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Turning heartbreak into clarity | 1:1 Sessions to reclaim your power | Book a call ⬇️ let’s heal together
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10 Signs you’re beginning to heal; . 1. You’re getting better at recognising your feelings .2. When things go wrong, you don’t automatically blame yourself .3. You don’t second guess yourself .4. You can speak up without overthinking .5. You’re much less sensitive to rejection.
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Nobody talks about the guy who shows up during your healing stage. The one who’s calm, patient, & genuinely kind. He makes you feel safe in ways you didn’t even realise you needed. He’s not love bombing or playing games…he’s consistent, steady, and truly sees you.
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A man going through “a lot” is not your invitation to become his therapist or emotional caretaker. If the texts get slower, his presence fades, and he puts you on the back burner, ask yourself…Is this the energy I want to build my life around?.
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I love seeing ppl who haven’t had the best relationships finally find their person. It’s like watching someone who’s been carrying around a heavy weight for years finally put it down.
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Having a sister is honestly one of the best things in life. There’s this magic in growing closer as you get older, like all along, your best friend was right there. She’s not just someone who’s there… she’s there.
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Can we talk about the withdrawals that hit when someone ghosts you or walks away? When you go from talking to them every day to… nothing? It feels like losing a part of yourself. Like this gaping hole you don’t know how to fill.
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Ppl will admire your depth until it’s time to swim in it. They’ll praise your wisdom until it holds them accountable… love your light until it exposes their shadows. They’ll crave your energy until they realise it’s not free….
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The loneliness that comes with fixing your life… hits different. It’s not just about being alone, it’s sitting in the quiet after you’ve walked away from everything & everyone that wasn’t good for you. It’s the ache that comes when you say no to ppl you once said yes to.
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Some ppl will walk into your life, flip everything upside down, & leave like they never touched a thing. No care. No accountability. No emotional intelligence. It isn’t that they don’t see the damage, they do. They just bury it. They’re avoidants of theirs emotions too.
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Mixed signals means they don’t like you like that. When someone really wants you there’s no confusion. No guessing. Maybe you grew up thinking love had to be earned. Maybe you’re used to crumbs bc that’s what feels familiar. Or maybe you think be patient enough, they’ll change.
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When you taste the sweetness of compatibility, chaos stops being appealing. You stop romanticising the highs & lows, mistaking mixed signals for mystery. Bc when it’s right, there’s no guessing game. No over explaining. No waiting for someone to “choose” you properly. Love flows.
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Things I’m no longer tolerating; .1. People’s Projections .2. Gaslighting .3. Having your feelings dismissed .4. Power imbalance in relationships .5. Emotional Manipulation .6. One sided relationships. What are some things you’re not tolerating for the rest of the year?.
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And yet… it’ll scare you. Especially after dealing with the ‘fake nice guys’ the manipulators, the gaslighters, the ones who wore kindness like a mask, it’s almost unsettling to meet someone who’s exactly who they say they are.
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Ppl who ghost are at their core, cowards. It’s never about you being too anything. They don’t disappear bc they don’t care. It’s bc they can’t care in the way love requires. It requires vulnerability & communication. AND TRUTH. So instead, they run.
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Wishing this for all y’all this year. Healing is beautiful
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Love isn’t about waiting in the shadows while someone decides if you’re important enough. When you’ve always been the one to “understand,” to overextend, to be the mirror that reflects everyone else’s potential.
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An unavailable person’s worst nightmare is a new person. It’s easier to recycle an old relationship than to take the leap into something new, where the outcome is uncertain. A new person means they have to show up. They have to be consistent, intentional, and actually try.
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His presence will feel so unfamiliar that it might even make you question him. “Is this real? What’s the catch?”. When you’ve never had true emotional safety, your brain is rewired to survive in a world where love didn’t feel safe.
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The beauty of emotions is that they pass. They’re very temporary, they’re fleeting. So as much as we like to run away from negative emotions. Taking the time to feel it is actually an easier approach.
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For everything I’ve ever lost I’ve gained so much in return.
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When you’re so used to chaos, calm feels suspicious. When you’ve only known manipulation, authenticity feels like a trap. And this is where things get tricky. You might find yourself nitpicking, overanalysing, or pulling away from someone who’s actually good for you.
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It’s constantly scanning for danger, hyper-vigilant to red flags, even in ppl who mean well. It’s like it’s saying, We’ve been burned before, so let’s make sure it doesn’t happen again. The same hyper-vigilance that protected you before can now sabotage you.
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It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that your patience will eventually unlock their devotion. If they can’t prioritise you now, how will they show up when life gets harder?.
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There’s a lot of freedom in not believing every thought you have. Sometimes you’ve got to remember you’re just the thinker not your actual thoughts. Stop giving your thoughts too much control in your daily life.
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You’ll start to notice the mirror flips. Now you’re the one holding up the red flags. Not because you’re manipulative or unkind, but because your unhealed wounds are now influencing how you show up.
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6. You recognise your triggers .7. You respect boundaries & set your own .8. You’re managing your emotions well .9. You’re setting personal goals .10. You’re no longer ashamed
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Not because they’re doing anything wrong, but because your brain is still stuck in survival mode. You’ve spent so long navigating unsafe relationships that you don’t know how to trust a safe one.
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He’ll reflect back the areas where you still struggle to feel safe, to trust, to open up. And that’s not a bad thing. Growth always comes with discomfort. He isn’t a test, he’s a gift. But his presence will challenge you to confront parts of yourself that are still healing.
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But what if you assumed the opposite? .What if you told yourself, This is what I deserve. This is the reflection of the work I’ve done. The gentle man who shows up during your healing stage isn’t just offering you love; he’s offering you a mirror.
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You might get defensive, question their motives, or keep them at arm’s length, all to protect yourself. Doing this, you risk sabotaging the very thing you’ve been waiting for. Remember, what you assume, you attract.
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I’ve always been asked how do you know when it’s time to let go. Here are a few signs.
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Remember this, love isn’t about being “understanding” to the point of self-sacrifice. It’s about alignment, mutuality, and effort. And when you choose yourself, the universe will reflect that choice back to you in ways more beautiful than you could imagine.
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If you walk into a new relationship assuming it’s too good to be true or waiting for the other shoe to drop, your energy will create the very tension you fear. You’ll unintentionally project doubt and fear onto someone who’s only ever tried to show up for you.
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Ppl who “aren’t ready” often gravitate toward you bc your energy holds up a mirror, reflecting both their light and their shadows. They’re drawn to your your depth, your ability to see them for who they are & maybe even who they could become.
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But not everyone is ready to face that reflection. While you’re busy seeing their potential, they’re showing you their reality. Some people come into our lives as mirrors, not matches.
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I know it’s hard. I know part of you is tempted to reach out, to fix it, to just understand. But let me tell you something, you don’t need to chase closure from someone who wasn’t willing to give it to you.
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Signs you’re in a healthy relationship. 1. You’re comfortable communicating. 2. Your trust goes beyond believing they won’t cheat or lie to you. 3. You aren’t codependent and have a life of your own outside of the relationship. 4. You’re not afraid to speak up.
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They reveal the parts of ourselves that need healing, where we overgive, ignore red flags, or mistake effort for love. When someone says, “I’m just going through a lot right now,” it’s often a coded message.
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The only way to trust someone after they’ve betrayed you is to override yourself completely. Your intuition, the wisdom, the way your body signals danger. How do you go back to who you were before they showed you who they are? You can’t. They’ve rewritten the entire dynamic.
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Sometimes your deepest wounds were not caused by others but by ignoring your intuition. People often desire a relationship so bad they ignore the obvious.
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Self care isn’t self love. You can get your hair & nails done as frequently as you want, have a strict maintenance routine and still not be at a place of self acceptance. Self love takes us to a place much deeper.
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Love won’t make you feel like you’re auditioning. You don’t have to analyse their every move. If they’re not clear about their feelings it’s a no. For the lovers who feel like they’re asking for too much, you’re asking the wrong ppl. Stop trying to fix ppl.
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admire your strength until it reminds them of their weakness. Some ppl love the idea of you, the version that inspires, entertains, or makes them feel good. But the truth is, depth isn’t always comfortable. It requires presence, reflection, & effort.
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The silence is deafening, isn’t it? It leaves you replaying everything every convo, every joke, every moment. You wonder if you said the wrong thing, did too much, or didn’t do enough.
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Don’t ever go against your own standards because you’ll hate yourself for it.
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Maybe they’re overwhelmed, emotionally unavailable, or simply not invested. Some ppl aren’t ready, they’re busy trying to outrun themselves. These encounters aren’t punishments, they’re lessons.
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To remind you that it’s not bc you’re unworthy, it’s bc you still believes you have to earn love. Ppl who can’t face their own emotions will retreat, hoping you’ll fill in the gaps with your understanding.
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I hope one day you meet someone who makes you forget what it felt like to second-guess yourself. Someone who doesn’t leave you piecing together the silence they left behind. Someone who stays.
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They’ve been through heartbreak, disappointment, and maybe even thought love wasn’t for them. Then, out of nowhere, BOOM they meet someone who just clicks. Their hard exterior starts to soften, and you can see them open up in a way they never have before. Soooo beautiful.
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And not everyone is willing to wade through the waters they once admired from the shore. So don’t shrink. Don’t dilute yourself to fit their comfort. Let those who can swim, swim. And those who can’t let them watch.
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My soft place to land, my quiet strength, my little pick me up when I need it most. And the beautiful thing is, she does it without even realising it, just by being herself. I hope I pour into her the way she does for me.
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If you need anything to have your back in this life, let it be your self esteem. Boundaries high, energy protected & your soul in alignment. Bc ppl will only meet you as deeply as you’ve met yourself. And if you don’t know your worth it’ll teach you through trials.
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You are not needy. Your needs are just unmet.
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Never let the same person who caused your pain be the only person to help ‘cure’ it. That isn’t love. It’s trauma bonding.
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It’s normal. The brain is wired for connection, and when that connection breaks, your mind goes into overdrive trying to make sense of it. But your brain can heal.
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Listen when nobody else celebrates you. Remember to celebrate yourself. Always.
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Saw a TedTalk on how to stop your mind from constantly overthinking and it’s by asking yourself “Are my thoughts useful?” and “How do my thoughts behave?” It’s helped me so much recently.
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1. You’re being forced to become someone you’re not. 2. You’re consistently being hurt (yet your still holding on).3. You’re doing the chasing .4. You keep justifying their behaviours.5. You’re unhappy. (Do you even remember the last time you felt happy?).6. They’re inconsistent.
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If you’re someone who isn’t superficial or shallow, you’ll naturally attract a lot of ppl you intrigue by your depth but they’ll also be pulled away by it too. Your depth is intimidating. It challenges them to grow, & let’s be real, not everyone is ready for that kind of growth.
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He’s not here to fix you, and you’re not here to sabotage him. Feeling stuck and ready for a shift? Let’s work 1:1 to help you heal and find the peace you deserve. 💛 Start your journey here:
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When you start believing you’re worthy of love, the kind that’s steady and kind, you’ll attract it. Love yourself fiercely now, even when it’s hard. Especially when it’s hard. Bc the love you deserve. It doesn’t ghost you. It doesn’t leave you doubting your value.
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At some point in your life you’ve got to put YOU first. Noone is here to save you. No one is going to look out for you as much as you! The person your gonna be is who you ultimately choose to be.
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You have the power to rewire those thoughts. To replace self-doubt with self-love. To stop believing their absence means something’s wrong with you.
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You shouldn’t have to remind someone how to value you.
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bc you’re choosing better now. “I deserve more than I allow myself to accept”. While that realisation is powerful, it’s also so heavy. Bc when you finally raise your standards. You lose ppl. You lose comfort. You lose the version of you that would settle to just feel something.
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One of the best ways to love on yourself is to be disciplined. How can you expect people to show up for you if you don’t create boundaries with yourself that are maintained over time. Start by keeping small promises to yourself. Create daily routines & habits.
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She’s not just my sister; she knows how to get under my skin but would fight the world for me. And in a world that can feel so loud, so chaotic, they’re proof that love, in its simplest form, is where grace truly lives ❤️.
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Bc when it’s the right person, it’ll feel diff. You won’t overthink every word or action. Their presence will bring peace, not confusion. The universe works like a mirror, it reflects back the energy you hold within.
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7. You make all the changes, you’ve done all you could but nothing seems to change.8. You feel insecure .9. You feel lonely all the time, unheard & disrespected.10. Your being held back from achieving your goals & being who you want to be .11. You’ve lost all your passion.
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They don’t run bc you’re “too much”, they run bc you reflect back the things they’re unwilling to confront. They leave destruction not just in your life, but in their own. Bc you can’t outrun yourself.
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What they’re avoiding will meet them again, just in a diff form, another person, another conflict, another breakdown. This is why your peace shouldn’t depend on their apology, their closure, or their awareness.
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Heal so you can stop repeating the same relationship patterns.
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Kids are always able to sense bad vibes or people that make them feel uncomfortable. A lot of times though parents dismiss this. Unconsciously this has taught us as adults to distrust ourselves & our intuition.
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A child who was treated with respect won’t have to spend their adult life learning they are worthy of so much more.
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It doesn’t feel like a rollercoaster you can’t get off. It feels like home. Like ease. Like two people choosing each other every single day. And until you meet them. Keep choosing you.
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The first step in healing & letting go of attachment for me was connecting with my inner child. I had to visualise that little girl, ask her what I needed & how I felt. Exploring this helped me understand how I was replaying the childhood hurt in my adult self subconsciously.
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Sometimes you’ve just got to let ppl talk to whoever they want, do whatever they want, & let the chips fall where they may. Respect their space. Trust that if they mess up, they’ll have to live with the fact that they’ve lost you, a really good thing.
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Healing begins when you stop waiting for accountability. When they can’t face their mistakes, they’ll twist the narrative to keep their ego safe. And while you’re left replaying the events, trying to understand where it went wrong, they’ve already shifted the blame in their mind.
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May you never be attached to someone who isn’t for you. Someone whose love is rooted in ego, not alignment. The ego doesn’t love, it possesses. It clings, not bc it’s safe, but bc it fears change. The ego will fight to hold onto the very thing that’s breaking you.
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Everytime you say no to the bare minimum, you’re telling your brain, “this isn’t it”. You’re teaching yourself to crave something better. So cry if you need to but don’t settle. Every no you say to what isn’t right is a yes to the love that is waiting for you.
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Sometimes abandonment issues don’t just stem from just an absent parent. Some parents were there physically but emotionally they were not present. For years you may even mourn their emotional death & attempt to resurrect them from partners who are also just as unavailable.
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Please remember real authentic love isn’t a fairytale & will not feel like an emotional rollercoaster. That intense feeling you’re after is constant cycles of emotional addiction, trauma bonding & the excitement that comes from being hot & cold due to fear of abandonment.
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Every time you make a choice to leave something that isn’t good for you especially when you recognise red flags. Your subconscious mind will attempt to pull you back to the familiar by creating a mental resistance.
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You can’t force someone to see their faults, but you can refuse to carry what’s not yours. Let their lessons belong to them. And as you move forward, remind yourself, accountability starts within.
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You choose to grow where others run. You heal where others hide. And bc of that, your life will expand in ways they can’t even imagine.
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Now suddenly you’re left with a space in your life where things used to be. It’s quite. It’s heavy. It’s lonely. Here comes the hard part. the waiting. Bc now you’re watching everyone else live the love you want. It hits hard.
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Saw a quote today that said “It’s not happiness that brings us gratitude but it is gratitude that brings us happiness”.
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I’ve been thinking about the concept of abandonment a lot recently. One thing I’ve learned is that there are no accident in life. Anyone that comes into your life is someone you will learn a lesson from.
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You cry, not bc you aren’t happy for them but bc deep down you’re wondering “when is it my turn?” . But the season of loneliness isn’t punishment. It’s prep. You’re not just learning to live without inconsistent love, you’re rewiring your brain.
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Define your non-negotiables when you start dating. You’ve got to actually think about your values and principles. Literally journal what things you will accept & things you will absolutely NOT accept. Here are some of mine….
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How often do you think about the way you think?. Self sabotaging is one of the main reasons we aren’t living our best life.
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Sometimes growth means spending some time alone, asking yourself the hard questions. Accepting yourself flaws & all. Choosing yourself time & time again. Actually facing your past, allowing yourself to grieve & stepping into the NEW you.
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The reality of the situation may still hurt you. Learning to believe someone who shows you who they really are time & time again is hard. It’s one of the best gifts you can give yourself though. Work on believing & honouring yourself.
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When healing, remember there are going to be times when your patience is going to be tested heavily by your past creeping up or similar situations reliving themselves. As difficult as this may be and you may feel like reacting. Don’t.
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Your manifestations aren’t working because you’re still stuck in the past. Dr Joe Dispenza once said, you’ve got to teach your body emotionally what your future is going to feel like before it’s manifested.
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It’s one of the toughest things to do especially letting go and walking into the unknown. Staying though means you’ll keep experiencing all these things but learning to let go will save you from so much pain. You will find something better ❤️✨.
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I promise, you’re not the things ppl have done to you. That’s the thing about pain, it feels personal, yet it’s rarely ever about you. Ppl’s choices are shaped by their inner battles, wounds, and limitations. Their behaviour’s just a reflection of their reality, not your worth.
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There’s this addiction to toxic relationships that a lot of people have as they continue to associate toxicity with intensity. Many people seem to think a relationship isn’t fun unless it brings up some type of ‘intensity’.
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Stop giving up your power by waiting for people to give you what you deserve. Sometimes we feel the world owes us something but you could end up just waiting a long time. Instead take control, take action & look for what you deserve.
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Some people avoid therapy/coaching etc because they fear confronting the dark truths about themselves. The sooner you acknowledge & embrace these sides the quicker you heal & grow.
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