didn't come out this year!!!!)
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A call out - my friend is currently stranded in Aruba. Her son who is autistic wasn’t able to safely comply on the flight home last week. Tried to charter but were told he’s unfit to fly. They don’t know what their options are & I’m hoping to connect them to someone who might.
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Ah yes the academic rigor of... “what are ya, scared?”
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Short pleasant convos with cashiers/baristas/servers are often the best part of my day. Life is often small and lonely! Gimme more!
i’m sorry are you guys serious right now
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This is the year I fully understood that no amount of therapy & meds will fix the problem of working for people who fundamentally disrespect your humanity. No more siloed “mental illness” / “mental health” conversations; we change it all.
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this woman just stopped me on the street while on the phone to frantically and excitedly motion to me that we were wearing the same shoes and that is the kind of posi energy I live for
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my kingdom for a residency that understands sometimes writers are parents
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If it's helpful, here's what I said to the first customer service rep: Hi, this is my 5th time calling so I'd like to be connected with a supervisor. My doctor advised me to file a complaint w/ the AG but I wanted to try to resolve it one last time before escalating.
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Confusing to the point of distraction that PAW Patrol is formatted like an acronym but doesn’t seem to stand for anything
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@juliareinstein
Julia I doubled down I was like “oh well I guess someone else must have spilled something and didn’t tell me”
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something I've learned by observing
@bfnewsunion
bargaining is that it's easy for your employer to say they value and respect you until you ask them to put that in writing
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today my poor therapist had to say “would you be open to deleting TikTok from your phone?” to me, a woman nearing middle age
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just had my first experience of going to follow someone whose work I admire.... only to find i've been BLOCKED! I know i'm going to lose my entire day to fixating on this
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Anyway it’s a great list of books recommended by booksellers so do check it out if you haven’t!
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@amandaeyreward
I'm SO excited for this. A lot of parents have warned me "it only gets harder" but Theo as a toddler is worlds easier than Theo as a colicky infant and I'm hopeful that trend will continue!
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Did not expect this to have such a reach! If you DO have a job and are able, please consider donating to this relief fund for NYC restaurant workers
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thank you
@whoweekly
for giving my exact preferred genre a name: “adult contemporary power pop from migraine commercials”
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Look I ~get~ that I seem like I'm being unnecessarily difficult when I fight any suggestion of a BuzzFeed Books/Amazon collab but everything is so awful, this is my minuscule bit of power, I have to believe it matters, i'm so sad & angry & tired
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Gentle parenting influencer “advice”: it’s hard 😔 but it’ll work! ❤️
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just remembered this tweet out of nowhere and literally laughed out loud
doctor: congrats on the baby! What are you going to name him
Newt Gingrich’s mom: newt gingrich
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I did something a month ago that has truly improved my life tenfold: I signed a lease on an office space. It's a teeny windowless room in a building full of art studios etc. but it's just the best thing I've ever done for my creative life. And my sanity?? My own space, all mine.
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I'm so grateful for what
@blgtylr
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A lot of people keep saying this, but my two thoughts:
1. Do you imagine that the majority of diabetics prescribed this are also not being prescribed it because it aids in weight loss?
2. Is there some magically worthy group who ARE allowed to take it "for weight loss"?
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I was so pleased to be part of this monster list! 2021's books were phenomenal & lot of my faves are here:
@surlybassey
@KristenRadtke
@colsonwhitehead
@iSmashFizzle
@sosadtoday
@ClintSmithIII
@bwhobson
@elissawashuta
@dantielwmoniz
@praddenkeefe
& more
The 100 Must-Read Books of 2021
Introducing this year’s best fiction, nonfiction and poetry
time.com
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Konstantine walked so All Too Well (10 Minute Version) (Taylor’s Version) could run
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went from "check back in 3 days... no actually check back in a month" to "I'm emailing you right now and will be back in touch within 24 hours, I'm keeping a close eye on this, I'm so sorry for the inconvenience"
(shout to my therapist for the tip!)
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Solidarity with
@hcpunion
today & always. We need to stop pretending a $45k salary is reasonable in NYC in 2022. Not when median rent for a 1bdrm (in the boroughs!!!!) is $3k. ESPECIALLY not when the company is bringing in close to $2B in annual revenue.
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when I eventually abandon my beloved new york in exhaustion and despair, please know, from the bottom of my heart, it will be 100% the MTA’s fault
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ok hear me out... is it possible that the reason I’ve been sad & unmotivated & undisciplined for like two years... socially, spiritually, physically, creatively depleted...is because I don’t have a nice enough desk? bc idk I’m eyeing this west elm and I think it holds the key
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anyway I know this is old news but the fact that Brendan & I can pay over $1500/month on insurance & some rando can still be like "mmm actually that MRI your doctor, the expert, has ordered is in fact not medically necessary so we will not be paying for it" should be...illegal???
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it sucks that jonah snuffed out everything good about buzzfeed because there were a couple years there where I think I had more fun than I've ever had, and will ever have again, in my working life. what a wasteland media CEOs have created.
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