I disagree Nick. Always give them option. Mama gave us multiple options then too...
Option 1 - Eat what I have and cooked
Option 2 - Sleep hungry.
Option 3 - Go and call the slaves and maids of ponri pongba of your forefathers and father to make another meal for you.
Allowing your children to choose another meal when they don’t like what you’ve served for dinner is a sure-fire way to raise entitled, spoiled, mentally fragile kids.
Sent my boy to Quran integrated boarding system,1st term holiday,he came home crying. I debriefed him,under 30 min,I spotted bullying right away.I spent some of my formative years in boarding system,so I know most sch bullying OT. I just told myself I failed the boy straight away
There are 1001 marrital challenges, I promise you; "Who will cook & who will not cook" ranks number 1000. On number 1001 is;"How neat you press the toothpaste"
May you not have financial & job crisis,may you not be tested with barrenness, may your children & partner not fall sick
Give her time bro, women need time, especially when they are scared and indecisive like this.
I had to give my ex time too that year. 6 months into the time, she got my wedding pictures from her friend.
Maryam said she was engaged, then I pressed a little further, then it changed to "though he came to see my parent, they haven't approve they have little problem with him"
I said oh, that's not engagement.
Then I did little more gengen pressing, shaa, we don born 3 children now🥴
Guardians & parents need to know 1st, that no school in the world have capacity to micro manage all students simultaneously all the time.
For this reason, you must then prepare your child & build a solid anti-bully tank. They must learn to stand up and defend themselves all times
Here is the rule :THERE IS NO IN-BETWEEN IN LIFE, YOU EITHER BULLY OR THEY BULLY YOU. Go and defend yourself, stand up and defend yourself. If you get overpowered, that is when you report to me or your teacher, defend yourself first. "Just dey fight & report anybody dey go"
3. Stage 2 is to just discard the first rule, set a new rule and strike a balance 🤝.
Step down rule : DON'T BE BULLIED, BUT DON'T BULLY ANYONE.
What we will not take, we will not do it to others, isnt it boy? If I get a report you bully a person, you will have problem with me
Easy fix...
1. I called the sch & reported.
School response as usual: vahdoeyejdmehvdjeh.
Me to myself : I didn't call for you to fix it, you can't fully fix it, I just called to warn sch management and the bully boys ahead 2nd term, war is coming, y'all will see crazy. Lol.
2. I spent the next few minutes every other day with my boy, building a solid anti-bully tank. I understand the psychology of bullying. 1st I built back his confidence through support & reassurance, I then selected the most brutal anti bully rule to train him with ahead 2nd term.
By mid term 2nd term when my brother went to pick him up, Fawallahi robbu ka'aba the school management told my brother
"Your boy, is his father a soldier? The rapid change we cant understand, from being bullied to bullying everyone". I laughed,stage 1 accomplished. Now to stage 2
3 years to my marriage I lost sustenance. For more than half of that year it was hands to mouth.
Allah controls sustenance not you, either before or after marriage.
If you have the slightest of capacity to marry, don't let shaitan use the fear of poverty to hold you back.
Peter Obi always talk like he's brilliant and have deep knowledge of issues, you will be so carried away and be following him until in the end, you just find out you have not gotten anything sensible from him except Chinese lies and false claims. 🙄
You hold Naira, problem
You hold dollar, problem
You hold crypto, problem
You hold NFTs, problem
You come hold woman, dah one dey cause mental problem
Wetin man go hold gan gan? 🤦
Hi Rinu. This clarifications may help.
1. In the 70s,after the civil war, government took over Islamic & Christian missionary schools. Catholic, C & S,Ansarul deen, Nawarudeen, Ansarul Islam etc.
From that moment on, the schools seized to be missionary & become government schools
Why should Muslim Students who chose to go to Missionaries Schools be allowed to wear Hijab in the school?
If it’s that compulsory, why not send them to the Muslim schools in Kwara?
My mum has been struggling with her health and she has currently been admitted into the hospital. Please help me pray for her quick recovery and permanent healing.
Taking advantage of the social media BC, for I do not know who among you is closer to Allah than the rest of us.
From Ilorin
Born in Ilorin
Primary sch Ilorin
Sec sch Ilorin
University of Ilorin; 1st degree
University of Ilorin; 2nd degree
University of Ilorin ; on 3rd degree
30 yrs of my life, only 1 year, 8 months has been spent out of Ilorin.
N.Y.S.C,Sokoto 1 year
Farm job,Ogun 8 months
I married at 26, and I never looked back since then..absolutely no regret. If I have my way, and I have another chance, I will do it even earlier and again.
In the last 30 years plus or so, never in the history of the country that we will close border on rice for 1 week and by now we won't be in serious trouble.
By Allah,d rice revolution is real and I am not even joking. I av my facts, I live in kwara border line & this is my field
@SirAdinoyi
No vex sir adinoyi. The thing is me I was just ready for marriage please. Anything beyond that point I may start a wayward lifestyle I am not used to. The sister is also married now to another man may Allah help me bless her home and womb
Today my marriage is 7 years Alhamdulillah.
In the face of heightened anti-marriage rhetorics you are consuming online, I want to let you know - yes marriage is full of ups & downs, but the overall benefit is higher.
So, In the name of Allah who created us in pairs, I recommend.
At about 8am today 8-04-2019. I came out of this alive. Infact, unbruised, doctor gave me just paracetamol.
Car written off, but life not written off. With hope of life, we can get back, up and running again.
Could have been another story, Lillahi l hamd.
@OnlyVersion
@That_IjebuBadoo
Where is the time. When they have 150 children ratio to a doctor. No time o. Chook and go ni, make your mama dey wipe ur tears as you dey go
It may not be Buhari, it may be another president, but one day a president will definitely call the bluff of staff unions and declare a state of emergency in our education system, particularly the university system. One day is one day
@EmperorKaash
They will never stop. That's not where it stops, they will damage you for life, you will live with fear and anxiety till adult. Permanent psychological damage. Not good for anyone.
Dear Maryam,
Thank you for exposing my imperfection in the last 6 years and making me embrace them.
Lets do this again for another 60 years.
Happy wedding anniversary 💕.
Signed
Assistant Manager. 😁
One of our brother only went out jogging. He slumped and they brought back his corpse.
Death as a phenomenon sometimes just make you lose interest in life.
Dear Muslim men,
I am addressing you first as your brother and then equally as a married man of 7 years.
Do not lie down and take the tag of "good for nothing" that has already been given to you by lefty aunties.
By all means create space to help your wiives out. BE KIND!
@47kasz
One thing I am always certain of is that women that are like this, will also drop that guy they followed to UK once they see another better, well settled citizen who offers them better deal again. And the cycle continues till they make life mistake sometimes too and - The end
Up till now if I meet my mother or father eating, they still cut meat for me. Always very funny to me.
For this people, you can never be old enough, you are just still a child and forever a child even if you are 50😅.
Robi ir'am umma kama robayani sogiiran.
Our parents that they matchmake with strangers live 30, 40 years fruitful marriage.
We marriying our best friends & divorcing in 6 months.
So much for "marrying for love".
If you think they didn't enjoy love they just endured it, shame on you for not enduring your best friend.
He is chosing his words deliberately.
This 2nd caption atleast confirmed yesterday's was no mistake.
Him,the organisers of his trip and his handlers need to respect the value of his host country. I will not accept a foreign pastor come to Nigeria to call CAN leader head of state
Introduce yoruba they say, stop speaking only english to them, let them learn the local language...here is how my 3 yr old boy speak now
Daddy, Aisha ti beat head mi
Daddy, mofe eat food mi
Mummy, mofe take drugs mi🤦♂️
I was only trying to make him bilingual,now it's bye-lingual😀
@Father2AQueen
It is hard to have a girl child and not relate to this. Girl child have a playful and lively energy a degree above that of boy child. They can be very very funny😊
As for private schools like Alhikmah University forcing hijab on their Christian students and BOWEN, COVENANT etc universities forcing hijab off their muslim students, we wait till the law is tested on that. Until then, the rule is clear on public schools & institutions.
@darknbold1
They were gaslighting people ni and a lot fell for it. Some of us are familiar to their game. Every damn region is tribalistic. Infact the ones that complain the most are usually the most tribalistic. Sorry
@faitheeponyg
This is conjecture. Most schools will punish the boy. You people should rest with this your agenda. And yes, once the boy is punished, they should check if your tight dress fit in the school rules too and discipline you for it.
@OyikiGreat
Always see the bright side of things. The good thing is that you can put generator in the night, broiler chicken during the day. It is a multi purpose cage
@iAmSeunKentebe
Find a way to stand up for your wife without standing/trampling on your mother. You got a difficult job there, God help you through this situation.
Buhari is coming to kwara on Feb 4. There are just 2 people that can tie me down not to go see him. My wife and my mother. Unfortunately these 2 pple I already tie them down with words, long ago. I told them any day Buhari come visiting, even if they tie me, I will untie.
Ignoring Muhammed Salah's yearly attention seeking, for me serve more purpose than attending to him and feeding his ego every year. After all everything in the end is between individuals and their Creator.
So I ran few checks on some of these our "Cancel El Rufai" goons under sowore's "cancel wike" tweet. Please come and laugh.😂😂😂.
E get reason why Nigeria dey where e dey wallahi. 😊
Beyond ur ustaz telling you suratul Waqiah is for seeking riches, let me sensitize you to a sensitive part of Quran 56.
About a year+ back, a close friend lost his younger brother. Young boy, fresh 1st class graduate, just rounding up service. Just slight headache, that was all.
I pushed & led the divorce of 2 muslim women in the last 3 years & I'v never been more pleased in my life. To know how bad it was, under a year that the 1st separation was successful, the said husband was arrested for murder, she's been living & "persevering" with a serial killer
@Drwhales_
This is what the entire election was built on that made you lose.
Emotional Blackmail
Gaslighting
I will stop feeding my daddy if he vote APC
Suffer no dey tire you
I have told my friend we need to stop talking cos he wasn't to vote APC
OUR CANDIDATE & PARTY IS THE SAINT
These schs for 43yrs av been fully funded & controlled by gvt & ar subjected to the state's secular rules which allows for freedom of religious practice & identity.
This means Ansarul can no longer force hijab on Janet
& Babtist cant take hijab off Maryam. Any1 can sue if they do
You will know a product of failed parenting when you see one. And this thing is just too common on here.
When we were growing up,you dare to mock a special/disabled person as a child. My mother will eat you alive! We learn from early age you don't do that. Who raised some of you
The peace committee in 2015, ensured to get soft landing for Jonathan. They found a way to make Buhari sign that Jonathan will not be touched or tried.
They are working towards getting same deal for Atiku.
That is not a peace committee, that's a trash committee.
@izesule
Some of these people I feel they do not belong to our generation. Their body is just here their heart belongs to the generation of the companions that lived with the prophet.
Our intention followed with our action.
This Munaaqabah; Hassanat Muhammad Awwal graduated with First class honors in microbiology, University of Ilorin. She left to U.K for MSc & got decorated yet again as 1 of d best graduating student in her department with distinction.
Unilorin to d world,
Again,Niqab to d world!
@aproko_doctor
It got to me. I think we need to be careful, there is no duplicate for life. Most importantly, our lives isn't really ours, we got lot of people who will be affected when we crash. Had some good rest this year, tho less money. 😊.
God help every youth out there surviving. Ameen
For every one who come across this, please help me pray for a soul I just lost.
The ustaz from whose tongue I learnt the quran and from whose palm I drank my first water of sunnah, passed away early hours this morning. May Allah accept his return and admit him to firdaus. Ameen.
If you badly want to identify with Islam, then do what Islam says and wear proper Islam ID, do not mis represent the religion.
It is fine if you are strugling in some areas, all of us are struglers. But stop the deliberate 2-fase. There is no excuse for deliberate negligence
3rd dhul hijja 2017, Allah blessed me with a baby boy, naming fell right on the blessed Arafat day.
3rd Dhul hijja 2019,Allah has blessed me with a baby girl, her naming again on the Arafat day.
You dont plan or calculate these things, Allah does. Which if His favours can I deny
Shaaban starts today. Outside ramadan, there is no month the prophet has been reported to fast more than he does in this month. Aisha was reported saying
"He fast so much in this month that you think he is never going to stop"
Increase your sawm this month in prep for ramadan
Sisters do not want insha Allah brothers, they want masha Allah brothers. It is fine, everyone wants perfect situation especially financially.
But remember, every masha Allah brothers of today started from insha Allah too. And not all that glitters is gold.
A word is enough...
We have 2 imams in our local mosque. Young knowlegeable vibrant memorisers of Quran. The younger, 2nd imam has gone to dye his hair to gold. I am awaiting committee of elders to summon him as soon as they see it.
I want to see the violence😂😂
Number of people with organ problems, kidney and liver specifically is getting higher and higher.
We ask Allah for good health.
Pls watch out for the dos and don'ts of the organs too.
1st time nunu emgaged me ws sometimes January on Qadr (Destiny). Just that day alone, I see through her. I saw light radiating, I saw sound tawwakul, I saw a heart at peace with her Lord, i saw a heart operating at peak of Eeman. May Allah accept her more than we av described her
@Daddy_NomZ
@el_pherooq
Not supporting cooking for bonding as it already seems outdated, but does every family have finance for all the alternative you listed here for bonding?
Another of our sisters, please retweet.
Age : 30yrs
Genotype ; AS
Education: MSc
Job : Teaching
Town/state of origin: Ejigbo/ Osun
Current location; Osogbo
Type of man she wants: Educated, religious & God fearing man, morally upright
If you give charity to certain extent, you will realise your money just physically reduce momentarily, your wealth and asset is generally increasing in a way you are unable to explain empirically.
Continue to give to charity, by Allah it doesn't reduce your wealth.
Mizoram, a 6 year old Indian boy mistakenly ran over his neighbors chicken. He took all his pocket money and rushed the already dead chicken to the hospital innocently. The nurse on duty took the picture.
There is a popular lesson I always draw out of this type of incidence....
Fear Allah as regards the right of your women.
Strive to do the best within your capacity, and if you have done that which is within your capacity, then leave the rest of your affairs to Allah. He sees, He knows and He is the best of Judge.
Sheik Amubieya said,
"Why would you go out of your range to go and marry a woman who is used to eating 3 meats per meal from her fathers house & ask her to adjust to 1 ponmo a day. Telling her fear Allah hajia and manage with me.
This is for the "I can only do my best" brothers
For those struggling with their solat, may Allah make it easy for you and make us all more steadfast. Consistency with solat rectify so many other social vices in your life.
If you call a person kaafir and he is not a kaafir, you have become a kaafir (Hadith).
If you call a person muslim and he is not a Muslim, you lost nothing.
The choice is yours with regards caution.
Hakeemah will remind you of solatu dua every day like alarm clock
Iraadat will remind you of daily adhkar.
May Allah be pleased with the 2 sisters and make this count for them, on the day the mouth will be sealed, and the hand with which they write will testify.
Being a Muslim is not a ticket to having a boring sad life.
Be cheerful, play, interact, be happy, exercise, work, have a social life, just draw the line within ur halal limit, ensure to not overstretch ur capacity & finally be real,do not be an hypocrite. Av a beautiful weekend
Cake 1 and 2 here are both Quran inspired design cake.
Cake 1 was baked by
@Riqueza_cakes
,the cause of the noise,
Cake 2 I got under her thread as other person's work.
Cake 3 and 4 are kaabah inspired design cake I got elsewhere for the purpose of this thread.
So let us analyse
Not only polygamy, you don't even need to specify polygamy, as it will seems like an agenda against that sunnah.
A MUSLIM WOMAN CAN SEEK DIVORCE IF SHE IS NOT HAPPY IN HER MARRIAGE.
Short and precise.
If we raise the boy child right, there might not be need to protect the girl child from him when he grows up.
We need to start addressing root cause of problems, to get a total solution. Raise your children right!